Summertime & The Phone Sex Is Uneasy…

While phone sex offers a flexible schedule, a smart PSO knows she can make more if she keeps to some sort of work schedule. Like times of day, there are seasonal changes that impact a PSO’s income. This was one of the biggest surprises I discovered as an escort entering the phone sex industry.

There are many differences, of course, between working with clients in the flesh and working with them in the spoken word; but the seasonal impact was huge.

In many ways, phone sex work is less predictable than escorting in terms of planning a schedule. You’d think that because phone sex offers far more extreme spontaneity, less preparatory time, that PSOs would be busier in general; but that’s just not the case. In fact, it often makes things more complicated.

Some holidays and events automatically mean an increase in escort work; men are away from home, and companionship is just another part of the vacation mentality. However, the same is not true in phone sex work.

The primary difference is privacy.

Homes packed with family means it’s nearly impossible to find the privacy required for a phone call. Even big social events, such as conventions and big championship ball games, often mean a man will have a roommate or two getting in the way of his “me” time.

A man traveling, be it back home to visit the family for the holidays or to meet his friends in Vegas, may pop in for a quick (or luxurious) visit with an escort who does in-calls. It even makes sense to pay for an (additional) hotel room for a whole night even if he’s only got an escort for a few hours; but it seems silly to most men to do the same for a phone call, even when such fun requires the same amount of privacy (if not space).

Surprising as it may seem, it is easier to disappear for an hour or more than it is to get 15 minutes alone on the phone. (I bet every mom knows how that works!) And once a man has set a date with his escort, he tends to keep it — he fears the consequences. But phone dates are far more often broken.

Hence, the holidays, big sporting and social events, even summertime often puts a crimp in the PSO’s budget. At least in comparison to the big bucks the holiday seasons and other events meant to escorts. [This is why many escorts live in or travel to big cities; it’s not (just) the larger populations but the larger number of events and travelers.]

Now, if you’re a mom working from home as a PSO, this less clients at holiday times and summer break situation is probably just perfect for you; you won’t be missing too many calls when you spend the time with your families. But for others, it can be financially devastating.

In any case, the summertime and other holiday periods can wreak havoc with phone sex in terms of availability and privacy. This leads to frustration — for both client and service professional. For example, Christmas time: The caller may be under more stress and therefore more in need of his fetish fix. The PSO is, like everyone else, trying to balance her busier schedule and her budget (money coming in with money going out in terms of gifts etc.) and being “laid off” due to low call volume can be painful.

As a general rule, summertime, is less predictable because the graduations, weddings, family reunions, work picnics, barbecues, etc.are not neatly printed on your wall calendar. Not only are you unaware of them, but so many of them means there’s less available private time overall. And, since many of these special events and social gatherings are much more spontaneous, predictability in terms of scheduling your hours and planning on income is unlikely — and appointments will be broken.  This leads to additional stress and frustration, for everyone.


Here are some general tips regarding summer and other high travel times to help PSOs plan and budget:

* Accept that this is largely a part of the business and be understanding of your frustrated clients and their sudden barbecue plans that cancel your phone sex date.

* Save your money for the proverbial rainy days (which are most often sunny days).

* Be flexible, adjusting your hours if you can to accommodate; but don’t be a doormat:

In escorting, there were negative consequences for not keeping an appointment; so I impose similar tactics in my phone sex work.

If a client breaks a call without word and you were on standby, be sure to communicate politely, professionally, and firmly, that you waited, missed other calls and were otherwise negatively impacted by the change in his plans. Suggest that he make it up to you somehow, with a tip, gift, longer call, etc. Don’t be rude or demanding; just let him know that his lack of commitment, however unintentional, had consequences and that he should respect your time and professional service.

If a client repeatedly breaks appointments, you must first ascertain if this is part of his game. A number of callers/hobbiests get off on arranging dates alone. Some even more so at the idea of standing you up. If you suspect he’s wanking off during the arrangements or at the idea of leaving you hanging, if this guy continues to waste your time, don’t let him. Don’t engage with him; ignore him, block him, banish him from your world. (At NiteFlirt I like to make them pay a significant tribute to get back into my good graces before I will communicate with him again. If he’s in earnest, he usually pays and no harm is done to the professional relationship.)

If you’re rather certain that his repeated no-shows are simply due to bad timing and circumstances beyond his control, try to arrange a check-in before the scheduled appointment to see if the coast is still clear. He may have to bail, but at least you know and so you can make other plans — including scheduling another call.

* Reach out to regulars who might be too busy to have contacted you. Acknowledge that they’ve been too trapped in family and work obligations to have any fun! They’ll appreciate that you thought of them — and in terms of their stress and needs.

* Spend more time on the other aspects of your business (marketing, blogging, reading, etc.), building for the future. Even if you don’t have the money coming in to lay out for advertising now, you can research and be ready when you have the money to invest (which is usually when you have too little time to research!)

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