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How To Deal With SESTA FOSTA

A few days ago, SESTA / FOSTA passed, creating dismay and fear within the sex worker community. While it appears that phone sex operatorsindie clip makers, and cam performers are not the target of the legislation, there are likely to be some changes for those providers too. Not just because the law is poorly written – and destined to hurt those they say they are protecting – but because the law is aimed at online platforms. Many sites are already taking action. Some are disappearing sections of the sites; some sites have entirely disappeared. And it is clear from the folks behind the law, that this is aimed not just at paid sexual encounters – but at sex itself.

Since the passage of the legislation, I have been compiling and sharing news and tips at the Phone Sex Secrets Twitter account. As that account is *knocks wood* not dealing with Twitter Shadowbanning, I hope I am signal boosting facts and tips for sex workers. Along with the retweets, I’ve been sharing some tips myself. But since shadowbanning is a real thing, because not everyone uses Twitter — and because this legislation is targeting online sites, I realize tweets may not be safe. So I am going to post a number of helpful links and tips here.

Three of the most practical threads on Twitter were from Lamina Vua, HarlotAdvocate, & Liara Roux. The Harlot Advocate’s thread has been preserved at Fairy Whore Mother. Liara Roux’s thread has been posted at Tits & Sass, so you can read it there. Lamina Vua’s thread, screen-shot images, are presented here so they do not get lost.

My tips:

#1 Make a list of trusted Twitter accounts — and follow them, so even if they are shadowbanned you can see their pages. Also on that list, include URL – so you can find them, even when they are shadowbanned & do not show up in searches (either by name or hastag).

#2 Do the same with their websites & contact info so that if they (or you!) are deleted from Twitter, you have a method of connecting.

#3 Keep a list of trusted publications & resources (i.e. organizations, not persons) which you can count on for industry news. One such place for this issue would be Survivors Against Sesta.

Additionally…

I recommend continuing to tweet and be active on the platform sites you are using so that clients can continue to find you — especially if you are moving to other platforms, etc., and wish for clients to be able to find you.

I also have threads & posts which you can share with clients. I know I recently advised against being too negative or sharing too much activism — but this is one of those times when it is worthy of mentioning actions clients can and should take. It helps them to continue to support you. (And sometimes sharing what someone else wrote removes the “sting” of negativity a bit!)

Both the thread on Twitter and the much more in-depth post on Tumblr are written specifically for clients — both in terms of education and actions they ought to take.

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Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose asap!

Even if you’ve been here before, you may have missed the new additions to the site:

New, easier to schedule consultations, coaching, & tutoring sessions page!
A concise listing of all my instantly downloadable phone sex whitepaper guides!
A list of my most popular other services for PSOs — including rates and buy now options!

Viceland & Slutever’s Beginner’s Guide To Camming

Last week, a promo for an episode of Viceland’s Slutever show went around on Twitter, causing quite a bit of upset. The promo tweet was for a Slutever episode (Season 1; Episode 6) on cam girls – and what was shown had many camgirls up in arms about the lack of sex positivity & whorearchy – if not outright whorephobia.

Unfortunately, like many movie trailers and television promos, the clips shown are removed from their context — a practice which does a huge disservice to the audience. And, in this case, was deemed harmful to cam performers themselves. Because I know this is often the case, I refrained from comment until I watched the episode in question.

As most readers, followers, and clients know, I’m not a cam performer; but in watching the Slutever cam girls episode, I was able to get some context for the “upsetting” promo-tweet. And as I suspected, it was not as bad as it seemed.

It’s of paramount importance to note that while the Cam Girl Boot Camp Trainer, Lilia Zavala,  of LA’s Studio 20 did correct the show’s host, Karley Sciortino aka @Slutever, about being “classy” and neither showing nor saying ‘cunt’  — Zavala did so in terms of training within the confines of Studio 20’s brand. (FYI, Studio 20 is based in Romania.)

Such things were not a statement or condemnation of women or cam performers who opt to use the word “cunt” or show it off. It was simply a matter of Studio 20’s cam girl brand being more about playful tease than other more explicit or direct forms of adult entertainment. This is what brands do. They differentiate themselves in the marketplace. And, as seen earlier in the show, there are more graphic & direct cam girl offerings presented – without any judgment.  As Zavala herself noted, “There are other platforms they go to for that. But this particular website I work with is very classy.”

So bitching about that one point of view — out of context — should stop. Ideally, it never would have happened — context is always important! (Personally, I think the selected bits were to showcase the hostess’ “slut” image.)

The Case Of The Misunderstood Promo is now solved. But I’m not done yet. Since I watched the whole show, I have a few other comments to make.

Some of the cam girl’s comments on the popularity and future of camming included noting that camming is “interactive,” “personal,” and “more of a reality show than porn – my reality porn.” Rather common — and spot on. At least for those who prefer visual adult entertainment.

As Andra, PR Manager at Studio 20, noted, camming’s not all about being a traditional beauty aka cis, white, blonde, Barbie image. “She needs to be fun, be smart. It doesn’t matter if she’s white, black, chubby, skinny, big boobs, small boobs, because we found out that in this business everybody’s somebody’s type.”

Amen.

When asked if most cam sessions result in something sexual happening, Andra at Studio 20 noted that about 60% of the time it does. (Yup, that means 40% of the time it is not.) Andra also noted that the draw of camming is building a relationship — and she feels this will only grow as ” a lot of people don’t have the time or want relationships in real life nowadays.”

Sciortino seems surprised.

(Honestly, after so many decades in sex work, I am continually shocked and amazed at people who are shocked and amazed to discover that sex work is a lot like being a therapist or at least simply providing companionship. I should no longer be surprised by this response; but I continue to be!)

At Studio 20 L.A., we meet a top banking, fulltime cam girl, Nikita Banx (@nikitabanx on Twitter). She says the top two interests or kinks she sees are feet and small penis humiliation (sph). She also points out that she’s on cam for 8 hours a day, 40 hours a week.

This is when Slutever/Sciortino realizes just how broad the job of being a cam girl is. “You have to be a therapist, you have to be sexy, you have to be like a girlfriend, but you also have to be like a dominatrix if someone wants it.”

To which Andra replies, “You have to be a woman. That’s all in the job.”

(Which might just be my favorite bit from the show! All the labor women provide that sex workers are savvy enough to profit from!)

The show’s host responds, “This is stressful.”

And Sciortino hasn’t even realized yet that girls at Studio 20 don’t have to take care of as much of the business side of things, including marketing, as that’s what Studio 20’s 50% – yes, 50% – take covers.

That’s the corporate camming side of things. Now the show delves into the indie side of camming.

We are now meet Ona Artist (@OnaArtist on Twitter), a woman who started her cam career on Instagram. One day, she posted a butt pic — and her world changed. Here, it is worthy of mentioning, that we are introduced to Ona as a professional photographer is taking photos of her. In other words, she spends money to make that money. It’s not just selfies which create the fame and popularity of over a million followers. No matter how great your ass is. What Artist says is that you need “photos that pop, photos that really hit the algorithm well.” And they don’t just take themselves. Clearly, Ona knows how to work the social media system.

To this, Slutever/Sciortino responds, “Wow. Being a cam girl is like a lot of work randomly.”

Randomly?!

Uh, whatever.

It’s a business. That’s not so random.

But then Slutever/Sciortino redeems herself. She says she has respect for Ona and cam girls and their “slutty industriousness.”

Slutever/Sciortino asks, “Do you think that camming is the future of pornography?”

Ona Artist responds, “Yes I think it’s the future – I think it’s already here, actually.”

Now Slutever/Sciortino wonders what that means for “us, the horny masses.”

So our hostess interviews Dr. Melinda Chateauvert aka The Whorestorian (@whorestorian on Twitter), author of Sex Workers Unite! A History of the Movement from Stonewall to SlutWalk.

Slutever/Sciortino asks about the popularity of camming in adult entertainment.

Melinda “Mindy” Chateauvert responds, “I think that camming has been popular for a long time and I think that the rise of camming was aided by not only changes in technology, and the fact  that  a lot of women who were interested in camming could do it by themselves, but also for a lot of women this was a safe way of doing sex work but not actually having contact with clients.”

Since Chateauvert isn’t into slut-shaming or any of that crap, I take this simply as a fact. Some simply do not wish to be hands-on, full-service sex workers. And that’s OK. Sex work — and the type of it — is a choice.

Chateauvert is also asked if camming will replace pornography. “I think it is very separate. It’s a different kind of performance but I don’t think one will replace the other.”

(I feel the same way about phone sex. It is different, it is its own thing. One doesn’t necessarily replace the other because there are unique aspects and connections to each form of entertainment.)

But back to Slutever and Chateauvert as they discuss the ever-surprising notion of not masturbating but “just talking with a sex worker.”

Chateauvert, The Whorestorian, says, “People want to have someone who they think they can talk to about things that they may not want to share with a person they consider respectable.”

Slutever thinks she’s catching on, and tentatively asks,”So in a way, the sex worker is non-judgemental because they’re in a position which is like sort of seedy…”

Chateauvert clarifies. “Right. I mean their view is a sex worker has experienced everything or knows everything and is not going to make the judgement – and also because we expect sex workers to be confidential and that’s, you know, a super kind of rule number one in the trade is you don’t betray a client’s secrets.”

Absolutely!

After noting the “slutty confessional” nature of camming, Slutever realizes that clients are private about their “voyeurist hobby” (something my survey data supports), — yet we still manage to have a brave male client willing to discuss his camming habit. Well, a bit… Evan, one of Ona Artist’s biggest fans, does share that why he watches. It’s “a little bit of sunshine” during the day, an “escape.” (Which is why I will always caution you about the subjects to blog and tweet about!)

As you might imagine, watching Slutever as she watches Evan watch Ona is more than a bit awkward — thankfully, we jump back to the Whorestorian.

Our hostess asks Dr. Chateauvert, “Do you think that camming will fill in for actual human relationships?”

Kudos for Chateauvert’s reply: “No. I don’t see us going to some sort of sci-fi future where 12 people live in the same room and are only talking to other people via Internet, but I think camming actually facilitates interaction in a way that is much more comfortable and safer and open.”

Ditto many other forms of sex work.

Overall, this specific episode of Viceland’s Slutever, is totally worthy of watching. Even with all my spoilers. *wink* Because, you know, it’s a television show with images — moving images. And because what stood out to me might not be what’s important to you. So do watch it if you’re at all interesting in camming.

Just note that you’ll have to get over the vocal fry of the host (and a few other people).

Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose asap!

Even if you’ve been here before, you may have missed the new additions to the site:

New, easier to schedule consultations, coaching, & tutoring sessions page!
A concise listing of all my instantly downloadable phone sex whitepaper guides!
A list of my most popular other services for PSOs — including rates and buy now options!

Yes, I am on Twitter! @PhoneSexSecrets

Are You Trying To Make Money In Phone Sex, Or Be An Advocate?

Yes, I know this post is going to anger some folks — but only if they don’t really take the time to read & digest it.

So here’s your warning: Pause, take a breath, read for comprehension, and see if this A) may apply to you & B) whether or not you feel it impacts you enough to do anything about it.

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For the past few months, I’ve been hearing from a number of my PSO clients that they feel that call volume has slowed down &/or that they’ve been getting fewer new clients. There can be a number of reasons for this, of course. But when I take a look at their blogs and Twitter accounts, I see a pattern…

Simply put, there’s a lot of ranting & raving, wailing & hair-pulling, going on. Not only in the content phone sex operators are creating, but the content they are sharing as well. And all of this intense energy (be it negative or advocacy) is contrary to the notions of entertainment — which is, at its most simple, activity which provides pleasure and delight, an escape or respite from reality.

Yes, this past year or more has been a tumultuous period — especially if you are a woman, a person of color, LBGT+, or any other minority or marginalized group… Or if you just need something as basic as health care. And all this definitely includes sex workers. I also understand how all the current political and economic environment produces stress which negatively impacts mental health, among other things. I get it. All of it. Beleive me. I’ve even written about this for clients to hip them to the realities of our lives.

Yes, there are times when it makes sense to educate clients. And there are times to alert clients to actions they can and should take as a citizen, as an ally. There are absolutely issues, situations, and the like which should be voiced by you to the followers you have cultivated.

But when your blog, your Twitter — your brand — comes across like as a constant stream of anger, upset, or ire; when it makes you sound like a sad-sack; when it reads like a to-do list of political actions and civic duties; you are going to lose client interest and potential customers both. And all these words you’re using? They are read by search engines too; which means you are messing up your SEO as well.

For those of you who say, “If they don’t agree with me politically, I don’t want to deal with them anyway! — or something similar — let me tell you, you are equally as likely to turn off like-minded individuals.

Why?

Because, again, paying phone sex callers are looking for fun, for pleasure — for an escape from the daily grind! It’s exhausting for all of us. Clients pay for entertainment, including adult services, to escape.

Now, I’m not saying, “You can’t blog, tweet, or talk about anything negative or important.” I’m just saying that if you feel your income is suffering, if you fear your economic livelihood is threatened, then you ought to look over your online presence and access whether or not it may be turning clients and potential clients off.

Nor am I saying, “You are not allowed to be a person or to express yourself.” I’m just asking you to consider whether your need to express yourself is getting in the way of your marketing plan and financial goals.

If you feel that you need to express more often, if you feel you need to point out what’s wrong, what needs to be done, get yourself another blog &/or Twitter account upon which to vent, educate, and represent your activism, converse regularly with the movement(s) of your choice. That’s what many of us do, myself included.

I know how easy it can be to fall into the ranting trap. I really do. Often, such rant-tweets are the most popular tweets we can make! This is because other sex workers will often jump in with retweets or add comments. But other sex workers are not our target audience. If you forget who you are trying to reach, i.e. fans, loyal clients, and potential callers, then you can quickly find yourself losing that audience — and the related income.

Ask yourself, are you trying to make money in phone sex, or be an advocate for a cause or movement?

If it’s the former, take a few minutes, look over your online accounts, and ask yourself if your actions are supporting that endeavor.

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Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose asap!

Even if you’ve been here before, you may have missed the new additions to the site:

New, easier to schedule consultations, coaching, & tutoring sessions page!
A concise listing of all my instantly downloadable phone sex whitepaper guides!
A list of my most popular other services for PSOs — including rates and buy now options!

Surprise! Cam Girls (PSOs & Other Sex Workers) Want To Build Wealth & Feel Empowered By Their Work [Infographic]

Stripchat recently polled a cross-section of webcam models for insight into their lives as not only performers but as female entrepreneurs in this emerging industry & created an infographic from the data. While I’m not a cam expert (at least not in cam sites; I know a lot about one-on-one camming on sites such as NiteFlirt), I do believe a lot of the info presented here would be similar to that of phone sex operators and other sex workers — if anyone cared to ask us.

Look! Women get these jobs for the same reason most humans get jobs: to build wealth & feel empowered. (Which is a bit redundant; money is empowerment.)

Of course the infographic came with a press release:

The infographic, “Female Empowerment – Cam Model Insights That’ll Blow Your Mind…” details the motivations for becoming webcam entertainers, and most women polled (87%) said they “feel empowered by their webcam careers” while others appreciate the freedom of working from home and building wealth as their own bosses’.

“As a new company that’s focused on our cam models’ best interests, we decided to take an informal poll of performers in order to find out what motivates them and what we can do to help create a more successful business for them,” said Stripchat Head of Business Development Jim Austin.

The majority of entertainers polled by Stripchat work 30 hours a week or more (44%), are married with no kids (42%), focused on saving for retirement (45%); experienced models earn $300 a day and can make up to $128,000 a year (on average) and the majority of entertainers hold down jobs in the corporate sector (52%), with an eye on entrepreneurship.

“People are really starting to understand the importance of building wealth and preparing for the future in a business with so much flexibility in terms of hours and location,” said Austin. “Stripchat is ideal for models to use for selling not only live cam shows but videos and photo gallery content as well.”

My comments? Well, 150 is a small sample, but at least it gives you an inkling… Your mileage will definitely vary in terms of pay. And I definitely would urge that 34% to tell their partners; such lies of omission rarely turn out well. Plus, how can your partner support you if they don’t know what you are doing? Just leads to more isolation. Something that’s tough enough in sex work.

PS For more on what camgirls do:

What’s It Like To Be A CamGirl?

What Women Want To Know About Being A CamGirl

Quick – Really Quick – Links For Phone Sex Operators

Honestly, this time I will be quick!

1) I’ve written before about taxes for phone sex operators, but here’s even more info on taxes for freelancers.

2) If you follow me on Twitter, you’ve likely noticed that I’ve been sharing and retweeting a number of links to news stories about sex tech and start-ups. I’m betting a good number of you have been ignoring them, thinking, “I’m a PSO; I don’t need to know that.” But this short post at Eros Blog cuts to the meat of most of these stories. And hopefully you can see the how and why of why I am sharing these things. (Also, it is wise for those of us in the adult industry to keep an eye on the pornocalypse hashtag.)

That’s it — for now. *wink*

(I told you it would be quick!)