Is Being A Phone Sex Operator Like Being An Erotica Author?

There are some similarities between phone sex and writing erotica, and some differences too.


How Phone Sex Work Is Like Being An Erotica Author

While you won’t be expected to actually swing from the chandeliers, a phone sex girl may be required to describe it. So, like any good author of erotica, you’ll need to know basic anatomy, how bodies move, how genitalia responds, etc. You will need to keep track of the number of hands and other body parts and what they are doing. For example, you can’t describe one person performing some three-handed act of stroking flesh.

You’ll also need to know how to make a story that moves the emotions, the brain, into arousal. If you aren’t already reading erotica, I suggest you start doing so now. Read it to get hot. Read it to notice how a good story builds the sexual tension into passion, where it prolongs it, when and where it allows for release.

You’ll also need to know details about sex toys. Which one’s vibrate? Which one’s are for anal use? Not only for use in story telling, but you might find yourself being asked to recommend a specific toy. (Here’s where some PSOs find blogs and affiliate programs useful.)

Like an erotica author, a good phone sex operator also knows the details of a number of fetishes. Because there are so many fetishes, I’ll be getting into more of them individually as this phone sex blog continues. But two popular fetishes I don’t think any good PSO can go without understanding are shoes and lingerie; in fact, details about lingerie and shoes can go a long way in assisting in the creation of any good phone sex call.

Most good writers of erotica continually read the erotic stories of others for inspiration; you should too. Because telling an erotic story is different from writing one, I suggest reading Letters To Penthouse. Judgments about the quality of the writing and the lack of realism in scenarios, the stories and scenes in these anthologies continue to be popular. (There’s a reason why even the big box bookstores like Barnes & Noble carry these adult books.)

How Phone Sex Work Is Not Like Being An Erotica Author

As a phone sex operator, you’ll be creating stories on the fly and for an audience of one. As I’ve said before, you’ll continually need to be creating and adapting each story to meet the needs and interests of one specific person.  In some ways, it’s like writing custom erotic stories — only you won’t have the benefit of multiple drafts, editing etc. And sometimes the story is started for you by the caller and your job is to finish it — keeping an eye on making sure it has a “happy ending.”

This can freak out those who come to the business of phone sex from the world of written erotic fiction. But the good news is that since your work is spoken, you aren’t expected to employ perfect grammar and you won’t need to concentrate on finding new euphemisms or count the number of times you use specific words and find alternatives in a thesaurus; in fact, sometimes you may find yourself having to repeat the same words over and over again.

Not just, “Oh, God — oh God, Oh My God!” in the throes of (fake or real) orgasm. But some callers will thrill at the word “cock” and neither you nor he will want you to use “dick” or “throbbing manhood” or “love sword.” And some callers, especially fetishists, will want you describe the same detail over and over again… The squeak of a patent leather pump… The slink of silk lingerie and nylon stockings…

Also, the oral storytelling of a phone sex operator allows you the freedom to do things that written storytellers should not:

* You get to “interrupt” the story with a few questions or comments. “You like that, don’t you, you dirty boy!” “I bet you wish I’d let you do that — but I won’t!”

* You get to discuss more of what the story characters are thinking and feeling. Unlike in written stories where writing too much about such emotions might dilute the impact of a story, you can add heat to phone sex by including such commentary in your calls.

These are ways to check the effectiveness of your story, get feedback on what’s working, and help you and the client connect more during the call. It can seem awfully alone in the silence of him stroking himself — for both of you! After all, if he just wanted to read a story all by himself, he wouldn’t have called you for one; he wants the connection of live entertainment.

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