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Why Your MPS Account May Suddently Not Be Active Today

Phone sex platform site My Phone Site (MPS) is at it again. And, whatever you think of their communication skills, this latest action is sure to negatively impact your phone sex &/or cam business.

At 11:18 PM (Central Time), I received a “System Feature Update” email from MPS. It was an announcement regarding performer images as they relate to 2257 compliance — which would result, for those not in compliance, in operator profiles being rest to a pause or pending status, i.e. accounts being inactive, on Thursday, March 10, 2016 Noon PST.

MPS 2257 email notice

Yes, they gave operators roughly 12 hours to comply — and, for many PSOs, eight of those 12 hours are spent sleeping.

But that’s not the worst part.

MPS 2257 emailThe email included, supposedly, additional detailed information — most of it unable to be read. (See screenshot of full email at left.)

I presume this was an issue with cut & pasting text full of characters that were not properly encoded (unicode). Whatever the reason, within a minute of receiving the email I replied to MPS stating the issue with merely reading the email. Two hours passed…

While I waited, I tried to decipher the text I could read.

I certainly believe MPS should comply with the law. And I admit I’m no legal expert. (Legal requirements here.) But some of what MPS is requiring seems unnecessary, especially in terms of profile images.

Many sites consider themselves to be a technology service, exempting them from many 2257 issues. And while the sale of photos and videos would likely need such 2257 documentation, profile images (especially as they are not allowed to be nude or explicit) are free from such things.

But then, there’s this confusing line:

The use of custodian content will not be allowed as these do not include the 2257 required documents and even if the content site you purchased them from has these documents, the company needs to have them on file.

I’m not sure if “custodian content” means purchased content… But legally purchased adult content sold for such use absolutely does come with proper 2257 documentation. But, apparently, MPS does not allow you to use such model content as they offer no place to upload it; they only offer a place to download forms for you to use if you are the person in the photos.

And then there’s this:

Each profile MUST have a real person depicted in the photo and show the entire face of the model. No faces cropped, or animated/cartoon pictures or photos with just words

Obviously, this removes me from using MPS. (And don’t think I have not considered this to be their way to rid themselves of me.) But beyond the personal concerns, it is clear that MPS is making huge changes based on more than 2257 concerns. Even if this is all terribly difficult to read, one can read between the (terribly garbled) lines and see that MPS is trying to make all operators use their own photos.

In any case, those of you who are using your own photos — and showing your faces, you now have 10 hours to get MPS your info (even if they don’t state where to send it) and hope they verify the documentation within that window as well — or you account(s) will not be active.

Actually, in rereading the email, it seems that all accounts will be set to pending on Thursday, March 10, 2016 Noon PST. And then the review process will begin. This from a company that admits it is understaffed. So, good luck.

UPDATE: Two and a half hours later, right after I published this (of course!), MPS resent the emailed announcement. This one was legible. Here’s the text:

Phone sex secrets

This email is regarding the Federal Law 18 U.S.C. Section 2257 which imposes name and age verification, recordkeeping and labeling requirements for all pictures shown on adult oriented websites.

Therefore, we are required by law to have these documents on file. A photo ID and signed model release will need to be uploaded for each character profile you have on any of our systems. If you are using your own photos, please click http://myphonesite.com/2257modelrelease.pdf to download a model release for your use.

The most effective way to ensure all active profiles are 2257 compliant will be to set the entire system of operator profiles to a pause/pending status on Thursday, March 10, 2016 Noon PST.

Our support team will then review each profile that has submitted the required documents and, if we feel these items match the model being used, the profile will then immediately be set to an active status.

Please note the following items below:

The use of custodian content will not be allowed as these do not include the 2257 required documents and even if the content site you purchased them from has these documents, the company needs to have them on file.

Each profile MUST have a real person depicted in the photo and show the entire face of the model. No faces cropped, or animated/cartoon pictures or photos with just words

There is to be NO nudity or explicit acts shown anywhere on the system. We recommend using a headshot of the model and save the nudity for store items.

The documents you upload MUST also match the following and be free of nudity: free photo galleries, paid store items, embedded images in the about me section, blog and news posts, website banners, etc. Please also do not use excessive gaudy cover-ups as they will not be approved.

If we feel the photo ID does not match the above items, the profile will not be set to active.

Each profile has a REAL NAME section at the top that is NOT visible to the public. Please make sure that the REAL legal first and last name of the provider who takes calls for that character is in this box and that they have a verified MPS bank account that matches this name.

MPS Bank – Every person who takes calls on MyPhoneSite MUST have a verified MPS bank account. We do not allow website owners to pay their providers outside of our system. If you are found to be circumventing the system, you will be terminated immediately.

These rules and the 2257 documents will be required for all profiles listed on the following websites:

MyPhoneSite.com
PhoneMoreSex.com
PhoneSexBook.com + Website Owner White Label Sites

We apologize for any inconvenience.

If you have any questions, please let us know.

Support
myphonesite.com

I did reply, asking where we were to send our 2257 documentation.

And then, 20 minute later, I sent another email, asking when we could expect accounts to be made active again, etc.

No, I won’t be holding my breath for any reply.

I hope that those of you who find yourselves suddenly laid-off in this latest MPS move aren’t going to suffer too much.

(Another) UPDATE: An hour after that, Samantha from MPS responded to some of my questions.

  1. You are allowed to use purchased model content, so long as you have the proper 2257 documentation.
  2.  You upload the information in your operator profile page, where you upload your profile image. See image:

screencapture-myphonesite-mps-profile-add-2257-doc

Also, regarding how long this should all take:

Once you upload your documents, we will review the provider accounts that have after the system goes to pause at noon pst. We will be working around the clock to review everything, so it should be less then a few hours for your account to be inactive.

But still no word on what to do if you, as I do, use a logo or non-photo image. (And I specifically mentioned that I do not sell any such images.) I will update if/when I hear anything more.

(Oh, how late I stay up just to help you!)

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Don’t Give Into Stupid Demands

Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose first!

Every few months or so I get emails from consult clients about whether or not they should accept PayPal for calls or other services. So when Emma Evans posted this tweet, I was reminded that I should make a post about this I can send folks to as a reference.

As Evans states, making such moves puts you at risk of being booted from the platform site(s) you use. I’m not joking. Even mentioning at NiteFlirt, for example, other platform sites you use can get you banned for going against Terms Of Service (TOS). So even if your client, however softly, threatens that you’ll lose them if you don’t accommodate their request, you have to ask yourself if being blacklisted at the platform you work at is worth the discussion.

Aside from this practicality, there are other issues.

Even if the offer comes to you via another source, say direct email, contact off your website, Twitter, etc., there’s just no reason to take payments for services outside the phone sex platform site. (This includes clips sites, cam sites, etc.)

One of the number one “requested payment option” sites is PayPal. This should never, ever, be considered. It’s not safe (for either party) as A) no adult services or products are allowed to be sold there, B) personal info is shared, and C) PayPal is not a bank, so they can – and do – freeze accounts and pull funds. (Even if there is, as I tweeted, a class-action lawsuit settlement offering some compensation for those who have suffered through this, it is not commensurate with what all can be lost.) Much of this is true for other online payment processing options. Here I refer you to Sex Work Helpfuls who does a good job of staying up to date on payment options. (See also.)

However, there is much more to consider.

From an ethical and legal point of view, none of these options provides the protection that you are working with a legal adult. It is not worth risking all the potential woes of talking about mature subject matter with minors. Part of what your fees at the platform sites cover is making sure callers and clients are of legal age to participate in such things. Leave those platforms, and you risk much more than your banking problems.

Last, but certainly not least, why would you consider switching platforms? What is the upside, really?

Oh, sure, some of the clients suggesting other options will kindly tell you how they are thinking of you — how you won’t be “giving away” such a large percentage of your money via platform fees. But then these same callers will begin to suggest or even demand that you lower rates because of that. They did you a favor; now do them one. And then they have a million other requests or demands…

Once you acquiesce to one request or demand, how can you stand firm on the next?

Clients who whine, bully, and threaten are not worth keeping. There is always the next boundary they wish to pass.

It doesn’t matter if the client’s request or demand is against TOS or your own personal boundaries, you have the right to refuse. Breaking the rules includes breaking your own rules.

How do you best handle clients who wish to break the rules? Femdommes often have it easier, of course, as they can simply order subs to stop. But here are the five steps I employ with renegade clients:

1) Redirect. Like small children, many clients can easily be brought back to the proper path of behavior with a simple redirect. With toddlers you can jangle a ring of keys or swing a shiny or bright toy; with callers, verbally dangle your breasts, mention their fetish, etc.

2) Gently remind. A simple, but firm, “That’s not allowed!” or “Oh, I don’t think so!” combined with a giggle often works wonders. Then feel free to resume the story or conversation as it was before the inappropriate interruption.

3) Remind more strongly. Firmly state, “No, I’m not going to do that.” Pushier clients may need a, “We’ve discussed that before, and that’s not an option.” If you’d like, think of this as a courtroom scene and you’re the lawyer saying, “Asked and answered. We’re moving on.” Once the message has been received, resume play.

4) Put your foot down. Firmly state that their request is making you uncomfortable — and that if they persist you will be ending the call or communication.  If/when they accept the rules, get back on track with a, “Now, where were we…”

5) Protect yourself. Hang up, block, and even report the caller as you deem appropriate.

If there’s one thing you can count on in phone sex (or any sex work, for that matter) is that sooner or later you’re going to run into clients who want to get discounted or free services, or otherwise push your limits. It’s rather a small percentage of clients; but the longer you are in business, the more likely you are to run into these guys. Know your own boundaries. Firmly set them. And don’t let anyone push past them.

Coupon Codes For Wish List Shopping For PSOs, CamGirls, Etc.

Just a reminder about wishlist safety — for both clients and providers.

Also, if you shop at Sexclectic, for anyone at all this holiday season, I have exclusive codes you can use to save money:

* Enter code PHONESEXSECRETS and save 20% on any order.

* Enter code PSSTOYS and get $10 off any order of $50 or more.

Update On NiteFlirt Goodie Bags

Goodie Bags have officially gone into Beta for all Flirts on the phone sex platform. I’m not going to provide a detailed tutorial (NF has provided a decent one of their own), but I will highlight some key things to note.

* Goodie Bags are like payment buttons (aka PTV or PPV messages), except that they are bundles of digital offerings (MP3s, photos, etc.), and they are offered in a more interesting visual format. Once files are uploaded to NF, Flirts can mix and match them to make various bundles or bags.

* While these are bundles of files, the files should not be in zip format because part of the gift of goodies is the convenience for customers to save the files in the “player” (rather than having to download them onto their own computers) and watch them while at NF.

* Goodie Bag files require tags, so that potential buyers can more readily find them while searching.

* All nude or sexually explicit images now must meet 2257 regulations. This is important. NF’s 2257 Compliance Wizard means everyone must acknowledging the 2257 requirement by making use of one of three categories:

1. Your content is not sexually explicit.

2. Your content is sexually explicit and you already have a public address where 2257 records for your content can be inspected.

3. Your content is sexually explicit and you do not have a public address where 2257 records for your content can be inspected.

If your content it not sexually explicit, you toggle that option and move along. If, however, your content is sexually explicit, you will need to provide the appropriate 2257 documentation in one of two ways. With option number two on the list above, you must including the address where the records are kept — and this address will be made public. Or you can use option three on the Compliance Wizard, and use NF’s free, integrated third-party record-keeping service, which requires you to digitally provide the correct documentation; then the NF address will be on display.

* Customers (callers) will not find a “Find Goodies” search until there are a number of items uploaded and properly tagged. NF expects this to take a few weeks. Meanwhile, callers can look for the “Goodies” tab on individual Flirt profiles and listings.

Today’s Phone Safety Sex Tip: Improper Use Of Photos & Files

We’ve discussed images and PSO safety before, purchased content or not, but some recent events have prompted me to mention them again.

Several times in the past few weeks, a specific issue been brought to my attention by several individual phone sex callers who have noted that the file name of the photo a phone sex operator provided was did not have the same name as the phone sex operator. This was noted both in promotional photos used in PSO profiles and listings as well as in photos they purchased from PSOs. This can happen “honestly” when a PSO uses her own photos and forgets to rename the files with her PSO character name, or when she purchases legal content and doesn’t properly rename the files with her PSO character name. It can also happen in a similar fashion when a PSO dishonestly, illegally, takes images from the web. And it can happen with other files, such as word documents, audio and video files etc. used in pay to view items. In all cases, however, such a little thing as a misnamed file can damage the veil of fantasy.

Not taking the time to properly name a file is a little thing, but it can do a lot of damage. Not only to callers’ fantasies, but in terms of your marketing too. Improperly named files present a marketing leak . An image with the wrong name may mean a caller might forget your real name and not be able to find you. Images associated with with the wrong name shared in forums etc., may prevent potential callers from finding you too. But the worst problem is that of your own safety. Folks can try to use the file name to find find out where the file came from and find the real you.

So take the time to review your file names and, if necessary, rename them and replace/re-upload them.

On a related note, I’ve just released my latest pay to view item to help phone sex operators regarding the dangers lurking in digital files. Flirts, you can purchase it on NiteFlirt here; MPS girls, get it here. It would be wise, and most efficient, to know this before you go about editing and/or renaming those photographs.

Major Security Issue At NiteFlirt

Phone sex platform NiteFlirt (NF) continues to be plagued by problems ever since the switch in 2009, but this latest problem is horrific.

For at least a decade, NF was reliable for its safe double-blind connections. Double-blind calls work one of two ways:

1) A caller dials into the service using 1-800-TO-FLIRT and select his PSO, whereupon the NF system would act as an intermediary, shielding his telephone number, and attempt to reach the PSO, shielding her telephone number. If/when the PSO answered her telephone and accepted the call by pressing “1” on her telephone keypad, the call would then be connected, with neither party knowing the other’s telephone number or other information.

2) A caller would select his PSO from the online listings and click the “Call Now” button, whereupon the NF system would dial the telephone number selected in the caller’s account. If/when the caller answered his telephone and accepted the call by pressing “1” on his telephone keypad, NF would (again acting as an intermediary shielding both telephone numbers) attempt to reach the PSO, who would also need to accept the call by pressing “1”.

In both cases, the phone sex operator needs to press “1” in order for the caller to be connected to her telephone line. The caller would not be connected (or billed) unless the PSO answered the call from NF and accepted the call by pressing “1” on her telephone; no answer, no pressing of “1”, and the caller would not be connected to the PSOs telephone line. Even if the PSO’s telephone had voicemail which picked-up the call from NF, the call would not, could not, be connected as “1” was not pressed in acceptance.

However, there is now some sort of a “glitch” which is actually connecting calls without receipt of the “1” prompt which is the acceptance of the call — and this so-called glitch is now connecting calls and sending callers straight to PSO voicemail, resulting in callers hearing the outgoing messages from PSOs (which includes names &/or phone numbers!) and being able to leave messages!

This is a huge security breech.

It is compounded by the fact that NF has, since the transition a few years ago, had other odd glitches which have randomly changed PSO availability settings to “Yes, Taking Calls” meaning that many PSOs are being called when they are not working and, for those using cell or mobile phones especially, this literally means turning their phones off — which, in fact, activates voicemail services. Yikes!

If you must continue to use NF for your phone sex business or adult entertainment services, you will likely want to cease use of voicemail features on the phone you are using for NF connections. As most of us use cellphones now, it is important to note that you cannot turn off the voicemail feature on your own; you will need to contact your mobile phone service provider and have them disable your voice mail service for you. The same is true for those with cable phones, etc.

Yup, this is going to be a huge pain in the ass.

If this is happening to PSOs, is there the possibility of something similar happening with caller accounts as well? I have no access to that sort of technical information to really know. I do know that callers are connected first, so it would seem unlikely that the situation could happen in reverse, in which a PSO could reach a caller’s voicemail. But I’ve heard callers are getting recordings of attempted connections from NF on their voicemails too — which doesn’t thrill those who use company, family, or other shared telephone lines. Plus, who knows where this “glitch” is? Err on the side of caution.

While NF has officially remained silent on this issue, some folks have suggested going back to using landlines with actual answering machines. We should not have to do this; one of NF’s promises is the safety of privacy. But this is not a drill, people, so do what you have to do to stay safe!

About The Verified Call Platform: The Exclusive Interview With Kurt Vogner

Kurt Vogner, a former vice president at Match.com and an early contributor at SFGate.com, launched VerifiedCall.com last spring. After reading about Verified Call — and watching to see about its survival, yours truly set out to get the interview…

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Hello Kurt, and thanks for making the time for the interview. Introduce us to Verified Call, please.

Verified Call is a platform that allows consulting professionals from lawyers to therapists as well as celebrities, entertainers and performers to speak to customers and fans via a secure phone connection. Verified Call is easy to set up, safe to use, completely secure, and profitable from the very first call. Each person that uses the platform is given their own unique profile page in addition to the ability to integrate Verified Call’s technology within their own websites.

Verified Call is headquartered in San Francisco, California. Over the course of 2012, Verified Call has added over 400 new accounts with new account holders being added daily. The full rosters of the agencies Foxxx Modeling, OC Modeling, LA Direct and hundreds of individuals have accounts with Verified Call.

I’ve read about VerifiedCall on sites like XBIZ and AVN and so I gather adult conversation is allowed; but is this a phone sex site?

Verified Call is not a phone sex site. It actually isn’t a “site” at all as it is not an online destination. You’ll notice from visiting the site that there is no listing of account holders nor any search function to see who uses the service.

Verified Call is more similar to an online service like PayPal. We create the ability for individuals to allow fans to connect, compensate and call. In the same way that PayPal provides online retailers to offer a payment option for its shoppers, we allow individual sites, agency and pay sites, etc. the ability to provide voice interaction between account holder and customer.

For those who do not have a full site to promote their account, we provide a customized and personalized short code for them to distribute through social media to their fans.

Just to clarify, however, phone sex is allowed at Verified Call, correct?

We do not restrict the conversations that our account holders have. We have lawyers, therapists, adult performers who all use the platform. What they talk about with their clients and customers is entirely up to them.

Does a person need to be “famous” in order to use Verified Call?

No, a person does not need to be famous. It helps as they have a larger fan base to promote their availability, but it is not required to have an account.

Since celebrities often operate under performance names, authors with pen names, etc. does that mean a person need not use their legal name when using the Verified Call platform?

Account holders are not required to use their legal name when promoting their Verified Call account. However, their legal name must be given during the verification process for legal and payout information so they can collect their earnings.

Does everyone need to be verified?

Every single user must be verified. There are no blind accounts nor are there accounts that say they connect to one person but actually connect to another (or service)

What’s involved in the verification process?

Every account is verified by a human account coordinator on the Verified Call team. The verification process involves an email exchange, a live phone call, information exchange and finally proof of identification through twitter or Facebook posts.

How secure and private is such information kept?

The information is amazingly secure and kept on two different 256-bit SSL encrypted non-redundant servers…account holders information is split in a way that in the unlikely event that one of the servers is hacked, the information wouldn’t correspond to any other information that could be used to correlate the identification or contact information of our account holders.

How are payments collected and disbursed?

Verified Call handles all billing and collections from customers through online credit card payment with double opt-in approvals, reducing charge backs by 99%. Individual account holder revenue is distributed on a selected schedule and through a variety of methods (check, electronic payment, etc.). Every minute of every call that an account holder participates is paid 100% of the time and at 100% of the account holders desired rate.

So the caller / fan pays the fees; is that correct?

Yes, 100% of the rate that an account holder wants to make is paid to them. If an account holder wants to make $5 per minute for their time ($300 an hour) – they will make that amount. The fees that the caller pays (such as processing and connection fees) is paid to Verified Call. It is similar to buying concert tickets for $50 with a $7.50 “processing and handling fee” on top of the ticket charge. 

Are there now, or will there be, options for texting, sending stories, images, etc. digitally? What about tangible items, such as signed photographs, etc.?

There are several roll outs and expansions of the product scheduled for 2013.

Any sneak peaks or hints about the 2013 features? (“Pretty please,” she said with a little pout.)

Many have asked for hints. Its not that we’re trying to be sneaky, its just that the products are different than what is currently available and we’d rather not announce them until they are completed and ready to roll out.

Ah, well, I tried… 

*** 

Kurt’s a nice guy, and Verified Call sounds like a great new platform; even nicer since we’ve got the info straight from the horse’s mouth. (The callers pay the fees?! Ah-maz-balls!) But before you click on over to Verified Call and fill out the application, there are a few things I’d like to point out.

(Actually, Kurt’s pointed them out; I’m just going to clarify what they mean for you.)

First, that whole part about Verified Call not being “an online destination,” about  “no listing of account holders nor any search function,” means there’s no directory, top list, nor any built-in traffic. That means those non-famous phone sex operators who use Verified Call will need to be savvy marketers, not only creating a fan base, but driving those fans to their business. (Frankly, it’s not that much different from how it really works at the other platform sites; but there’s no leg up here.) But don’t read “profitable from the first call” and overlook this fact. For most PSOs, there will be some cost in websites, blogging, etc. in order to get calls at Verified Call.

Second, with the required verification process, it is not as instant to start as some of the other platforms. But then that verification is the whole point: callers know you are you, and not pretending to be someone else. It’s worth something, so be willing to wait for it.

I, for one, am certainly going to look into adding Verified Call to my options. Especially after he teased about what’s coming in 2013.

UPDATE: Verified Call has changed their billing. Callers no longer pay the fees and Verified Call takes a cut — a rather undisclosed cut. Using the operator rate calculator, it seems Verified is now taking 25% of calls. I tried to reach Kurt & Verified for comment & the opportunity to discuss any other news, but no one relied.

Phone Sex Link Round-Up

If you have a blog or website, (If you don’t, why the hell not?!), you ought to know this legal consideration: Online Businesses Shouldn’t Rely on ‘Browsewraps’.

In particular, relying on a mere “browsewrap” agreement – rather than a clickwrap one – is begging for a court to invalidate those terms. Similarly, terms that provide the unilateral right to amend key portions of the terms of use may be unenforceable.

Velved aka Scarlett Stone‘s Phone Sex For Dummies may be helpful for PSOs and callers alike.

You know how I tell you that as a PSO you may find yourself in the role of counselor or therapist; here’s more on that.

PSO Cameryn Moore turns her personal stories into theater performances.

Talk Sugar Accepts Bitcoin

Phone sex platform site Talk Sugar now accepts — and makes payouts to SugarHosts (phone sex operators) and affiliates with — Bitcoins. I’ve no experience with Bitcoin whatsoever, but here’s what reliable sites and publications have to say.

Bitcoin (BTC) is an experimental peer-to-peer digital currency which uses public-key cryptography. Of particular concern is this simplified description:

Each time bitcoins change hands, so does a transaction history encoded in a string of characters. This “hash value” or digest can be decoded by anyone with sufficient computer power and time to devote to the effort. When bitcoins are exchanged, a digest is broadcast to the network of users, a participant does the work of decoding the transaction history, and other users quickly confirm their history is accurate. (The decoders earn a 50-bitcoin bounty for their work.) This happens about once every 10 minutes. Everyone who holds the currency agrees on who owns what, which ensures people can’t copy-and-paste their way to millions or defraud other users without the whole network agreeing that it happened.

In other words, Bitcoin isn’t just a currency, it’s a massive experiment in group trust.

If reading about public-key cryptography is confusing or frightening to you, you probably are no longer interested in trusting the digital currency as a method of payment in your business, no matter how easily is supposedly converts to a PayPal payment, direct deposit, re-loadable Visa card, or other options.

However, if you think you understand what Bitcoins are and how they work, I’d advise reading the following:

An article on Bitcoin in The Economist.

Wired magazine’s The Rise & Fall of Bitcoin.

MetaFilter‘s discussion on recent Bitcoin scams and spokesperson Bruce Wagner.

Here’s a Quora discussion on Bitcoin.

UPDATE: Talk Sugar closed in 2013; links to the site have been removed.

Today’s Phone Sex Tip: Gifts

While some phone sex platform sites do offer callers means of giving cash gifts or tips to independent phone sex operators, some callers and PSOs alike resist these options. One main reason the tip or tribute option is resisted is because the platform site takes a slice of that gift.

But another reason a caller might dislike giving a tip or cash gift is because it seems less than personal… They’d rather give flowers, lingerie, jewelry, take their favorite girl out to dinner… Something more romantic than cash left on the bedside table.

The most common solution to this phone sex operator gift-giving problem is Amazon. Amazon offers electronic gift cards which can be sent to anyone anonymously — as long as you have the recipient’s email address. However, some callers still are less than thrilled…

Because Amazon sells pretty much “everything,” some callers feel less than in control of what the PSO will opt to purchase with her gift card. It’s not just the controlling-type-A personalities, but the considerate, and even the worried who are concerned by the great number of options available at Amazon. They don’t want the PSO buying cereal or back to school supplies for her kids rather than getting herself a “real” gift — hey, just the idea of that real life stuff can ruin a guy’s fantasy! These guys would feel so much better if they knew what the phone sex operator was really getting.

A wise PSO (and even a wise caller) should know that there are other safe and anonymous ways to give gifts. Here are a few other options:

At iCardGiftCard, the gift giver can select specific gift cards from over 180 merchants, restaurants, etc.

GiftRocket’s Universal Gift Card has even more “everything” and felxibility than Amazon — including allowing a PSO to be treated to dinner, free drinks, get a mani-pedi, or go on a shopping spree at a local business.

Her Panty Club offers discreet shipping of panties, a one-time gift or multiple months in their panty of the month gift club service. (Discount code & info here.)

Plus, lots of websites, large and small companies, offer email gift certificate options. Maybe your favorite shop does too, so take a look! Please remember to read the FAQs and even ask about anonymity before you participate in their programs.