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Phone Sex Caller Survey Results To Help You Work Your Phone Sex Business

Over the past five years, on & off, I’ve run a survey for phone sex callers. Compiling the data was no easy feat as one after another of the free survey sites either departed or no longer allowed free surveys. So, while the questions and the answer options remained the same, I needed to do some work before I could present the results of the nearly 5,000 responses. (To be precise, there were 4,773 survey participants).

First, I meticulously ran the numbers of each survey. Then, I had to compare the results to see if there were any trends or insights to be gained from each set of results; there was no statistically significant difference. Next, I combined all the survey result data, rendered charts & graphs — and compiled all the result findings into a whitepaper available for purchase via NiteFlirt.

The results of my analysis include, where notable, include any comments from survey participants who went that extra step to email their thoughts. (Any such comments are shared under anonymity and are provided as anecdotal support or clarification.)

Disclaimers: Survey participants were self-described paying phone sex clients who volunteered to participate in an online survey. In other words, it likely does not have a representative sample. For example, an online survey certainly is affected by the lack of participation in populations which are less likely to have internet access.

However, to my knowledge, this is the only survey which provides insights into some of the demographics, concerns, turn-ons & turn-offs, of paying phone sex callers. It is provided as helpful information in terms of marketing your phone sex business. It is available as PDF containing 3,300+ words, 26 pages, with 12 graphs. You can buy it here. The whitepaper is absolutely under copyright; there is no sharing, posting, publication, or other transmission of this report or its findings without my express written permission.

Once you read the phone sex survey whitepaper, if there’s something specific in the results you are looking for help with, if you’d like more detailed information about your specific target audience demographic, feel free to schedule your personal phone sex business consultation.

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New Free Erotic Audio & PSO Promotion Website Launches

Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose first!

If you pay attention — really pay attention! — to my Twitter, you may have noticed a recent conversation about the promotion of erotic audio recordings. Whether you read about that or not, I can now announce that there’s a brand new site, from Alice Wonder Miscreations, dedicated to the promotion of erotic audio: Naughty.Audio.

And this new site isn’t just about promoting adult recordings either; it’s about promoting phone sex operators themselves:

Naughty.Audio aims to provide a web platform that allows Phone Sex Operators to easily make teaser audios readily available to the potential customers who wish to sample both her voice and her creativity.

…As the visionary and developer behind Naughty.Audio, I like to think of it as a type of search engine for kinksters, though perhaps a catalog would be better description.

I don’t know “Alice” very well; just from his Tumblr & Twitter. But I do know two things from following him: One, he’s an actual, paying, phone sex client; and, two, that both security and privacy were huge parts of the site’s construction.

Naughty Audio is completely free right now — for both PSOs and clients. Currently, there are no plans to monetize — so it’s a free marketing tool for phone sex operators and a free directory service for callers.

While the site is brand new, i.e. just building traffic, I would recommend taking the time to explore the site and consider the potential. While it may be a slow start, being among the first to participate can have plenty of benefits.

Individual phone sex operators and phone sex companies can find more information about Naughty Audio, including contact info, here.

I am told there is more to come in the future from Alice Wonder Miscreations. So stay tuned!

More posts about audio recordings are here.

Affordable Advertising Opportunity For Phone Sex Operators

harlot mediaA few weeks ago, I retweeted a tweet from Harlot Media regarding their launch advertising at their fabulous digital magazine. Since advertising at intelligent, well trafficked sites can be difficult to find for those of us in the PSO business — and because Harlot deserves to be supported — I am sharing the information on their advertising options.

(And, yes, I will be advertising there soon myself.)

Currently we’re looking at 3 types of advertising- a text link, which will be on our sidebar with a label like “What We’re Into”, a vertical banner ad (you provide the art, we’ll provide dimensions) that’ll be on our sidebar, and an advertorial/sponsored content piece, which will be about 700 words either interviewing you or about a topic that will include links to your work!

Pricing:

Text Link: This will live on the sidebar of Harlot.Media. You will be able to change the url/text of your link at any time during the length of your ad, subject to our Articles of Harlotry.

One Week- $10
One Month- $30
Six Months- $45

Banner Ad: This will live on the sidebar of Harlot.Media. You will be able to change the url/art of your banner at any time during the length of your ad, subject to our Articles of Harlotry.

150×150- $25 per month
250×150- $50 per month
250×350- $100 per month

We can totally work out a deal if you want to buy multiple months, just let me know!

Advertorial/Sponsored Content: Perhaps you want a blog post focused on a particular topic that relates to your site as a way of bringing attention to it? Maybe you’d like an interview highlighting a new hashtag you’ve created? This might be a good option for you! One of our staff writers will write the post with your input. There will be a link to your site/product at the beginning and at the end of the post acknowledging your sponsorship, and no other links to other sites except ours and yours.

$150 for a 700 word piece

Please let me know what you’d be interested in! We’re likely to be raising these rates after a couple months but definitely want to prioritize POC, queer, and other marginalized business owners or companies that serve these underrepresented markets. If you start advertising with us now, you will lock down that rate for as long as you pay it monthly/weekly.

These rates will be posted, likely on Monday, at http://harlot.media/advertising; but as I have several (exciting!) posts to make in the next few days, I am sharing now.

UPDATE: Advertising page at Harlot is here: http://harlot.media/advertise-with-us

UPDATE: You may contact Harlot Media here, or email at harlot.ads (AT) gmail (DOT) com.

PS If you were looking for some basic info on advertising (and affiliate programs), I’ve received permission to sell Deanna Dahlsad‘s whitepaper on that over at NiteFlirt. (Since her mainstream MPS site is one of those negatively impacted by MPS’s latest debacle, I made arrangements for you to still find it!) Dahlsad also runs Blog Tours, including for adult services/sites.

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Part Two Of The Exclusive SinCats Phone Sex Site Interview

Continuing the Sin Cats interview with Mary Bennet. (Bennet is in charge of Social Media Marketing and Promotions as well as a Support Rep for Affiliates and Partners at SinCats.) In the first part, we covered the basic overview of the new phone sex site (which also allows camgirls, indie clip makers, and more).

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Included in this post are some screenshots that Mary has provided. They demonstrate the various features that are available to performers, via their admin panel. As always, click to see larger versions.

Now we get into more detail about the new site…

What are the fees for this site, both for callers & operators?

Our website is free for both callers and operators.

Why do we offer our services for FREE and allow customer and operators the ability to use our platform and keep 100% of the profits? There are a few ways that we make money — after all, it is a needed to keep the site running.

We make money via the following options:

1. We offer paid ad space. This is displayed on the left side of our website and the costs are very reasonable. Companies or individuals that wish to display a paid advertisement can contact us for details and their ad will appear on every webpage located on the left sidebar.

2. We offer upgrade options. All accounts are 100% free and include access to everything you need to succeed as an independent performer. However, you can upgrade your account by ordering highlighted listings, featured listings, your own domain name and WP blog, newsletter feature, unlimited friend requests and friend accepts, unlimited call codes, promotional services, and higher ranking (upgraded paid accounts are listed above all free accounts).

Can you give me some ballpark price ranges on such things as advertising, etc.?

We have two ad placement zones and our pricing is based on our traffic. As our traffic is low at the moment, we are not promoting our ads zones; however within the next couple months they will be available.

Ad zone 1: This is a 250 width by 150 height static ad placement that appears on the left side of all pages (except the performer profile pages). You can see an example of this on our home page at www.sincats.com listed under the ‘new performers’ sidebar widget. We display a total of 6 ads on the sidebar and they currently sell for $95/month. (*This price is subject to change by the end of this year.) We do not rotate ad spots, so once they are full we cannot accept new advertisers until a new spot becomes available.

As zone 2: This is a 120 width by 60 height static ad placement that appears on all free performer profile pages.  Paid performers have ‘ad free’ profiles. We display a total of 6 ads on all free performer profile pages and they currently sell for $50/month. (*This price is subject to change by the end of this year.) As with the left sidebar ads, we do not rotate ad spots, so once they are full we cannot accept new advertisers until a new spot becomes available.

When you say, “Paid performers have ‘ad free’ profiles,” you mean those who pay for the upgraded accounts, at the $9.95 per month, correct?

Yes. All initial registrations by default are free and therefore subject to display ads within the free profile. However, upon upgrading, the ads instantly disappear. This is another benefit to having a premium or upgraded account on SinCats.

A fully upgraded account on SinCats costs $9.95/month. You can upgrade at anytime from your admin section and the changes occur instantly.

Callers also have similar features when they upgrade their acccount. Callers can register for free and gain access to virtually every feature on our website. However there are some limitations; free customers cannot create jobs (we have a job board that displays recent job postings), free customers have limitations on the amount of messages they can send/receive and the amount of call codes they can use.  Also the customer’s status is listed as ‘free’ and this is displayed on the customer’s profile page.

However, none of these upgrades are needed to use our platform — or make serious money as a performer. Money that you don’t need to wait for, money that is received in the manner that you wish to receive it: Direct to you from the customer.

sin cats performer profile optionsSpeaking of money, I see that operators are allowed to use Amazon and the like as payment; aren’t you concerned about the issues involved here, namely that some of those options are either not merchant accounts &/or have expressly forbidden adult content/business?

We have a wide range of options that operators can choose from when accepting payment from a customer. It is important to note that we do not accept payment on behalf of the customer. Instead the payment goes directly from the customer to the performer.

Also there is no direct correlation between the chosen payment method and adult services. Amazon Wish Lists have been used for years as a way to receive items in exchange for services.

There are so many ways to receive payment that do not include the risk involved in a direct merchant account: Account Now, Cash, Money Order, Phone Card, Western Union, Chase, Dwolla, NetSpend, Ritani, Wish Pot, Bitcoin, Check, Money Gram, Zappos, and trade (or other).

The option to accept payment by ‘trade’ could mean that a customer has a particular skill set that you need and are willing to provide your services in exchange for that skillset. This might mean website design, website development, paying for an ad placement to promote the performer’s profile on high traffic phone sex websites, legal assistance, etc.

Adult merchant accounts are a good option and this is why we have listed credit card as one of the possible choices. There are many performers that have their own adult merchant account and can use this account to process customer’s credit cards. However for the average (and especially new performer), merchant accounts are not an option that is easy to obtain.

Here’s some of the reasons why…

Merchant accounts are risky. Did you know that a customer can order services online, then at any time within 3 – 6 months that customer can contact his bank and report the transaction as fraud? Even if the transaction was 100% valid and you have records (IP address, email, phone number, etc.) chances are you will still lose that sale. In addition to that you will be charged a $35.00 fee for every chargeback that is filed. You may make $5,000.00 in one month, then lose $7,500.00 the next month due to chargebacks. And any performer that has worked in this industry using their own merchant account knows that the banks always side with the customer and chargeback disputes are virtually impossible to win. Virtually all pay per minute phone sex and webcam sites have an issue with this and often have to adjust the performer’s payment based on the chargeback. It is not the fault of the company, but rather the difficult position that banks place ‘high risk’ adult companies in regards to chargebacks.

Merchant accounts are expensive. An adult merchant account will cost you $1,000 a year for Visa and MasterCard registration. You also need to show proof of a valid business license and business address. In addition to their there are tons of small fees (transaction fees, gateway fees, etc).

Also if you process credit cards on your own website you are required to be PCI compliant. This means that you have to provide all of the nessacry means to protect the customer’s credit card details. If there is a breach and this information is exposed you can be fined over $100,000. If you think it is easy to secure this data think about Target and how they were recently hacked and thousands of customer’s credit card details were exposed.

An alternative…

In comparison, let’s consider that you use an alternative payment option. For example Bitcoin. You open a merchant Bitcoin account (it is free on most websites and easy to setup). You then provide the customer with a Bitcoin payment link to order your services. Once the payment is completed you will receive a notification and you can proceed to provide your services knowing that this money will not be charged back and you will receive virtually 100% of it as Bitcoin charges very little processing fees.

Or perhaps you think a little more outside the box and offer your services in exchange for minutes added to your pre-paid phone. Often performers use a pre-paid phone as this provides a layer of anonymity and security. In this scenario you provide the customer with a link to the pre-paid card you require to load your phone. The customer purchases the card, sends you the code and you can add the minutes instantly to your account. No risk of chargeback.

Another scenario might be that you need more traffic in order to bring in more customers and sales. You can offer the customer an option to pay for ad placement in exchange for services. There are tons or reputable services that offer this, including Juicyads, PhoneSexCentral, etc. [See here & here.] Once the ad is live, you can proceed to engage with the customer and provide your services as agreed.

Once you start to consider all of the possibilities it can be rather exciting. There are so many ways to receive payment and remove risk of chargebacks and payment delays.

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Are there any verification requirements? Specifically, do you verify legal adult age/status? Are operators required to be verified in any way?

All participants on our network are required to be 18 years or older. We do require verification on a case-by-case basis. If we believe that a performer may be underage we flag the account (suspending public listing) and send a message to require proper documentation.

We have been counseled on this through our legal services and work closely with our attorney to ensure that all practices are legal. Since performers on our network do not work for us, but instead use our platform to network and promote themselves, we are not obligated to require age verification for every account. We are required to police our network and ensure that all content is legal, and we do this 24/7.

For those of you familiar with PhoneSexCentral (which is a major phone sex listing website) you will know that you can create an account and promote your website without the need to send in sensitive details such as a photo ID, social security card, banking account information, etc. Our website works in a similar manner, however it has far more advanced social networking features and is based on recent technology.

I believe you are using CCBill for the upgraded account, correct? If so, this would provide adult verification, yes?

We use Epoch and CCBill. Epoch provides an excellent direct mode payment gateway and a slightly higher success rate of payment. CCBill is used as a fall-back processor. However both provide age verification.

We are also considering additional measures to prevent minors from gaining access to our website. Monitoring site activity and relying on community support are also tools that we will use in our efforts to prevent unauthorized access.

Of the 200+ members, do you know what percent are operators, what percent are callers/buyers?

The ration is about 50/50 at the moment. We are trying to promote the site to both account types so that the member base (customer and performers) grow at a steady and natural level.

Thanks, Mary. I myself am going to create a performer account & play around a bit… Likely, much more to come on this new option in phone sex & cam promotion called Sincats.

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The Exclusive Sin Cats Interview (Part 1)

sin-cats sincats phonesex cam dirty talkSin Cats is a relatively new phone sex site. It’s not truly a platform site, which means it is neither collecting payments nor taking a cut of transactions, but it is far more than a marketing or advertising opportunity as it does offer the option to safely and anonymously connect calls and chat. Intrigued, I sat down to discuss with Mary Bennet, who is in charge of Social Media Marketing and Promotions for Sin Cats. Here, in this first part of my interview, Bennet gives us an overview of the new site. (In part two, we get down into the real nitty-gritty – so stay tuned!)

Hi Mary, please give us a general company/site overview.

Sin Cats is an adult network in which people from all over the world can make friends, connect, send messages, share images, videos, voice files and have fun. Our website is new (launched officially on July, 11 2015). However, prior to this we had been in the adult industry for over 12 years, and have experience in membership sites, webcam, phone sex, web design, hosting and social networking. We spent approximately 6 months in the development stage before launching Sin Cats.

Our website is an open platform for adults that wish to promote themselves and network with others. This does not simply relate to phone sex, but includes webcam, media sales (pictures, videos, audio), modeling and even professional services such as content writing, website promotion, website design, etc.

Currently our staff consists of two full-time developers, a marketing director, and two customer service reps.

Open registration is now taking place and we are working with several websites to find talented entertainers that wish to create a profile on our website.

What is the main goal of Sin Cats?

Our goal is not to compete with existing pay per minute platforms, but to provide an alternative venue where adult performers can promote themselves and even work independently, if they wish.

Sin Cats is not a phone sex service in the traditional since. In reviewing this industry we determined that there were several well-established phone sex companies and to create a new one would be redundant. Therefore, we created a truly unique alternative that gives performers the option to work independently or promote their call buttons and links from existing services.

Unlike most platforms, we allow performers to be independent. This means that they can speak directly to the customers, work-out alternate payment options, and even use various forms of communication (including Skype, Google Voice, etc.).

We also have an amazing user-to-user call system that includes audio/video and text chat. However, it is not required that you use our call system. We have included a screenshot on this at the bottom of this interview.

sin_cats_example_profile_pageHere is a list of things you can do on Sin Cats:

1. Give your private email address to customers.

2. Use and post your own billing methods (Amazon Wish Lists, Dwolla, Netspend, Phone Card, etc.). Basically any method you wish to use to transfer funds directly from the customer to you is accepatble.

3. Post or sell your IM contact details (Skype, AIM, etc).

4. Sell pictures and charge customers directly and in any format you wish.

5. Sell videos and charge customers directly and in any format you wish.

6. Sell audio files and charge customers directly and in any format you wish.

7. Post FREE call codes and display them publicly on our call code board (this will get you tons of new customers)

8. Contact customers off-site through any means that is acceptable to both you and the customer (phone, email, Skype, etc.)

9. Use our website for adult dating. (Yes, you can actually hook-up with customers if you want — please note that this can be dangerous and therefore you need to use precaution!)

10. Post payment options to other pay per minute platforms. If you have accounts on other websites and wish for customers to pay and connect with you through those sites you can post call button codes, links etc.

11. Give your private phone number to customers. We have a user-to-user call system option that provides completely secure and anonymous connections from anywhere in the world; however, if you want to give a client your private phone number you are welcome to do so.

12. Text customers from your phone.

13. Use our website for adult networking beyond traditional phone sex and webcam. This includes modeling, content writing, website design, website services (development, adverts, etc).

You can do practically ANYTHING you want on Sin Cats (as long as it is legal of course).

Our goal is to help provide a vibrant and open platform for adult performers to network, make money, and ultimately have far more choices then what is currently available on existing pay per minute phone sites.

We have heard terrible stories of PSOs not receiving payment, losing money from chargebacks, losing 50% (or more of their earnings due to website fees), getting kicked off of a website for sharing off-site contact information, etc. We believe that there needs to be a site that caters to adult performers that wish to be independent, or at least have an additional option from the traditional pay per minute website.

Just to be absolutely clear, operators allowed a profile page or blog space which allows them to link to their own websites, social media, profiles at phone sex sites, etc. right?

Yes! In fact we have included a wide range of amazing features. Each operator has their own profile page, search terms, blog (and blog RSS feed), friend section (to send and receive friend requests), sidebar friend widget that displays who is online and a quick ‘send message’ option), image gallery, video section, audio creation section, media library (where images, videos and audio files can be uploaded, stored and sent to users via email or embedded), private inbox, newsletter system and more.

Sorry if that was a run-on sentence, it’s just that we have so much that is included in the operator section that it is hard to fit into one sentence.

Operators are also free to promote their own websites, call buttons, social media and profile links to other phone sex sites, as you can see in this example profile page (image on the left side of this post).

As mentioned, part two of this Sin Cats interview will be published tomorrow!

UPDATE: Part Two is here.

Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose.

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Ad Rate Increase A-Comin’!

If you follow me on Twitter, then you know that I will be increasing the price for advertising at the Phone Sex Tumblr on February 1, 2016. Traffic is up, and now that the Tumblr posts (as well as the Twitter phone sex promo account tweets) also go out on the Rebel Mouse Phone Sex Page, there is even more exposure.

If you want to get in on the current prices, go here and buy now. You may purchase up to three months out to get the savings now; otherwise, you’ll be paying the increased rate on February first.

The Key To Attracting More Male Callers May Lie In Dating Study Info

A recent study, An Experimental Study of Men’s and Women’s Personal Ads, took a look at what characteristics women and men appear to be looking for in their partners by placing fake personal ads online and studying the results. The complete study must be paid for to be read, but Justin Lehmiller, PhD, breaks it down in an article for Playboy:

Specifically, four ads were posted under the women seeking men (WSM) section, while another four ads were posted under the men seeking women (MSW) section. Each ad ran for two weeks. The ads were very similar in nature, but each emphasized a different personal trait.

The WSM ads varied in terms of whether the woman described was slim and attractive, sensual and passionate, or successful and ambitious. The fourth ad was generic and didn’t mention any of these characteristics.

Since the phone sex industry primarily banks on male callers and clients, I am going to focus on what the research revealed about dating ads placed by (fake) women and the (presumably heterosexual) men who were interested in meeting women.

As expected, the women presented as thin and attractive received significantly more replies from male suitors than women who were described any other way.

Women presented as successful and ambitious received the second highest number of replies. Their response rate was significantly higher than the sensual/passionate and generic ads, which were essentially tied for last. Thus, both good looks and success increased the likelihood of a woman getting a reply.

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While Lehmiller — and Gracie Passette, where I first found this study — both point to the biological or evolutionary drives behind the to-be-expected “men seeking beautiful women” phenomenon, you can also see how changing cultural norms (or perhaps a defense against “gold diggers”?) indicate a strong positive reaction to successful women as well.

If you’re wondering why I’m mentioning this, it should be fairly obvious: This is about how female phone sex operators can better market themselves to appeal to male callers.

Generally speaking, presumably heterosexual men are attracted to women culturally defined as “attractive.” Your specialty niche market mileage may vary, of course.

But perhaps what is most remarkable is that the dating ads paced in this study were text-only, with no photosThis offers several splendid insights for the marketing savvy PSO.

#1: Men were responding to the words used in the description, not to any photographs provided or images used. This is not to say that had photos been included they would have been overshadowed by the text; I’m sure the photos would speak louder than words. But clearly words do count. And therefore you should be sure to include them in your profiles and listings.

#2: “Success” is sexy. This, according to the study, is true for both men and women. Whether it is high ratings, positive feedback, blog awards, etc., showing off your successful side can only help you in your appeal to phone sex callers.

#3: People have more than one trait. While this study focused on three individual specific traits in order to get clear results, note that the fourth ad was called “generic.” Not only did the generic ad not mention the other three traits, but it was the worst performing ad. So while it was noted that combining beauty with success may have been extremely powerful, you should also beware that trying to be “all things” may leave your ad or services looking generic. Yes, you have more than one facet to set to sparking; but don’t  focus on so many that none stand out.

#4:  Men were responding to how (supposedly) real women were describing themselves. Which leads to something and not touched upon by either Lehmiller, Passette, or the study itself. Were the men responding merely to “attractive physical descriptions” alone, or did the confidence displayed by a woman describing herself as attractive play some role in it? Confidence is sexy! So no matter how you describe yourself, how many facets you display, be confident in describing them and yourself!

Work Your Phone Sex Blog Like A Vintage Stag Film

You’ve probably heard about the old stag films, maybe even seen a few. But do you understand their magic?

Naughty and even nudie films have a long history, dating back to the early 1900s. While all these forerunners of today’s porn are sometimes referred to as “blue” movies, stag films held a specific audience and purpose — and they most definitely should not be confused with any old vintage porn.

Stag films were short, one or two reel films, which were sexually explicit — and therefore illegal. In order to avoid both censors and the law, these films were shown on an underground circuit which consisted primarily of “officially decried but socially tolerated”* semi-public male spaces. These were “members’ only” gatherings, where the members (no pun intended!) knew one another. Think fraternities, men’s clubs, and other men-only parties (often called “men’s smoking parties” or “smokers”).

(There’s a reason bachelor parties are also called “stag parties”!)

Because these were groups of heterosexual males (or closeted males passing as heteronormative), married or not, the literal focus of the films was most definitely the female form and male arousal. However, this was not to set off circle jerks. Instead, stag films were designed to be a form of homosocial entertainment designed to enhance male bonds of friendship and general “manliness”. In Latex and Lingerie: Shopping for Pleasure at Ann Summers Parties, Merl Storr provides a concise definition of gender scholar Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick‘s working definition of homosocial bonding:

Sedgwick defines male homosociality as a form of male bonding with a characteristic triangular structure. In this triangle, men have intense but nonsexual bonds with other men, and women serve as the conduits through which those bonds are expressed.

[If you’re confused how this actually works, just recall groups of men making catcalls at women, lewd jokes at the expense of women, or otherwise doing what Linda Williams accurately calls “verbal ejaculation”.]

After WWII, when film projectors for home use became affordable and popular, the traveling underground stag film circuit began its slow death. Now, individuals were able to purchase 8mm versions of stag films. But the viewing space & social construct of quasi-public, quasi-private places (i.e. the “men will be men” events held in fraternity house, Elk’s Lodge, or even bar room basements located in the atomic family home) didn’t change. The specific purpose, & therefore the craft of, this specific genre of adult films remained the same.

What makes the stag films such a specific film genre?  As Linda Williams states in Hard Core: Power, Pleasure, and the “Frenzy of the Visible”, stag films were designed “to arouse and then precisely not to satisfy”. In fact, a handful of early examples withstanding, stag films didn’t end with what we now view as the requisite cum-shot. Rather, they built up to a penetration shot — leaving more, including his dick, to come.

While showing complete nudity & real, not simulated, coitus (thus being actual hardcore productions and not the “pure” softcore pinup stuff we normally think of as tease), these films didn’t end with the usual porno bang. Instead, stag films left the viewers wanting — craving — a bang of their own.

This is why so many brothels played stag films for their waiting clients. Such films served as great tease, an extended sort of foreplay, keeping the men waiting for sexual services and companionship in the mood — and still in need of the sex services. The power of these films lasted even past the demise of fraternal organizations & men’s clubs in the 1960s. Then stag films moved into the coin-operated arcades & peepshow booths located in adult bookstores & sex toy shops. The income they raised went beyond the pay-as-you-go insertion of coins, fanning the flames of sexual desire, prompting additional need-driven purchases in the stores.

Now that you understand the magic of the old stag films, do you see how they compare to your blog posts or other website content?

Your website and/or blog is comparable to the semi-public space of a frat-house or Elk’s club and your content needs to get the guys going, make them want your services — but not let them “rub out” their need of you either.

It’s easy to say that a phone sex operator (or other sex worker) should “tease” their website visitors into paying for their services; but sometimes the word “tease” is translated as meaning your content “shouldn’t be so graphic”. But as stag films show us, that’s not necessarily the case. You can be as explicit and pornographic as you want. Just be sure that all your tease and foreplay leaves them seeking satisfaction — and your specific brand of satisfaction at that.

If you’re not sure just how to leverage the same sort of power at your blog or website, contact me for a one-on-one consultation appointment.

* The phrase “officially decried but socially tolerated” comes from an editorial printed in The Nation, July 4, 1936, regarding Shaw’s Mrs. Warren’s Profession; discovered via Eric Schaefer’s Bold! Daring! Shocking! True: A History of Exploitation Films, 1919-1959.

Buy A Phone Sex Ad At Tumblr

As some of you know, I have a Tumblr site that promotes phone sex and phone sex operators. As you can from this screenshot, this site currently ranks #1 (or thereabouts) for Google searches for phone sex Tumblr.

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For PSOs who want a little extra bump in attention, I’m offering the chance to promote yourself via a post at the site. These posts will also be featured on the sidebar, for a little added attention. Each post will feature a photo or image of your choosing, up to 200 word of text (that you provide), and it will, of course, link to your blog, website, phone sex operator profile, and/or phone sex listing. (Up to two links per post.) You can use the PayPal link below. Once I receive the payment, I will contact you to collect all your “pertinents and such.”


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Spots are available on a first come, first served basis — however, I do reserve the right to mix posts up a bit to vary things. (That is in your best interest!)

This is a limited time offer, at a low introductory rate; rates are subject to change. Lock in the prices now.

Today’s Phone Sex Tip: Places For Phone Sex Operators To Advertise

There’s no such thing as a free phone sex call, right professional phone sex operator? So what makes you think advertising and promoting your phone sex business will be free?

The Marketing Whore has an excellent post about advertising options for adult websites, including phone sex operator websites, listings, and profiles here.

PS I already tweeted a link to this post, but apparently many of you missed it or are not following me at Twitter — so I’m posting both links here now. *wink*