Thoughts On Your Work Day As A PSO

I’m still not used to this consulting thing. I’m proficient at the actual consulting, sharing what I know, helping people find what they need, connecting them to the right people, etc.; but I’m still not used to juggling helping so many people at such different levels of experience all at the same time — and maintaining a blog here. My intentions to get to one subject or another, to do a series of posts on a specific subject, etc., become sidetracked based on questions I’m fielding from clients. Like yesterday’s post on taxes, which was supposed to be a year-end issue. Instead, a few clients had posed the question, in one form or another, and I found writing one post for all to read was a more efficient use of time.

I’m not complaining; a consultant should be so lucky as to have many paying clients (along with her phone sex clients). Nor is this anything new to me. It’s just a variation on the usual workday of a PSO, and so I thought now would be a great time to address another fundamental rule of this job: Your work day is not necessarily the day you had planned.

Even when you have a scheduled appointment — and the client keeps that appointment, you may find the call you have is not the call you planned for. For example, a client who specified a BDSM fantasy call, may have, err “released” his interest in that subject prior to your call, and so the erotic story you had worked out in your head must now sit on the side while you now find yourself in the role of companion-counselor, discussing pragmatic matters regarding the BDSM lifestyle. Or perhaps the 30 minute call you had planned to do turned into a 90 minute call — hooray, more money! But now that hour you had set aside for blogging or marketing has been bumped, resulting in you working longer hours, or sliding the work over to the next day. And then there are the stories you carefully crafted which must be — will be — adjusted along the way based on caller input, leaving you feeling as if you are in the hot seat for instant erotic fantasy creation.

None of those scenarios are horrible, to say the least. But they are common. (Along with dozens more.) And when several of these scenarios happen in the same day, it can make for a frustrating day at work. (Not to mention the crazy work hours you may already keep, just trying to accommodate the schedules of callers.) These are the days when an understanding support system is needed. But if you want to do more than survive this business, if you want to excel and be profitable, you have to prepare yourself for these, and other, frustrating realities of the phone sex business.

You’ve likely heard the expression, “Fail to plan, plan to fail.” Well, for the sake of my own mental health — which greatly assists in being the cheery &/or sultry phone companion I am paid to be, I’ve slightly adopted my outlook.

Plans, as such, can feel a bit to precise; at least in terms of the great flexibility required for this job. So I’ve shifted my thinking from “solid plan” to “good intentions.” Intentions I follow through on, of course. (My mantra is: Intentions are best realized when initiated and delivered  by a professional possessing fluid flexibility, detailed organizational skills, and a positive attitude.)  But viewing my goals and tasks as “the day’s intentions,” feels looser, more forgiving and flexible, than plans I failed to carry out simply because clients rearranged my day for me. 

Maybe it’s all semantics to you; but it helps me greatly everyday. So choose you own words to describe not only how you set your goals, organize your tasks, and remain flexible but those which also provide you a sense of sanity as you work to pursue them. After all, words are the foundations of the phone sex business, so be sure to select those which most assist you in pursuit of your own happy endings.

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