Tag Archives: gifts

News Regarding Wishlists, Gifts, & Tips

With all the talk about gifts & tips (or tributes), platform percentages & issues, payment options & costs, I wanted to highlight some new options…

GiftRocket

GiftRocket, an online means of giving gift cards (which can be converted to cash via a bank transfer or a credit to their credit card in a matter of a few days), now has launched a custom url service. For those not familiar with GiftRocket, you likely want to know a few things…

GiftRocket Is Safe, Secure, & Anonymous: The gift giver need only have the gift recipient’s email address in order to send a gift. And that’s all they will see; no banking or other info is shared. Also, the person receiving the gift only sees the gift sender’s email address — and any information they wish to send.

GiftRocket Fees: There are no fees for the person receiving the gift; however, gift givers pay a small fee of roughly $2 and 5% of the gift amount. “In certain cases, the fee may be different depending on several factors.” However, the fee amount is displayed at checkout so there is no confusion.

GiftRocket Location: Unfortunately, GiftRocket is not an international service; meaning if you are outside of the US, you are not currently able to use it.

As for GiftRocket’s new custom link option, here’s my example. It which comes with a custom shorter URL, grock.me/PhoneSexSecrets, which is perfect for use on social media sites, especially with Twitter’s 140 character limit.

This new GiftRocket service was likely prompted by both PayPal’s new PayPal Me service as well as SquareUp’s Cash.Me service. I never, ever, recommend PayPal* for phone sex or anything adult. And Cash.Me** isn’t an option I’d recommend either. While Gift Rocket has no mention in their terms of service that prohibits any occupations, I would make it absolutely clear to your clients that use of GiftRocket/GrockMe is only for gifts/tips and that they should keep all messages/comments clean. And, if you are doing the financial domination thing, well, use at your own risk.

If this seems too risky, then go with a company that actually had sex workers & adult entertainers in mind when it was created.

DeliveryCode

As I shared on Twitter, DeliveryCode now allows you to convert your gifted vouchers into cash. For those not familiar with Delivery Code, it’s the only wishlist service where you can shop from virtually anywhere (any store) and your personal information, including your delivery address, is securely hidden from the buyer. Additional need-to-know:

DeliveryCode Is Safe, Secure, & Anonymous: The whole shopping / gifting site is based on anonymity. And, contrary to what you may have heard when the site started, Delivery Code does indeed use HTTP Secure (https), encrypted communications security.

DeliveryCode Fees: Again, fees are paid by the gift giver.

DeliveryCode Location: As a company, DeliveryCode is based in the UK — but is open internationally and allows international sales, though not all countries are allowed/supported. Again, if you researched the company in its early days, you may have heard about some issues in shipping costs. To clarify, here’s what DeliveryCode says in their terms about shipping costs:

A delivery charge is added to every wishlist purchase to cover any shipping costs incured from the 3rd party retailer. It is a set fee which does not differentiate between retailers. The exact fee is based on whether it is domestic or international delivery and is also dependent on the currency of the product. Our delivery charges have been calculated based on average retailer delivery charges.

Again, these charges would be paid by the gift giver.

However, should you become excited by the idea of shopping internationally for your gift wishlist items, items sent from a different country may require you, the recipient, to pay duties and/or taxes.

Another caveat, DeliveryCode does not accept auction items on wishlists. This is for the obvious reasons of bidding and time-frames. (Personally, if such sites are your thing, I would save such wishlist items for your blog/website/tweets — and use GiftRocket as a means of getting the amount gifted.)

Another caveat: no Android App. Yet, anyway.

Overall, it would seem that in terms of being a sex worker, DeliveryCode is the most accepting and therefore has the least risk.

Yes, I am on Twitter! @PhoneSexSecrets

Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose asap!

* PayPal should be avoided at all costs by anyone in the adult entertainment industry; 1) we are NOT welcome there, 2) unless you have a business name and mailing address tied to a banking account which is not tied to your personal information you are not anonymous, 3) PayPal is not a bank and so can freeze your entire account and claim all money in it — even that which is not tied to anything adult related.

** You can get booted or banned from the Cash.Me service, including loss of funds, if there’s a perception that you are either A) using this as payment for services or products or B) are believed to be involved in any adult industry. According to two different clients, Cash Me has booted PSOs using the gift-giving URLs based on client comments. Once, a client sent a tip to the operator along with comment stating “Thanks for the story”, which, apparently, was deemed “a transaction”. Another time, a “pay pig” felt guilty and notified the Cash Me that his payment was for a findom. In both cases, the operators’ accounts were cancelled, the money not deposited, their debit cards blocked, and both women were banned from the site; the clients’ accounts remained just fine. *sigh*

Coupon Codes For Wish List Shopping For PSOs, CamGirls, Etc.

Just a reminder about wishlist safety — for both clients and providers.

Also, if you shop at Sexclectic, for anyone at all this holiday season, I have exclusive codes you can use to save money:

* Enter code PHONESEXSECRETS and save 20% on any order.

* Enter code PSSTOYS and get $10 off any order of $50 or more.

Warning: A Low Battery Can Be A Threat To Your PSO Business

An associate of mine recently reviewed a couple of cell phone battery chargers (here and here) and I was reminded, yet again, of how my favorite Bluetooth headset battery has a much shorter life than my smartphone. The difference in battery life could mean the headset would “die”, resulting in dropped calls — if I wasn’t prepared ahead of time for very long calls. “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail,” is a huge motto of mine, so I believe in back-up plans for the back-up plan.

The problem with the battery life disparity isn’t the only issue either. Some phone sex and consulting calls can be quite long and even if you do not need to get up and walk around to retrieve something, your body might need the reprieve from sitting. That little walkabout  means I can’t leave my cellphone plugged into the charger. So when I read the review of the portable Juicebar® Multi-Device Pocket Solar Charger I decided to use one of the gift cards a client sent and give it a try.

Juicebar Multi-Device Pocket Solar ChargerI’ve only had it a week, but I love it.

It’s a similar size to my cell, so if I must travel away from the laptop or outlet where my mobile phone is charging, I simply plug the charger into my mobile, stack the Juicebar beneath my cell, and carry them both easily in one hand to go about my business — without interrupting my business. And the solar panel is a convenient option for those times I am too tired (lazy?) to walk it back and plug it in to recharge it.

Also worthy of note: When they say the Juicebar is a multi-device charger, they mean it; the charger comes with 4 adapters, so it will fit not only your phone, but your Kindle and many other gadgets. The reason I mention the Kindle, is that I have several regulars who like to gift me erotic ebooks so that we can share them and read our favorite parts to one another, and it’s nice to have a charger that works on multiple devices. (The Paperwhite really is idea for this; high contrast and no glare make for easy reading even when you are on the phone and/or have a hand busy!)

In any case, the point is that if you use your smartphone (or any mobile phone, really) for your phone sex work, consider the Juicebar or some other quality portable charger.

It’s Here! MPS Paid Dirty Chat!

As many of you know, I have been soooo looking forward to My Phone Site aka MPS delivering on their promise of a paid chat or instant messaging feature for phone sex operators. (Chat has always been incredibly popular with many of my regular phone sex clients and I’ve been dying for a phone sex platform site to start this very thing!) Well, the new pay to chat feature debuted at MPS this weekend. The system was checked for bugs and has now officially launched!

Among the awesome features:

Feature: The ability to charge for your time in chat. This is done by setting chat “locks”. Setting a lock involves toggling a lock icon, setting a dollar amount, typing a note regarding what the lock is for (it can be as simple as “Chat Lock Fee” or “Please pay to chat with me”), and clicking the “lock chat” button.

mps chat lock

Once this lock is set, the client cannot chat with you until the lock fee is paid. The MPS system keeps the chat lock request alive for 30 minutes, giving the client plenty of time to make up their mind and make their payment (but that means you must keep your chat window open in order not to miss the locked chat payment and begin messaging.)

Bonus: You are allowed to lock your chats, i.e make clients pay, as often as you’d like. (Financial domination, anyone?)

Feature: The ability to make money by receiving customer “gifts.” Like many social network sites which allow members to send one another little icon gifts, MPS chat allows clients to send you a little digital something — and, if the gift costs the client money, you get it!

Below are screenshots of what the clients see. In the first one, the red arrow points to the send gift button. Next, when the send gift button is clicked, a list of choices pops up. Then, when a gift is selected, clients see what (if anything) it costs to send and has the opportunity to send a note with the gift before committing to sending the gift.

mps chat gifts

gifts for chat

paid chat gift

Feature: The ability to temporarily block users. You have the ability to block MPS users for 30 minutes. This is especially handy if you have the same bozo relentlessly bothering you.

How It Works For Chat Operators:

Turning on chat is easy. Just login into your MPS website owner control panel and click the “open chat window” in the upper right hand corner. (“Open chat window” is in yellow, so you can’t miss it.)

A window will pop up, allowing you to activate chat by clicking “set online”. Shown here are both my Phone Sex Secrets listings; one for consults, the other for sex chat. You can also activate and deactivate all operators using the “action” drop-down option at the very top right.

mps pso chat window

Once you have logged into chat, you must keep that window open in order to receive, accept, lock, chat requests. (You needn’t keep the window visible, on top of all other windows and/or tabs, at all times — there is an audio alert to let you know you have a chat request.)

Your operator’s chat status, “offline” or “click to chat” buttons, will show under your operator’s image just like the “call” or “send message” buttons do — including in the MPS directory.

call phone sex secrets at mps chat message

Complete details are in this MPS video. (Running time approximately 5 minutes.)

MyPhoneSite.com Chat Video from Mps Sevices on Vimeo.

How It Works For Clients:

Simply click the “click to chat” button and your request will be sent. (If you do not have an MPS account, you will need to follow the prompts to set one up.)

This chat feature means more fun for everyone!

This is the greatest thing since sliced bread. *wink*

And MPS notes that more features are still to come:

This is version 1.0 and we will continue to upgrade the system as we move forward. Version 1.1 will include chat button code, a batch chat percentage feature (to change operator’s percentage by bulk), and a chat buddy list.

So stay tuned!

Safety First: Gifts & Wishlists For PSOs

It’s that time of year again, when naughty phone sex callers want to send good little phone sex operators gifts. But there are some things both should know.

First of all, gifts are just that — gifts. They are given freely, with no expectations in return; and they are not taxable income.

Secondly, gifts should be as safe to send as they are to receive. To that end, I must provide an update to ye olde holiday gift-giving post by mentioning a few things about safety issues using Amazon Wishlists.

While sending Amazon gift cards via email is still safe, using the Amazon Wishlist service is not. This is because when you place an item on your wishlist, the gift giver may not be purchasing the item directly from Amazon, but rather via a third-party — and that third-party may provide your personal information, including your real name and address, to the gift-giver. Sometimes they do so by offering the tracking option to purchasers. Other times it is not done so directly, but the information is part of any billing or customer service issues. Should you, the gift receiver, need to make any exchanges or otherwise contact the company who sent the gift, the gift-giver’s information may also be exposed. And, to be clear, there is no way you can avoid such things. For even if you opt to not provide a shipping address in your wishlist profile, you will need to provide one at some point in order to get your gift — and once you do, that third-party situation is activated.

It is wiser, and safer for all, for PSOs to use wishlist services which are kept completely private. Many stores offer them now, so they are not difficult to find; however, be sure to read their terms of service to be certain that both sender and giver are kept anonymous, their information kept private.

When it comes to adult items, such as sex toys and lingerie, you also want someone who has discreet shipping. One of the companies I have used for years, including the wishlist service, is Sexclectic. Not only is it the world’s largest adult products store, but it has the best prices, the most reliable, private, and secure online shopping services, and so-discreet-as-to-be-boring packaging. And, yes, it is free to use; there are no extra fees for the privacy.

It’s also easy; here’s how:

1) Go here to create your wishlist.

2) Once you’ve created your list, you will be directed to your account profile page where you fill out your shipping info as well as upload a photo & a message — including a link to your website. (See mine as an example; buying me a gift is optional lol)

3) Share the link to your wishlist. [You can also share these coupon codes with your clients so they can save when they buy your gifts: code PHONESEXSECRETS saves 20% Off (No Order Minimum), and code PSSTOYS gets you $10 Off ($50.00 Order Minimum).]

4) You can login to your wishlist at any time to add items, update shipping info, etc.

Today’s Phone Sex Tip: Gifts

While some phone sex platform sites do offer callers means of giving cash gifts or tips to independent phone sex operators, some callers and PSOs alike resist these options. One main reason the tip or tribute option is resisted is because the platform site takes a slice of that gift.

But another reason a caller might dislike giving a tip or cash gift is because it seems less than personal… They’d rather give flowers, lingerie, jewelry, take their favorite girl out to dinner… Something more romantic than cash left on the bedside table.

The most common solution to this phone sex operator gift-giving problem is Amazon. Amazon offers electronic gift cards which can be sent to anyone anonymously — as long as you have the recipient’s email address. However, some callers still are less than thrilled…

Because Amazon sells pretty much “everything,” some callers feel less than in control of what the PSO will opt to purchase with her gift card. It’s not just the controlling-type-A personalities, but the considerate, and even the worried who are concerned by the great number of options available at Amazon. They don’t want the PSO buying cereal or back to school supplies for her kids rather than getting herself a “real” gift — hey, just the idea of that real life stuff can ruin a guy’s fantasy! These guys would feel so much better if they knew what the phone sex operator was really getting.

A wise PSO (and even a wise caller) should know that there are other safe and anonymous ways to give gifts. Here are a few other options:

At iCardGiftCard, the gift giver can select specific gift cards from over 180 merchants, restaurants, etc.

GiftRocket’s Universal Gift Card has even more “everything” and felxibility than Amazon — including allowing a PSO to be treated to dinner, free drinks, get a mani-pedi, or go on a shopping spree at a local business.

Her Panty Club offers discreet shipping of panties, a one-time gift or multiple months in their panty of the month gift club service. (Discount code & info here.)

Plus, lots of websites, large and small companies, offer email gift certificate options. Maybe your favorite shop does too, so take a look! Please remember to read the FAQs and even ask about anonymity before you participate in their programs.

Payments, Gift Cards, Gifts, Tips, Taxes & PSOs

One potentially misleading statement made on the Good Morning America phone sex segment is creating a lot of drama. Near the end of the segment, Elizabeth Hasselbeck said, “For women who do not have bank accounts, some of the phone sex companies pay directly to a gift card.” This is raising concerns about everything from taxes and IRS industry scrutiny to alternative payment methods and confusion about gifts given to PSOs.

While I personally do not know of any companies making payments this way, I can only guess that there might just be companies who pay via a reloadable prepaid credit card of some sort. If they are legitimate paying and stable companies, they would be recording and reporting these sorts of payments just as they would checks, direct deposits, etc.

This is entirely different from gift cards and other gifts many phone sex operators receive from their clients, callers, and fans.

Which brings me to a post I had intended to make this holiday season, but have been too busy to get to: Gifts, Tips & Taxes.

Tips, or “tributes” as they are often called on the platform sites, are collected and dispensed by the phone sex platform company and therefore are part of reportable, taxable, income.

Gifts, however, are another matter.

Gifts are items, cash, or gift certificates and gift cards, which come from clients via traditional stores and shopping sites, such as Amazon. Among the most popular ways for a PSO to be pampered and adored, be it for a birthday, a holiday or just a “thank you” for spectacular service, is to be given an Amazon gift card. (While wishlists are popular, there are some concerns regarding privacy as ordering and tracking can show the recipient’s name and address; Amazon gift cards, on the other hand, can be sent to someone far more securely, and quickly, with only an email address shared.) In any case, gifts are defined by the Internal Revenue Service as follows:

The gift tax is a tax on the transfer of property by one individual to another while receiving nothing, or less than full value, in return. The tax applies whether the donor intends the transfer to be a gift or not.

The gift tax applies to the transfer by gift of any property. You make a gift if you give property (including money), or the use of or income from property, without expecting to receive something of at least equal value in return. If you sell something at less than its full value or if you make an interest-free or reduced-interest loan, you may be making a gift.

And the gift giver, or donor, is generally responsible for paying the gift taxes.

The IRS itself says it cannot make recommendations about specific individuals or their tax filings — and neither will I, other than to say it’s best to consult a professional regarding your individual questions and/or concerns. However, as you can see, gifts and gift cards are completely different from any company paying employees or dispensing income earned via any sort of credit or gift cards.