Today’s Phone Sex Tip: Can You Hear Me Now?

No, today’s phone sex tip has nothing to do with Verizon or the use of cell phones or mobile phones at all. Well, at least not specifically.

Because mobile connections are nearly as stable as landline connections — and, in many cases, the former is replacing the latter — most every phone sex platform site now accepts the reality that callers and operators alike are using mobile phones for phone sex. Whatever the telephone connections used, there can (and will) be problems with call clarity.

Whether you are the PSO or the caller, there will be times when you cannot clearly hear your phone sex partner. It could be due to the connection itself, signal interference, background noise, or simply a problem with the placement or way one party is holding their telephone. Most often, it’s that last one which is truly causing the problem.

When we are relaxed or intently focused on something other than how we are holding the phone, we may no longer have the mouthpiece near enough to our lips to provide great service. This is also a problem with long calls when we shift to another comfortable position. Headsets are one solution; though they can move during the action as well. Using the speakerphone option may work, provided you are in a place to do that, there’s no competing background noise, and you can override the inclination to shout-talk.

Whatever the reason for the auditory issues, do not attempt to suffer through a phone sex call without being able to fully hear your phone sex partner. I know most of us are inclined to be polite, or at least have no desire to seem like a nag, repeating “What? What?!” over and over again. But pretending that all is well, that you can hear what is being said, is just idiocy. If you cannot hear your phone sex partner, or something is ruining the ambiance, say so.

Callers, this means you too.

You needn’t be rude, nor overly apologetic. Begin with an “I’m sorry” and try to troubleshoot while stating the problem — and without sounding accusatory

For example, if you think the television or radio is too loud, you could say, “I’m sorry, but are you speaking from a crowded place? I am having difficulty picking out your voice over the others.” If it turns out your partner’s fantasy is sneaking a private sex call in a public place (it’s becoming quite the popular fetish play!), you may just have to make do; but you’ve insulted no one with accusations of a loud TV and/or not paying attention to you.

If you deduce the problem is due to something which can be turned off, turned down, or moved away from (such as a television, air conditioner, barking dog, etc.) you can likely solve the problem quickly.

If that’s not the problem, if there’s an annoying noise or something breaking-up the call, you may need to do more troubleshooting. You could say, “I’m sorry, I can’t hear you… Are you using a cell phone, because I hear a whining noise” or “I’m sorry, I can’t hear you… Are you using a cell phone, because the call goes in and out.” Understanding what could be causing the problem will help both of you address the issue, and may require hanging up, and placing another call once the issue is resolved. (Note: Sometimes this can be a connection issue on the platform’s end, so sometimes just starting the call again will fix things.)

If these things are not to blame for the issue, if you’ve determined that the issue is one of how your phone sex pal is holding the phone based on that “mumbling quality”, you still must address it. You can say something like, “I’m sorry, but I’m having difficulty hearing you… I’ve adjusted my ear piece/phone/volume, and I’m thinking you might have let the mouthpiece fall too far away from your lips…” You may need to continue to remind your partner — or be reminded by your partner during the call. But don’t think of this as being rude. You can turn it into part of the phone sex play. “Oops, you’re drifting away from me again!”  or a “Oh, sorry, I was just getting lost in what you were saying… And I guess my hands strayed!” (This can also be managed in D/s play with orders and punishments!)

Whatever the reason for auditory issues during a phone sex call, keep a hold on your frustration. Remember, you both want this to go well, so speak up and say something!

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