Category Archives: Callers Should Know

Update On NiteFlirt Goodie Bags

Goodie Bags have officially gone into Beta for all Flirts on the phone sex platform. I’m not going to provide a detailed tutorial (NF has provided a decent one of their own), but I will highlight some key things to note.

* Goodie Bags are like payment buttons (aka PTV or PPV messages), except that they are bundles of digital offerings (MP3s, photos, etc.), and they are offered in a more interesting visual format. Once files are uploaded to NF, Flirts can mix and match them to make various bundles or bags.

* While these are bundles of files, the files should not be in zip format because part of the gift of goodies is the convenience for customers to save the files in the “player” (rather than having to download them onto their own computers) and watch them while at NF.

* Goodie Bag files require tags, so that potential buyers can more readily find them while searching.

* All nude or sexually explicit images now must meet 2257 regulations. This is important. NF’s 2257 Compliance Wizard means everyone must acknowledging the 2257 requirement by making use of one of three categories:

1. Your content is not sexually explicit.

2. Your content is sexually explicit and you already have a public address where 2257 records for your content can be inspected.

3. Your content is sexually explicit and you do not have a public address where 2257 records for your content can be inspected.

If your content it not sexually explicit, you toggle that option and move along. If, however, your content is sexually explicit, you will need to provide the appropriate 2257 documentation in one of two ways. With option number two on the list above, you must including the address where the records are kept — and this address will be made public. Or you can use option three on the Compliance Wizard, and use NF’s free, integrated third-party record-keeping service, which requires you to digitally provide the correct documentation; then the NF address will be on display.

* Customers (callers) will not find a “Find Goodies” search until there are a number of items uploaded and properly tagged. NF expects this to take a few weeks. Meanwhile, callers can look for the “Goodies” tab on individual Flirt profiles and listings.

Announcing A True Phone Sex Review Site

Remember how we discussed the problem of finding quality, honest, phone sex review sites? Well, I think I’ve solved the problem.

A few months ago, a phone sex caller named Tom used my referral service to find some more phone sex operators — and when I say “more”, I mean that this man was already an avid user of phone sex services. He, in fact, considers himself addicted to phone sex. With over 500 flirts in his favorites list at NiteFlirt, Tom’s probably not kidding. Once I learned of the great numbers of phone sex calls he’s made (and continues to make), I quickly dubbed him “Tom Cat”.*wink*  And it seemed to me that Tom Cat would be a pretty darn good candidate for reviewing phone sex girls, right? He agreed and we launched Tom Cat’s Phone Sex Reviews last month.

tom-cat's-pso-reviewsTom Cat’s Phone Sex Reviews is not a phone sex directory or topsite, where placement or “ranking” is based on how much a PSO pays or how many “hits” a PSO sends to the site. It is not a bunch of spammy listings or fake reviews. It is a real review site where each and every phone sex operator listed has actually been reviewed by an experienced phone sex caller.

There’s no “pay to play” schemes, no cheating to get to the top of the list or to get better ratings, no spam or scams for PSOs or callers. While I will be using some affiliate links (primarily for additional information on trends, popularity, and client interests), this review site isn’t about money; it’s all about the phone sex & the phone sex girls. It’s all about callers being able to find quality phone sex operators — and it’s a chance for quality PSOs to get some recognition without having to pay for it.

I plan on doing additional posts about how to make the most of this review site, but for now I just wanted to officially announce the launch of this resource. And, yes, that means the site is open both for requests from PSOs to be reviewed and for phone sex callers to submit their own “guest reviews”. For more information on how the review process works for phone sex callers who wish to submit their own reviews, and to submit your reviews, go here. For more information on how the review process works for phone sex operators, and to request a review, go here.

Overall, I hope this new phone sex review site helps to improve the phone sex industry for everyone. If you spot any errors, have any comments or thoughts to share on the new review site, please use this form here.

“Goody Bags” At NiteFlirt

NiteFlirt (NF) has just launched a beta version of “Goody Bags”, a better means to show-off pay-to-view items (also called pay-per-views or PPVs). Not unlike the old (and now defunct) My Flirt Store, the “Goody Bags” are like store pages in which all the pay-to-view items, such as photos, videos, MP3 recordings, erotic stories, etc. are displayed on individual flirt pages for callers/clients to see.

Since this is feature is in beta, only a limited number of flirts were selected for the program. That means not all phone sex operators at NiteFlirt have the option to use them; and some flirts in the program clearly have not tried the new feature as their pages show no items. But NF has stated that in the next few weeks the “Goody Bags” feature will open site wide, be searchable, and be included in the NF affiliate program. As this feature expands, I will expand information about it. For now, I just wanted to show you what it looks like and how to find them.

[Note: I’ve used screenshots from Kiwi Candy because she deserves a little extra exposure for running the free advertising site for flirts. You may click on the images for a larger screen-grab image.]

How do you know if a flirt has “Goody Bags”? Once at a flirt’s profile page, you will see a new “Goodies” tab. It will be between the “Profile” and “Live Phone Sex” tabs. If there’s no “Goodies” tab, the flirt is not involved in the beta program.

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What will you see on the “Goodies” pages? Once you click the “Goodies” tab, you will see a page full of pay per view listings, complete with thumbnail image, title, and the familiar “Buy Now” button.

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If you’d like to find out more about a specific item in the “Goody Bag”, click on the “Details” link for, well, more details about the item for sale.

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Along with more detailed information being shown to you, there is a “thumbs up or thumbs down” rating system, with a counter and the ability to see/read reviews of this individual pay per view item. However, please note that at this time, some of the ratings there may not be fair as this rating system was also used by those in the beta program to draw attention to issues with the “Goody Bag” system itself.

Again, I will present more information about this new NF feature once it is out of beta.

It’s Here! MPS Paid Dirty Chat!

As many of you know, I have been soooo looking forward to My Phone Site aka MPS delivering on their promise of a paid chat or instant messaging feature for phone sex operators. (Chat has always been incredibly popular with many of my regular phone sex clients and I’ve been dying for a phone sex platform site to start this very thing!) Well, the new pay to chat feature debuted at MPS this weekend. The system was checked for bugs and has now officially launched!

Among the awesome features:

Feature: The ability to charge for your time in chat. This is done by setting chat “locks”. Setting a lock involves toggling a lock icon, setting a dollar amount, typing a note regarding what the lock is for (it can be as simple as “Chat Lock Fee” or “Please pay to chat with me”), and clicking the “lock chat” button.

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Once this lock is set, the client cannot chat with you until the lock fee is paid. The MPS system keeps the chat lock request alive for 30 minutes, giving the client plenty of time to make up their mind and make their payment (but that means you must keep your chat window open in order not to miss the locked chat payment and begin messaging.)

Bonus: You are allowed to lock your chats, i.e make clients pay, as often as you’d like. (Financial domination, anyone?)

Feature: The ability to make money by receiving customer “gifts.” Like many social network sites which allow members to send one another little icon gifts, MPS chat allows clients to send you a little digital something — and, if the gift costs the client money, you get it!

Below are screenshots of what the clients see. In the first one, the red arrow points to the send gift button. Next, when the send gift button is clicked, a list of choices pops up. Then, when a gift is selected, clients see what (if anything) it costs to send and has the opportunity to send a note with the gift before committing to sending the gift.

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gifts for chat

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Feature: The ability to temporarily block users. You have the ability to block MPS users for 30 minutes. This is especially handy if you have the same bozo relentlessly bothering you.

How It Works For Chat Operators:

Turning on chat is easy. Just login into your MPS website owner control panel and click the “open chat window” in the upper right hand corner. (“Open chat window” is in yellow, so you can’t miss it.)

A window will pop up, allowing you to activate chat by clicking “set online”. Shown here are both my Phone Sex Secrets listings; one for consults, the other for sex chat. You can also activate and deactivate all operators using the “action” drop-down option at the very top right.

mps pso chat window

Once you have logged into chat, you must keep that window open in order to receive, accept, lock, chat requests. (You needn’t keep the window visible, on top of all other windows and/or tabs, at all times — there is an audio alert to let you know you have a chat request.)

Your operator’s chat status, “offline” or “click to chat” buttons, will show under your operator’s image just like the “call” or “send message” buttons do — including in the MPS directory.

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Complete details are in this MPS video. (Running time approximately 5 minutes.)

MyPhoneSite.com Chat Video from Mps Sevices on Vimeo.

How It Works For Clients:

Simply click the “click to chat” button and your request will be sent. (If you do not have an MPS account, you will need to follow the prompts to set one up.)

This chat feature means more fun for everyone!

This is the greatest thing since sliced bread. *wink*

And MPS notes that more features are still to come:

This is version 1.0 and we will continue to upgrade the system as we move forward. Version 1.1 will include chat button code, a batch chat percentage feature (to change operator’s percentage by bulk), and a chat buddy list.

So stay tuned!

Safety First: Gifts & Wishlists For PSOs

It’s that time of year again, when naughty phone sex callers want to send good little phone sex operators gifts. But there are some things both should know.

First of all, gifts are just that — gifts. They are given freely, with no expectations in return; and they are not taxable income.

Secondly, gifts should be as safe to send as they are to receive. To that end, I must provide an update to ye olde holiday gift-giving post by mentioning a few things about safety issues using Amazon Wishlists.

While sending Amazon gift cards via email is still safe, using the Amazon Wishlist service is not. This is because when you place an item on your wishlist, the gift giver may not be purchasing the item directly from Amazon, but rather via a third-party — and that third-party may provide your personal information, including your real name and address, to the gift-giver. Sometimes they do so by offering the tracking option to purchasers. Other times it is not done so directly, but the information is part of any billing or customer service issues. Should you, the gift receiver, need to make any exchanges or otherwise contact the company who sent the gift, the gift-giver’s information may also be exposed. And, to be clear, there is no way you can avoid such things. For even if you opt to not provide a shipping address in your wishlist profile, you will need to provide one at some point in order to get your gift — and once you do, that third-party situation is activated.

It is wiser, and safer for all, for PSOs to use wishlist services which are kept completely private. Many stores offer them now, so they are not difficult to find; however, be sure to read their terms of service to be certain that both sender and giver are kept anonymous, their information kept private.

When it comes to adult items, such as sex toys and lingerie, you also want someone who has discreet shipping. One of the companies I have used for years, including the wishlist service, is Sexclectic. Not only is it the world’s largest adult products store, but it has the best prices, the most reliable, private, and secure online shopping services, and so-discreet-as-to-be-boring packaging. And, yes, it is free to use; there are no extra fees for the privacy.

It’s also easy; here’s how:

1) Go here to create your wishlist.

2) Once you’ve created your list, you will be directed to your account profile page where you fill out your shipping info as well as upload a photo & a message — including a link to your website. (See mine as an example; buying me a gift is optional lol)

3) Share the link to your wishlist. [You can also share these coupon codes with your clients so they can save when they buy your gifts: code PHONESEXSECRETS saves 20% Off (No Order Minimum), and code PSSTOYS gets you $10 Off ($50.00 Order Minimum).]

4) You can login to your wishlist at any time to add items, update shipping info, etc.

Goodbye, TalkSugar (Did Bitcoins Bite Them In The Ass?)

Can it really be months since I’ve posted here? Ah, well, time flies when you are creating and moving 23 PSO websites from Blogger to self-hosted WordPress sites. (Among other things!)

As you may have heard, on November 16, 2013, Canadian phone sex platform TalkSugar announced it will be closing:

Dear valued SugarHosts,

It is with great regret that we have decided to shut our doors. It’s been a great 9 years!

Unfortunately, we have lost all of our remaining merchant processing and are in a dispute with our providing banks to unfreeze our U.S. dollar reserves.

Luckily, we have Bitcoin reserves that remain unfrozen and are able to pay all of our valued hosts with them.

To receive immediate payment, please proceed to the “My info” page and change your payment method to “Bitcoin”. Do this as soon as humanly possible please.

The Bitcoin instructions are here.

We are aiming to do a clean shutdown as quickly as possible while our lawyers figure out how to clean up the mess with our banks. I’m sure some of you understand how hard it is to process credit cards in the adult industry, and know our pain first hand.

We appreciate your business and your understanding with this matter.

– TalkSugar Staff

Translation: PSOs at TalkSugar will be only be paid in Bitcoins, presumably while they last. Those who do get paid in Bitcoins may not like the amounts they see either, because the value of Bitcoins is as stable as stock prices. Many are, in fact, speculating that it was the Bitcoins themselves which damaged TalkSugar’s business.

TalkSugar also has an affiliate program, PimpDollar. And while they did not notify affiliates (something one only discovers by logging into their account), affiliates too must now accept payment in Bitcoins. And it is recommended that one do that as soon as possible.

The official close date for TalkSugar has been stated as December 31, 2013; presumably to allow clients to use up the funds in their accounts (because they are not getting refunds with the frozen financial assets thing).

As a result of all of this, I have removed links to TalkSugar from the sidebar, etc.

For those who are interested, here are just some of the recent news about and opinions regarding the confusing world of Bitcoins:

* Bitcoin stock exchange BitFunder announces closure

* More bitcoins, more problems: How hackers are targeting bitcoins

* Bitcoins seized in Silk Road raid

* A Bitcoin Insider On Crime, Congress And Satoshi Nakamoto

* Bitcoin Is the Segway of Currency

* Bitcoin beginning to go mainstream

* The Critics Say Bitcoin is Doomed — Here’s What They’re Missing

* Bitcoin Shakedown: We ALL can learn from adult businesses in Brand Monitoring

And the more useful 12 questions about Bitcoin you were too embarrassed to ask.

 

NiteFlirt Policy Changes (Or, Where Is My Favorite Phone Sex Operator At NiteFlirt?)

On the morning of 08-14-2013, NiteFlirt‘s Erin” posted the following in the NF Forum:

We regret that we will no longer support StatCounter on Flirt Profiles, listings, and NF Mail, and it will now be a violation of our policies to use StatCounters.

On several occasions, Flirts have obtained information about their customers from StatCounter and have used this information to threaten and scare these customers. Protecting the privacy of all of our members is a top priority and we can not permit this activity to continue. Therefore, StatCounter and similar services are no longer allowed on Flirt Profiles, listings, or within NF Mail.

As stated in Play Fair Baiscis, “Flirts are not permitted to gain access to or use other people’s sensitive personal information, even if the member requests it.” If you engage in this type of activity you risk the termination of your NiteFlirt account.

If you have StatCounter or the like on your Flirt Profile and/or listing(s), please remove it immediately. If you do not remove StatCounter by Monday, August 19, your listings will be marked as Not Accepted/Needs Editing until it is removed. If you have StateCounter or the like in a mail button, it must also be removed by Monday, August 19 or we will be forced to delete the button.

Unfortunately, this important announcement about a policy change was not sent to Flirts directly (which is ridiculous because you have to enter an email address to join the site), nor was it listed in the new “yellow announcement” area at the site when you logged in. This resulted in hundreds, if not thousands, of Flirts not being aware of the policy change and thus having their listings (lines) pulled from the site.

In this case, “pulled from the site” means all such listings formerly accepted and now considered in violation of the new policy were given the “red thumbs down” and labeled “need editing”.

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Customers who came in via a direct link to a specific listing could still find and call that specific listing; but otherwise, the listings were hidden from the site. This included listings not being shown on the Flirt’s profile page, not being found in website categories, search, etc. This also meant that Flirts were not available in the phone directory; so, unless the caller had the listing’s direct extension number saved somewhere, no calls could be placed. As a result, it was a blackout for many callers.

For many Flirts, it was a bunch of work to edit their profile as well as each individual listing (or work with whoever designed their listings) to remove the non-compliant code. Once edited, the listings were placed in queue for NF staff to review, which means waiting for re-acceptance of each listing in order to have them made available (and visible) to callers again. As a result, PSOs saw a loss of earnings and, if they had to pay designers for help, they had out of pocket costs as well.

Again, because this announcement was not really announced, many Flirts are still in the process of discovering their listings are in violation of a new policy.

All of this results in frustration for callers and phone sex operators alike. (After all of this, how much fun do you think frustrated callers and frustrated Flirts had when they actually connected?) And the worst part is, it could have been avoided. Or at least most of it could have been avoided. All NF had to do was email the announcement regarding the policy change to Flirts.

Not directly communicating with Flirts is one of the many problems NF has yet to get right. Disregard for just who makes them money sets NF further back monetarily — which keeps the site, presumably, from being able to fix all the other glitches and issues. That, in turn, negatively impacts both the reputation of the phone sex platform site and loyalty to it.

No one is debating whether or not NF has the right to make such changes; whether the claims of privacy violations are true or not, NF has the right to make changes on its platform and policies at anytime. What the issue here is that Flirts — a vital part of the business — were, yet again, not communicated with about the policy.

I doubt NF will take heed, however, so here’s the bottom line for PSOs and callers alike:

PSOs, check the forums as often as you can for whatever info NF does decide to share.

Callers, keep track of your favorite phone sex operators. Make notes on their extensions, take screenshots of their listings, and, whenever possible, get their email addresses (yes, even if you have to pay for them) so that you can have direct contact in troubled times.

No Rest For The Wicked: Blogger/Blogspot Censorship

While I was enjoying my vacation…

As you may well know by this time, Google, owner of Blogger/Blogspot, has upped the ante in their dislike prosecution of adult bloggers by changing their adult content policy. Which means if your site or one of your favorite sites has been replaced with a Google 404 error saying, “The requested URL / was not found on this server. That’s all we know.” — well, that’s a lie.

While Phone Sex Secrets has not received any such notifications (nor it is labeled “adult”), in anticipation of worse to come, this blog will be moving. (Something will be here to redirect you, so no worries — I hope! Since I own the domain name PhoneSexSecrets.Info, all ought to go well.) But the tide has turned and I’d rather move now. So should you. While the gettin’s good, as they say.

If you’re using Blogger and are thinking of moving to WordPress.com — don’t. Apparently the wrath there has been even worse than the current state of Blogger. (See also: Phone Sex Operators & Tumblr.)

Now is the time to host your own blog; get your own servers, if you can, or at least know who you are dealing with.

Here are some helpful links (and more info in general on the situation):

Google’s Blogger to delete all ‘adult’ blogs with ads in three days

(Which, as it turns out, wasn’t quite the “all” after all.)

Blogger is leaving adult bloggers out in the cold; what now?

How to Migrate your Blog from Blogger to WordPress

I personally found this the most concise article with directions for switching from Blogger to a self-hosted WordPress blog.

Good luck — and email me if you need help with hosting or moving your blog. I am available, at a price. ;)

Phone Sex Operators & Tumblr

I’ll be spending much of this long holiday weekend working on something special (hint: it involves new promotional options for phone sex operators!), but I had to share this excellent post about “the whole Tumblr thing”.

In Tumblr Panic, Gracie covers the news of the Yahoo buy-out and what it means for phone sex operators, adult bloggers — and their fans.

MPS Network Compliance Reviews (Or, Where Is My Favorite Phone Sex Operator At MyPhoneSite?)

If you’re an MPS user, phone sex operator or caller, you may have noticed that some sites have appeared to be down or without operator listings while the phone sex platform site has been performing a complete network-wide review. This compliance review, targeting both quality control issues as well as merchant regulations, was done April 3rd and 4th — however some operator listings may still be missing.

Phone sex operators with sites or listings which are deemed non-complaint will be contacted about the specific changes needed to become active again, but it is a large project so notices are in progress.

And accounts and PSO listings which are still temporarily inactive are not necessarily non-compliant.

If your MPS site or operator listings are missing, you should contact MPS to find out why. (In my case, the categories were mysteriously missing and I had to reset them.) As always, communication with MPS support was quick and efficient. If you notice anything missing, or any wobbles as a result of this maintenance, just contact them!

Also, to clarify about the merchant “taboo” regulations, MPS maintains it’s true “no taboo” status. Consenting adults are not limited in their phone conversations. However, there are specific limitations in what can appear on the MPS site, including adult phone sex listings. I have clarified that you can both allude to these subjects and are allowed to reference these subjects, including use of the banned words, outside of the MPS network on your own websites and blogs (provided your hosting company has no issues with these topics).