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Twitter Policy Changes: About Canned Promo Tweets

As I warned you on Twitter, as of the 23rd of March, Twitter no longer tolerates multiple identical tweets. Not on one account, not across multiple accounts. The fine folks at dlvr.it aptly & concisely convey the changes:

Posting Duplicate Content to Multiple Twitter Accounts is no longer allowed If you manage more than one Twitter account – you can no longer post the same or similar original content to those accounts. Posting the same content more than once to a single Twitter account is not allowed If you are like many major brands, and recycle the same tweet more than once on a single Twitter account - you’re now in danger of suspension or termination from Twitter.

Obviously, these changes are intended to stop troll army & bot action activities such as those we saw with Russian attacks & proliferation of Fake News. But these changes will affect phone sex operators and other providers using Twitter to promote their businesses.

The biggest impact here will be those automated services such as NiteFlirt “Shouts” & other “I just sold” automated tweet notices from platforms such as iWantClips.

So far, I’ve yet to find a platform covering this policy change at Twitter, and what, if anything, they plan to do about “Shouts” and similar automated promotional tweets. In my opinion, now is the time to stop using them. Unless you want additional reasons to find yourself more than shadowbanned, i.e. find yourself suspended or deleted from Twitter.

But, of course, I would say that, right? I’ve never been a fan of those automated things.

While I completely understand the appeal of such hands-free, “live” promotional tools for providers, often providing content (tweets) when providers were busy or away, the results are typically spammy looking. With today’s Twitter rules, it’s best to just avoid the potential problems.

However, I do understand that these promotional tools can work.

If they are used properly.

Case in point, the lovely Taylor, aka housewifeswag. She’s recently tweeted about just how well those automated clip sales tweets (specifically Many Vids “Promo Blaster”) works for her. Check out the whole thread here:

The point here that Taylor hasn’t acknowledged, is that she is an avid & entertaining tweeter who regularly interacts with her fans and followers.

This is why her Twitter page doesn’t look like a bunch of promotional spam. (Shown at left; screencap taken a couple of days ago as I didn’t want to post so much in one day! Since then, Taylor’s had a death in the family, but still, her page is typically genuinely fun!)

While we are all hoping platform sites will take appropriate actions regarding the automated promotional tweets, we cannot count on them.

The safest way to protect ourselves, our Twitter accounts, is to turn off the automated tools. The risks right now are too great to do otherwise. (And, with the current potential purge of sex workers on platforms, removing the automated risk of multiple identical tweets at least removes some of the mud – if not blood – from the muddy waters.)

But you still can tweet about being available for calls, having sold a clip, etc. Just write a unique tweet each time to remind your fans and potential customers that your content is available and selling. You can still include a photo and, of course, provide a link – always a good thing to do so folks can find what you are promoting. And a pic too. And you can also retweet yourself – once.

Just remember to do as the profitable providers do: Be sure to mix those promotional tweets in with other tweets/content.

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New additions to the site:

New, easier to schedule consultations, coaching, & tutoring sessions page!
A concise listing of all my instantly downloadable phone sex whitepaper guides!
A list of my most popular other services for PSOs — including rates and buy now options!

 

How To Deal With SESTA FOSTA

A few days ago, SESTA / FOSTA passed, creating dismay and fear within the sex worker community. While it appears that phone sex operatorsindie clip makers, and cam performers are not the target of the legislation, there are likely to be some changes for those providers too. Not just because the law is poorly written – and destined to hurt those they say they are protecting – but because the law is aimed at online platforms. Many sites are already taking action. Some are disappearing sections of the sites; some sites have entirely disappeared. And it is clear from the folks behind the law, that this is aimed not just at paid sexual encounters – but at sex itself.

Since the passage of the legislation, I have been compiling and sharing news and tips at the Phone Sex Secrets Twitter account. As that account is *knocks wood* not dealing with Twitter Shadowbanning, I hope I am signal boosting facts and tips for sex workers. Along with the retweets, I’ve been sharing some tips myself. But since shadowbanning is a real thing, because not everyone uses Twitter — and because this legislation is targeting online sites, I realize tweets may not be safe. So I am going to post a number of helpful links and tips here.

Three of the most practical threads on Twitter were from Lamina Vua, HarlotAdvocate, & Liara Roux. The Harlot Advocate’s thread has been preserved at Fairy Whore Mother. Liara Roux’s thread has been posted at Tits & Sass, so you can read it there. Lamina Vua’s thread, screen-shot images, are presented here so they do not get lost.

My tips:

#1 Make a list of trusted Twitter accounts — and follow them, so even if they are shadowbanned you can see their pages. Also on that list, include URL – so you can find them, even when they are shadowbanned & do not show up in searches (either by name or hastag).

#2 Do the same with their websites & contact info so that if they (or you!) are deleted from Twitter, you have a method of connecting.

#3 Keep a list of trusted publications & resources (i.e. organizations, not persons) which you can count on for industry news. One such place for this issue would be Survivors Against Sesta.

Additionally…

I recommend continuing to tweet and be active on the platform sites you are using so that clients can continue to find you — especially if you are moving to other platforms, etc., and wish for clients to be able to find you.

I also have threads & posts which you can share with clients. I know I recently advised against being too negative or sharing too much activism — but this is one of those times when it is worthy of mentioning actions clients can and should take. It helps them to continue to support you. (And sometimes sharing what someone else wrote removes the “sting” of negativity a bit!)

Both the thread on Twitter and the much more in-depth post on Tumblr are written specifically for clients — both in terms of education and actions they ought to take.

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Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose asap!

Even if you’ve been here before, you may have missed the new additions to the site:

New, easier to schedule consultations, coaching, & tutoring sessions page!
A concise listing of all my instantly downloadable phone sex whitepaper guides!
A list of my most popular other services for PSOs — including rates and buy now options!

Twitter Shadowbanning AKA The Circles Of Hell

A while ago I wrote about Twitter shadowbans. While it’s no laughing matter, I did make a joke about how no one knows exactly how it works, how many levels there are…

This became abundantly apparent to me recently when I discovered something new. New — and hideous.

But let me back up a bit, first.

No one knows exactly what is happening with Twitter shadowbans. Twitter won’t really confess to the practice. Even when you document what you can, use tools to check, etc.. But the basic premise is that while the shadowbanned are hidden from the general population, Twitter itself appears “normal” to shadowbanned.

However, I have noticed some inconsistencies which have led me to believe there are various types or levels of shadowbanning. Hence my levels of Hell reference.

It seems that in some cases of shadowbanning, it’s as simple (and devious) as noted above. If/when you are shadowbanned, you are not notified this has happened. Your Twitter experience looks the same. However, you will likely notice a few problems. For one, your stats aka analytics will show a drop in activity. When using search, you cannot find yourself — not by username or handle, not by hashtags. This is that part about others not being able to find you. Additionally, folks you mention (i.e. tweet to, using their @ handle) do not get notices that you have done so. Also, folks won’t get notices that you retweeted or replied to their tweets etc.. Leaving you to feel ignored or iced-out. Or just crazy.

The theory has been that you, the shadowbanned Twitter account, will not experience such things from folks who follow you. Meaning those who follow you will still see your tweets, can find you in searches and will get notices of mentions, replies, etc., and you will get notices from them too.

Yet, it doesn’t always seem to be so. For even when you follow all your followers, notifications go missing.

As it is difficult to prove a negative, this has made documenting shadowbans difficult.

However, I have just stumbled into another Twitter shadowban phenomenon — another circle of Hell. And I will document it here as best I can.

In this circle or level of Twitter’s Shadwoban Hell, even when you follow a shadowbanned account — and they follow you too — you will not find that their hashtags do not work.

For example, both CR/LF and I follow one another. I can see his tweets. (I’d show you a screencap, but there are boobs – hence his shadowban lol)

Yet, his tweets do not show up in searches. He only shows up in searches of “people”.

And relatively recently, he made a thread of sorts using the hashtag maybeishouldmasturbateinstead (a rather funny series of tweets with a rather powerful social commentary, I thought) — but even while I was able to read his tweet, clicking the hash resulted in nothing.

Like it never existed.

Puzzling, right?

And it makes it near impossible to find, follow, & share such tweets.

(And note to self: If you don’t want to risk this, make a real thread by using the reply function.)

But this weird bit of shadowbanning has more weirdness… Apparently, it also affects accounts which have, at some point or other, been shadowbanned — but are now fine. Case in point: The Peck & Call Girls. They have been shadowbanned a time or two – but are currently “normal.” Again, we follow one another. Yet, when I click on this tweet with the makebeautifulmusictogether hash, there are no results. Well, I should say, there were no results. After three days, the search results appeared.

Indicating what? That it takes a while to be unshadowbanned? …Does one need to move through the various circles of Hell while being reinstated?

Hell if I know.

What does this mean for you? What if you find yourself stuck in a circle of Hell? Well, you might not be able to name the circle of Hell, and therefore find yourself unable to identify just how to get out of it…

Advice on how to avoid or rid yourself of Twitter shadowban practices varies. Widely. And this too adds to my belief that there are a number of circles or levels. But best practices include:

* Avoid over-use of automated services. Not just platform promotional tweets based on sales etc., but those astrology things and even papers.

* Avoid over-use of hashtags. No more than 2 or 3 per tweet. And do not hijack mainstream trending hashtags with your adult smut.

* Avoid over-use of tweets with links. Not just adult links. Not only links to your site, platform, etc. But any links at all. Just tweet text. You know, speak like a person.

* Avoid over-use of mentions or tagging.

* Avoid tons of RTs, especially if from a specific account or two. Add to the conversation with a reply or, if you don’t mind being orphaned from the discussion, using the “Quote Tweet” option.

* Avoid over-use of adult images. (There are other images to share, ya know. And tease is a huge part of this industry!)

In many ways this is just a “do not be a spammer” thing.

Use a lot of text only tweets.

Yes, being flagged, blocked, muted, etc. is a problem — one which disproportionately is applied to — and censors — adult topics and accounts. That we cannot, as of yet, avoid. But we can likely limit other offenses, deeper circles of Hell.

Viceland & Slutever’s Beginner’s Guide To Camming

Last week, a promo for an episode of Viceland’s Slutever show went around on Twitter, causing quite a bit of upset. The promo tweet was for a Slutever episode (Season 1; Episode 6) on cam girls – and what was shown had many camgirls up in arms about the lack of sex positivity & whorearchy – if not outright whorephobia.

Unfortunately, like many movie trailers and television promos, the clips shown are removed from their context — a practice which does a huge disservice to the audience. And, in this case, was deemed harmful to cam performers themselves. Because I know this is often the case, I refrained from comment until I watched the episode in question.

As most readers, followers, and clients know, I’m not a cam performer; but in watching the Slutever cam girls episode, I was able to get some context for the “upsetting” promo-tweet. And as I suspected, it was not as bad as it seemed.

It’s of paramount importance to note that while the Cam Girl Boot Camp Trainer, Lilia Zavala,  of LA’s Studio 20 did correct the show’s host, Karley Sciortino aka @Slutever, about being “classy” and neither showing nor saying ‘cunt’  — Zavala did so in terms of training within the confines of Studio 20’s brand. (FYI, Studio 20 is based in Romania.)

Such things were not a statement or condemnation of women or cam performers who opt to use the word “cunt” or show it off. It was simply a matter of Studio 20’s cam girl brand being more about playful tease than other more explicit or direct forms of adult entertainment. This is what brands do. They differentiate themselves in the marketplace. And, as seen earlier in the show, there are more graphic & direct cam girl offerings presented – without any judgment.  As Zavala herself noted, “There are other platforms they go to for that. But this particular website I work with is very classy.”

So bitching about that one point of view — out of context — should stop. Ideally, it never would have happened — context is always important! (Personally, I think the selected bits were to showcase the hostess’ “slut” image.)

The Case Of The Misunderstood Promo is now solved. But I’m not done yet. Since I watched the whole show, I have a few other comments to make.

Some of the cam girl’s comments on the popularity and future of camming included noting that camming is “interactive,” “personal,” and “more of a reality show than porn – my reality porn.” Rather common — and spot on. At least for those who prefer visual adult entertainment.

As Andra, PR Manager at Studio 20, noted, camming’s not all about being a traditional beauty aka cis, white, blonde, Barbie image. “She needs to be fun, be smart. It doesn’t matter if she’s white, black, chubby, skinny, big boobs, small boobs, because we found out that in this business everybody’s somebody’s type.”

Amen.

When asked if most cam sessions result in something sexual happening, Andra at Studio 20 noted that about 60% of the time it does. (Yup, that means 40% of the time it is not.) Andra also noted that the draw of camming is building a relationship — and she feels this will only grow as ” a lot of people don’t have the time or want relationships in real life nowadays.”

Sciortino seems surprised.

(Honestly, after so many decades in sex work, I am continually shocked and amazed at people who are shocked and amazed to discover that sex work is a lot like being a therapist or at least simply providing companionship. I should no longer be surprised by this response; but I continue to be!)

At Studio 20 L.A., we meet a top banking, fulltime cam girl, Nikita Banx (@nikitabanx on Twitter). She says the top two interests or kinks she sees are feet and small penis humiliation (sph). She also points out that she’s on cam for 8 hours a day, 40 hours a week.

This is when Slutever/Sciortino realizes just how broad the job of being a cam girl is. “You have to be a therapist, you have to be sexy, you have to be like a girlfriend, but you also have to be like a dominatrix if someone wants it.”

To which Andra replies, “You have to be a woman. That’s all in the job.”

(Which might just be my favorite bit from the show! All the labor women provide that sex workers are savvy enough to profit from!)

The show’s host responds, “This is stressful.”

And Sciortino hasn’t even realized yet that girls at Studio 20 don’t have to take care of as much of the business side of things, including marketing, as that’s what Studio 20’s 50% – yes, 50% – take covers.

That’s the corporate camming side of things. Now the show delves into the indie side of camming.

We are now meet Ona Artist (@OnaArtist on Twitter), a woman who started her cam career on Instagram. One day, she posted a butt pic — and her world changed. Here, it is worthy of mentioning, that we are introduced to Ona as a professional photographer is taking photos of her. In other words, she spends money to make that money. It’s not just selfies which create the fame and popularity of over a million followers. No matter how great your ass is. What Artist says is that you need “photos that pop, photos that really hit the algorithm well.” And they don’t just take themselves. Clearly, Ona knows how to work the social media system.

To this, Slutever/Sciortino responds, “Wow. Being a cam girl is like a lot of work randomly.”

Randomly?!

Uh, whatever.

It’s a business. That’s not so random.

But then Slutever/Sciortino redeems herself. She says she has respect for Ona and cam girls and their “slutty industriousness.”

Slutever/Sciortino asks, “Do you think that camming is the future of pornography?”

Ona Artist responds, “Yes I think it’s the future – I think it’s already here, actually.”

Now Slutever/Sciortino wonders what that means for “us, the horny masses.”

So our hostess interviews Dr. Melinda Chateauvert aka The Whorestorian (@whorestorian on Twitter), author of Sex Workers Unite! A History of the Movement from Stonewall to SlutWalk.

Slutever/Sciortino asks about the popularity of camming in adult entertainment.

Melinda “Mindy” Chateauvert responds, “I think that camming has been popular for a long time and I think that the rise of camming was aided by not only changes in technology, and the fact  that  a lot of women who were interested in camming could do it by themselves, but also for a lot of women this was a safe way of doing sex work but not actually having contact with clients.”

Since Chateauvert isn’t into slut-shaming or any of that crap, I take this simply as a fact. Some simply do not wish to be hands-on, full-service sex workers. And that’s OK. Sex work — and the type of it — is a choice.

Chateauvert is also asked if camming will replace pornography. “I think it is very separate. It’s a different kind of performance but I don’t think one will replace the other.”

(I feel the same way about phone sex. It is different, it is its own thing. One doesn’t necessarily replace the other because there are unique aspects and connections to each form of entertainment.)

But back to Slutever and Chateauvert as they discuss the ever-surprising notion of not masturbating but “just talking with a sex worker.”

Chateauvert, The Whorestorian, says, “People want to have someone who they think they can talk to about things that they may not want to share with a person they consider respectable.”

Slutever thinks she’s catching on, and tentatively asks,”So in a way, the sex worker is non-judgemental because they’re in a position which is like sort of seedy…”

Chateauvert clarifies. “Right. I mean their view is a sex worker has experienced everything or knows everything and is not going to make the judgement – and also because we expect sex workers to be confidential and that’s, you know, a super kind of rule number one in the trade is you don’t betray a client’s secrets.”

Absolutely!

After noting the “slutty confessional” nature of camming, Slutever realizes that clients are private about their “voyeurist hobby” (something my survey data supports), — yet we still manage to have a brave male client willing to discuss his camming habit. Well, a bit… Evan, one of Ona Artist’s biggest fans, does share that why he watches. It’s “a little bit of sunshine” during the day, an “escape.” (Which is why I will always caution you about the subjects to blog and tweet about!)

As you might imagine, watching Slutever as she watches Evan watch Ona is more than a bit awkward — thankfully, we jump back to the Whorestorian.

Our hostess asks Dr. Chateauvert, “Do you think that camming will fill in for actual human relationships?”

Kudos for Chateauvert’s reply: “No. I don’t see us going to some sort of sci-fi future where 12 people live in the same room and are only talking to other people via Internet, but I think camming actually facilitates interaction in a way that is much more comfortable and safer and open.”

Ditto many other forms of sex work.

Overall, this specific episode of Viceland’s Slutever, is totally worthy of watching. Even with all my spoilers. *wink* Because, you know, it’s a television show with images — moving images. And because what stood out to me might not be what’s important to you. So do watch it if you’re at all interesting in camming.

Just note that you’ll have to get over the vocal fry of the host (and a few other people).

Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose asap!

Even if you’ve been here before, you may have missed the new additions to the site:

New, easier to schedule consultations, coaching, & tutoring sessions page!
A concise listing of all my instantly downloadable phone sex whitepaper guides!
A list of my most popular other services for PSOs — including rates and buy now options!

Yes, I am on Twitter! @PhoneSexSecrets

Update: I No Longer Recommend Any MPS Platform Or Service

I was going to write a very detailed post about what’s all transpired since the Spring 2016 debacle at MPS. But why waste so much energy? You’re busy; I’m busy.

The short story is this: MPS clearly has gone through some changes, legal and personality wise, as documented by an October 4th, 2017, email. Whether these changes were really for the best, or even intended to be for the best, I cannot say. I have repeatedly asked, via phone and email, for information which would clarify such matters. I have received exactly zero replies. I have repeatedly asked, again via phone and email, for satisfactory results in the aftermath of closing even affiliate banking accounts — without paying funds owed. Again, I have received exactly zero replies.

Zero.

Which is exactly the number of fucks I now give for MPS.

The situation is this: MPS is not paying their debts to providers. Nor are they paying their debts to affiliates. Neither are they responding to any communications. (I doubt they are even listening, as often their voicemail boxes are so full one cannot leave a message; I suspect a sweeping “delete all messages” as the response to that.)

On top of that, their sites have code issues. It is likely they are not paying programmers and coders as well. Often their sites are actually down; perhaps a sign they are not paying for hosting either. And when one can access the sites, it’s obvious that there’s been a vast abandonment on the part of providers as only a handful of providers are available at any time.

Should you be among those who remain under the faith fantasy that you will somehow be exempt from all this nasty business, consider how long before all this catches up to you — either via non-payment or even just a complete lack of customer base?

The bottom line is this: I no longer recommend anyone use MPS.

For the record, MPS has and continues to operate under a number of names, including My Phone Site, LLC (which supposedly ran under parent company MFT Services) as well as the name MFT Services, LLC, They run a number of sites, such as PhoneSexBook, PhoneMoreSex, and, presumably, a number of premium white label phone sex sites. Searching those names will give you a lot more information about this company’s history, ripoff reports, consumer complaint filings, etc.

You can Google all you wish. But cut your losses now. Stop using it. And if you never used it, don’t start. 

PS I will be removing all links to MPS & replacing them with this post; just give me a few days to get that all done.

Surprise! Cam Girls (PSOs & Other Sex Workers) Want To Build Wealth & Feel Empowered By Their Work [Infographic]

Stripchat recently polled a cross-section of webcam models for insight into their lives as not only performers but as female entrepreneurs in this emerging industry & created an infographic from the data. While I’m not a cam expert (at least not in cam sites; I know a lot about one-on-one camming on sites such as NiteFlirt), I do believe a lot of the info presented here would be similar to that of phone sex operators and other sex workers — if anyone cared to ask us.

Look! Women get these jobs for the same reason most humans get jobs: to build wealth & feel empowered. (Which is a bit redundant; money is empowerment.)

Of course the infographic came with a press release:

The infographic, “Female Empowerment – Cam Model Insights That’ll Blow Your Mind…” details the motivations for becoming webcam entertainers, and most women polled (87%) said they “feel empowered by their webcam careers” while others appreciate the freedom of working from home and building wealth as their own bosses’.

“As a new company that’s focused on our cam models’ best interests, we decided to take an informal poll of performers in order to find out what motivates them and what we can do to help create a more successful business for them,” said Stripchat Head of Business Development Jim Austin.

The majority of entertainers polled by Stripchat work 30 hours a week or more (44%), are married with no kids (42%), focused on saving for retirement (45%); experienced models earn $300 a day and can make up to $128,000 a year (on average) and the majority of entertainers hold down jobs in the corporate sector (52%), with an eye on entrepreneurship.

“People are really starting to understand the importance of building wealth and preparing for the future in a business with so much flexibility in terms of hours and location,” said Austin. “Stripchat is ideal for models to use for selling not only live cam shows but videos and photo gallery content as well.”

My comments? Well, 150 is a small sample, but at least it gives you an inkling… Your mileage will definitely vary in terms of pay. And I definitely would urge that 34% to tell their partners; such lies of omission rarely turn out well. Plus, how can your partner support you if they don’t know what you are doing? Just leads to more isolation. Something that’s tough enough in sex work.

PS For more on what camgirls do:

What’s It Like To Be A CamGirl?

What Women Want To Know About Being A CamGirl

Shadowbanned On Twitter? What You Need To Know

With the recent changes to Twitter policies, more and more folks are concerned about the so-called shadowbanning. Shadowbanning, also known as stealth banning or ghosting, is when your tweets are hidden from conversations aka hashtag searches. In other words, your Twitter account is visible, all the tweets can be seen – except when a person clicks a hashtag and your tweet (including the hash, of course) is not to be found. Similarly, your tweets will not show up in threads and conversations. All of this naturally neutralizes your ability to be found and therefore participate in conversations.

Other nasty side effects of being shadowbanned include not having notifications of your @ mentions delivered to the account you mention, your own account not showing up in searches for it, and your most recent images not being shown in the most recent grid, etc..

It should be noted that Twitter is not the only social media site or digital community to use shadowbanning; it’s just that Twitter has been the largest social media site remaining open to adult folks, so its shadowbanning impacts us the most.

Shadowbanning has a long history of use. Originally, it was used in online communities to keep spammers at bay — without tipping them off that they were being subtly blocked. It is designed to ban the comments of specific users whilst keeping the user ignorant that they have been banned.

Since shadowbanning is designed to keep the banned in the shadows of knowledge, not even knowing they have been so banned, you might have to use a tool to discover it for yourself. Here’s a free way to do that.

How does shadowbanning happen?

It appears one of the primary ways your tweets can be shadowbanned are the dreaded sending of “reports” of tweets. While based on user reports, Twitter then uses artificial intelligence (AI) to attempt to discern things, such as mature or controversial topics, which get other users to report, mute, or block an account.

It’s important to note that there’s no human judgment made here. Hence the additional concerns with new Twitter policies regarding sex. As noted at YNOT:

The sections dealing with non-consensual nudity and unwanted sexual advances may be the most relevant to the adult entertainment industry. As Starr himself admitted in the email, entire porn genres are dedicated to non-consent and stalker fantasies. Nevertheless, Twitter has expanded its definition of non-consensual nudity “to more broadly include content like upskirt imagery, ‘creep shots,’ and hidden camera content,” Starr wrote.

“We will immediately and permanently suspend any account we identify as the original poster/source of non-consensual nudity and/or if a user makes it clear they are intentionally posting said content to harass their target,” Starr stated in the email. “We will do a full account review whenever we receive a Tweet-level report about non-consensual nudity. If the account appears to be dedicated to posting non-consensual nudity then we will suspend the entire account immediately.”

Starr also noted it’s nearly impossible for Twitter to distinguish between real and faux non-consensual nudity, so “[w]e would rather error [sic] on the side of protecting victims and removing this type of content when we become aware of it.”

In a departure from previous policy, Twitter’s safety team will not require a report from an alleged victim before suspending an account for non-consensual content. Adult industry companies that produce non-consent fantasy material need to be aware the proposed new policy could be weaponized by anti-porn activists, competitors, dissatisfied customers and people who simply enjoy creating drama.

These new policies are ambiguous and subjective enough — without trading human involvement for AI. Yet, even if your account is not shut down for dealing with such (or similar) fantasy material, reports (complaints) — especially multiple reports — could lead to your account being shadowbanned. And since the act of shadowbanning users is to keep them in the dark about it, Twitter offers no official help.

Shadow banning, it should be noted, happens to mainstream folks too. And it’s here that we may find the solution to shadowbanning on Twitter. Tania (of When Tania Talks) reports on a tip from Milly (of Mini Adventures) that seems to work:

So what was this genius idea? Well, apparently the world revolves around money. Milly found that by contacting the Twitter Ads team and suggesting that she wanted to place an ad, but her hashtags weren’t working resulted in her Twitter shadowban being lifted. This was done within two hours of contacting the Twitter Ads team.

Apparently, just asking about the situation — not actually paying for ads — works. (Though, if you are shadowbanned, even paying for ads might be a worthy solution!) Though it should be noted that many adult accounts won’t be able to buy Twitter ads, if you’re stuck in shadowbanned land on Twitter it may be worth giving this a try. (At least you could open a dialogue.)

You can check here & here for more tips on dealing with Twitter shadowbans on my Twitter.

All of this shadowbanning — and general signs of the pornocalypse — is just additional proof to me that one needs a website of their very own. Yes, participate on other sites, playing by their rules. But never be entirely dependant on the practices, policies, and whims of another site.

UPDATE: 3/24/2018 New post with documentation and updated tips!

Help With Games, Assignments & Tasks For Phone Sex Operators

As I mentioned, I’m working on a number of whitepapers to help with your indie PSO business. The latest release is about creating games, assignments, and tasks for phone sex callers and clients.

I do not offer scripts, neither for phone sex calls nor items to sell — nor any prepackaged “canned” services of any kind. That’s not what your clients want, so such things are not of value to you. However, this list of games & assignment/task suggestions is designed to give you various forms of online sexual play which you can use and profit from by selling in Pay To Views (PTVs), Goodies, and via stores on most other phone sex platforms.

This whitepaper includes an honest description of what separates games and tasks from traditional pic, video, and audio sales; as well as covers the benefits of such games and how to maximize them for profits (immediate and long-term, via bonding with clients). And, of course, there are numerous suggestions for types of games to play, assignments and tasks to offer.

Buy from Phone Sex Secrets through Niteflirt.com

The paper is over 4,000 words, includes a few resource links, and is in an easy to read PDF format.

This should be all the information and inspiration you need to create your own profitable phone sex operator games for PTVs, Goodies, and even calls. However, if you feel you need more assistance, feel free to contact me regarding your own personal consultation session.

More phone sex biz whitepapers can be found here.

Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose asap!

Yes, I am on Twitter! @PhoneSexSecrets

In Case You Missed It… Phone Sex Secrets News

Been especially busy with PSO consultation work, interviews, working on phone sex whitepapers, and a revamp of both that NF page as well as some things here at the site… So much to do! But wanted to hit a few key points of Phone Sex Secrets news…

I will be updating the consultation page soon, not only to better reflect all the services I offer to PSOs, but, in case you missed the tweeted announcement, I will be increasing my consultation rates by the end of May. This due to reasons I stated in my recent interview at Webcam Startup:

This is an interesting time for me. As the demand for my PSO consulting services grows, I am definitely feeling the push and pull effect…

The simple math here is that there only one of me. So for every consulting session I have, every bit of work I do wearing that hat, I am unable to entertain my phone sex callers. Since I certainly make more with my actual phone sex services, I am now in the place where I am being forced to decide just what needs to give…

The truth is, as a consultant, I could be charging, easily, up to 10 times what I currently charge. I have resisted this so that I could be a more affordable resource. But, as I have been in this position for nearly a year now, soon I am going to have to take my own advice about stress and self-care and make a decision.

Taking one’s own advice can be difficult. *sigh* As for how much the rate will increase, well, I’m not sure… It won’t be 10 times the current rate; but I’ve given myself a deadline & will make the tough call soon.

(To book more than a one hour session, simply use the drop-down box to see multiple hour offerings.)

Speaking of interviews…

I was featured in a three-part series at YNOT Cams. Since this was three articles, it’s much more in-depth than some of the other articles about phone sex: part one, part two, & part three. Also quite informative if you are a camgirl or another type of sex worker and are thinking of adding phone sex to your service offerings — or are interested in making a complete switch. (If I do say so myself!)

And, there’s another project in the works with a rather major media company — I’m dying to talk about it, but *knocks wood* the time is not right yet. But soon, I hope!

I will likely announce each of the whitepapers as I publish them, but wanted to let you know what’s in the works… I am nearly finished with the one on creating games, assignments, and tasks for phone sex callers and clients; so that should arrive soon. Also, the long-anticipated paper on using social media and blogging to market your phone sex business. So much going on, so stay tuned!

Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose asap!

Yes, I am on Twitter! @PhoneSexSecrets

Important! More NiteFlirt Policy Changes

I tweeted about this earlier today; but if you PSOs (“Flirts”) logged in at NF today, you likely saw this notice about changes in terms of service (TOS) policies at the phone sex platform site:

Please note that NiteFlirt does not permit the following content:
Explicit or suggested willingness to violate NiteFlirt’s policies such as “no taboos” and “no limits”
Non-consensual content
Blood play
Needle play
Knife play
Abduction fantasies
Forced intoxication

Please remove any content relating to these topics before next Monday. On Tuesday, February 28, we will be removing all listings, profiles, and Goody Bags containing this content.
For more about NiteFlirt’s policies, see Play Fair Basics. Please join us in the forums for more information if you have comments and questions.

Annoyingly, the link to the forum link doesn’t really work; like most direct links to any forum post, you get bounced to the main forum page & have to search or scroll for it. Thankfully, it is a “starred” or “pinned” thread, entitled “Policy Changes – Please read!”.

The main post is as follows:

As of today, NiteFlirt will no longer permit the following:

  • Explicit or suggested willingness to violate NiteFlirt’s policies such as “no taboos,” “no restrictions,” and “no limits”
  • Non-consensual content
  • Blood play
  • Needle play
  • Knife play
  • Abduction fantasies
  • Forced intoxication

If you have any content relating to these topics we ask that you please remove it before Tuesday, Feb. 28. On Tuesday, we will unaccept all listings, profiles, and Goody Bags containing this content.

You’ll note we are prohibiting the popular terminology of “no taboos.” As many of you have pointed out, “no taboos” suggests that a Flirt is willing to violate our policies and therefore engage in content we do not permit (even if that is often not the intent). By prohibiting this content, and other content that suggests you are willing to circumvent our policies, we make great strides in ensuring NiteFlirt remains a safe place for you to run your business and we minimize the requests for prohibited content that you receive from customers.

In that vein, we are also changing the “Anything Goes” category name to “Extra Kinky.” You will see this change in the coming days.

This begs a very obvious question, “Why?” As you may already be aware, FetLife was hit with a huge blow a few weeks ago and are currently unable to process credit cards (you can read more about that here). In order to protect NiteFlirt, our Flirts, and our community as a whole, we have reevaluated our policies and decided to make some changes.

We are happy to engage in a discussion regarding this change, however we ask that you leave politics out of the discussion and remain respectful towards us and your fellow Flirts. While it’s hard to ignore the role that politics plays, let’s make our moms happy and not discuss politics at the dinner table. In addition, we will not comment on the situation at Fetlife or the decisions they have made.

Because tweets, replies, and such can be difficult to follow, I will repeat some tweets with key points in this post — with links to tweets in case you wish to share/participate on Twitter. While I am quickly posting this news regarding NF, I am not part of the company itself; these opinions are my own. And I do recommend logging in and reading the entire forum thread, as Erin is replying to specific questions (along with referring folks to have their profiles, listings, goody items, etc. reviewed by Play Fair).

These changes, as noted, are based largely on what happened at FetLife regarding their credit card processing. As we know, the limits credit card processing companies, merchant accounts, and other financial institutions place on sex workers and the adult industry at large are bullshit creations of censorship and proof of the Pornocalypse. I obviously do not like it; but this is a fact of life & livelihood we have to deal with.

[Unlike NF, I don’t mind political talk; my parents encouraged political talk at the table. However, I just don’t have the time to rant today (I am barely fitting this post in as it is!) So feel free to comment here, on Twitter, etc. regarding the politics an culture of discrimination.]

The main point here is to address issues of consent. I know it’s particularly silly when this is fantasy talk between consenting partners, a caller and a phone sex operator. But people (in this case, financial institutions) still don’t get how this works. So they try to protect and manage things for us.

[And here I will take a moment to rant. Note that already in the terms of service at NF, one cannot discuss sexual bondage without making it clear that at least one of the submissive’s limbs is not bound. See, there’s to be “no penetration with all four limbs bound.” Which is not only an affront to those of us with rape fantasies, but an insult to those of us who are rape survivors by acting as if one limb was free — or we were not bound at all — we were not really raped!]

But back to the issue at hand here.

NF now instructs all Flirts to remove any references to any abduction or rape fantasies. From the further discussion on the forum, it seems an any forced or coerced scenes, especially those involving penetration are now forbidden. This includes oral penetration, as in “forced intoxication.” However, currently, “forced bi” or “forced feminization” are allowed (apparently as it is seen as “dressing” and role play, not penetration).

Also included in this TOS revision, are matters of skin penetration — including fantasies involving castration, knife & needle play, and any blood play. However, none of this is new as all of it, including menstrual play, has always been off limits.

What is new, is that castration appears prohibited; even if the chemical kind. (Again, this is all fantasy play — no one, no matter how much he begs, actually is castrated. But, it’s thought-police time.)

In order to address the perception that the phrases “no taboos,” “no limits,” “anything goes,” and the like are communicating that PSOs are tossing aside TOS, NF is banning such phases and, presumably, their derivatives. Also, NF is changing the “Anything Goes” category name to “Extra Kinky.” It must be pointed out that “Anything Goes” is currently both a NF category and an NF subcategory; yet it is unclear at this time if this change will affect both the category and the subcategory. [Here, I could get lost in the whole general oddness of NF’s categories… But I won’t.] What matters to Flirts & callers alike is the fact that any properly edited listings in “Anything Goes” will supposedly be automatically changed to the new “Extra Kinky” title — and links to those listings will not be lost. (One assumes hopes this will be done in both the category and the subcategory and via proper redirection. Also, that it will also work seamlessly with the affiliate program.)

What happens if your profile, listing, Goodie, etc. is not properly edited to address these announced changes? They will be marked “unaccepted,” and, like the last time we went through this, using the “red thumbs down icon.” If this is truly how NF proceeds, your listings, at least, can still be found if clients have bookmarked them or have come to them via a direct link on a website, tweet, etc. (Which is, again, why I am always pushing you to have your own website; for clients to bookmark them.) If callers know and dial your direct extension number, lines should also work.

As I said on Twitter, it should be noted that callers will not see any such notice when they login. Nor has the official NF Twitter posted a damn thing about this. Which means, once again, NF is relying on PSOs to communicate the issue & placate customers. This is unfortunate. But savvy Flirts will be on this, ready to address client concerns; even if NF isn’t.

Again, I strongly urge any PSOs using NF to read in the forum, then appraise their profiles, listings, goodies, etc. and edit as necessary. For those who have NF compliant blogs & websites, you’ll likely need to scour and edit them as well. And to do so asap! The cut off date is Tuesday, February 28, 2017; which means Play Fair is going to be very busy, so get in line with any questions right now.