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What Are You Reading? (Or: Self-Employment Means Self-Education)

Everyone always talks about how mainstream can (& has!) taken it’s business cues from the adult industry in terms of both marketing and tech innovations. But it works the other way too.

I don’t just mean overly general “how to market your business,” “blogging,” “tech,” or “social media” articles either. Yes, those are perfectly fine; much of that general information can apply to what PSOs need to do for their businesses too. (So long as you read or listen to such things aware of how the potential censorship will limit or impact your adult business.) But also look to other specific industries as they relate to your business.

Selling newsletter, content, or website subscriptions? Look at the publishing industry.

Need help converting your listings? Read about landing pages & copywriting.

Want to sell more pay-to-views, audio recordings, clips, etc.? Read articles about retail & online commerce.

Know your target audience? Read articles about selling to those specific demographics.

Remember, phone sex is not only part of the adult industry, but the service industry as well. Discover how the service industry is surviving and even thriving in the Internet age.

What other industries or market do you feel align with your brand? Luxury? Hospitality? Entertainment? Education? Read up on them for tips on connecting with your target market. Expand your reading areas and you’ll expand your knowledge base — and when you test or implement those ideas you can expand your business reach and profits too. You might even discover new possibilities for services to offer or be inspired to create a new niche for yourself!

I spend roughly 10 hours a week reading business materials (or listening to podcasts) across a wide spectrum of industries. Aand that’s not including any reading I do for sex education — or the occasional book for personal enjoyment (I wish I had more time for the latter!) Some of what I consume shows up in my tweets (@PhoneSexSecrets). But don’t just count on me or who I follow on Twitter. (I do have a secret mainstream Twitter as well; you might want to do that too to connect with mainstream folks!) Investigate & read on your own too. Such investments in time will be worth it.

Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose asap!

Even if you’ve been here before, you may have missed the new additions to the site:

New, easier to schedule consultations, coaching, & tutoring sessions page!
A concise listing of all my instantly downloadable phone sex whitepaper guides!
A list of my most popular other services for PSOs — including rates and buy now options!

 

Shadowbanned On Twitter? What You Need To Know

With the recent changes to Twitter policies, more and more folks are concerned about the so-called shadowbanning. Shadowbanning, also known as stealth banning or ghosting, is when your tweets are hidden from conversations aka hashtag searches. In other words, your Twitter account is visible, all the tweets can be seen – except when a person clicks a hashtag and your tweet (including the hash, of course) is not to be found. Similarly, your tweets will not show up in threads and conversations. All of this naturally neutralizes your ability to be found and therefore participate in conversations.

Other nasty side effects of being shadowbanned include not having notifications of your @ mentions delivered to the account you mention, your own account not showing up in searches for it, and your most recent images not being shown in the most recent grid, etc..

It should be noted that Twitter is not the only social media site or digital community to use shadowbanning; it’s just that Twitter has been the largest social media site remaining open to adult folks, so its shadowbanning impacts us the most.

Shadowbanning has a long history of use. Originally, it was used in online communities to keep spammers at bay — without tipping them off that they were being subtly blocked. It is designed to ban the comments of specific users whilst keeping the user ignorant that they have been banned.

Since shadowbanning is designed to keep the banned in the shadows of knowledge, not even knowing they have been so banned, you might have to use a tool to discover it for yourself. Here’s a free way to do that.

How does shadowbanning happen?

It appears one of the primary ways your tweets can be shadowbanned are the dreaded sending of “reports” of tweets. While based on user reports, Twitter then uses artificial intelligence (AI) to attempt to discern things, such as mature or controversial topics, which get other users to report, mute, or block an account.

It’s important to note that there’s no human judgment made here. Hence the additional concerns with new Twitter policies regarding sex. As noted at YNOT:

The sections dealing with non-consensual nudity and unwanted sexual advances may be the most relevant to the adult entertainment industry. As Starr himself admitted in the email, entire porn genres are dedicated to non-consent and stalker fantasies. Nevertheless, Twitter has expanded its definition of non-consensual nudity “to more broadly include content like upskirt imagery, ‘creep shots,’ and hidden camera content,” Starr wrote.

“We will immediately and permanently suspend any account we identify as the original poster/source of non-consensual nudity and/or if a user makes it clear they are intentionally posting said content to harass their target,” Starr stated in the email. “We will do a full account review whenever we receive a Tweet-level report about non-consensual nudity. If the account appears to be dedicated to posting non-consensual nudity then we will suspend the entire account immediately.”

Starr also noted it’s nearly impossible for Twitter to distinguish between real and faux non-consensual nudity, so “[w]e would rather error [sic] on the side of protecting victims and removing this type of content when we become aware of it.”

In a departure from previous policy, Twitter’s safety team will not require a report from an alleged victim before suspending an account for non-consensual content. Adult industry companies that produce non-consent fantasy material need to be aware the proposed new policy could be weaponized by anti-porn activists, competitors, dissatisfied customers and people who simply enjoy creating drama.

These new policies are ambiguous and subjective enough — without trading human involvement for AI. Yet, even if your account is not shut down for dealing with such (or similar) fantasy material, reports (complaints) — especially multiple reports — could lead to your account being shadowbanned. And since the act of shadowbanning users is to keep them in the dark about it, Twitter offers no official help.

Shadow banning, it should be noted, happens to mainstream folks too. And it’s here that we may find the solution to shadowbanning on Twitter. Tania (of When Tania Talks) reports on a tip from Milly (of Mini Adventures) that seems to work:

So what was this genius idea? Well, apparently the world revolves around money. Milly found that by contacting the Twitter Ads team and suggesting that she wanted to place an ad, but her hashtags weren’t working resulted in her Twitter shadowban being lifted. This was done within two hours of contacting the Twitter Ads team.

Apparently, just asking about the situation — not actually paying for ads — works. (Though, if you are shadowbanned, even paying for ads might be a worthy solution!) Though it should be noted that many adult accounts won’t be able to buy Twitter ads, if you’re stuck in shadowbanned land on Twitter it may be worth giving this a try. (At least you could open a dialogue.)

You can check here & here for more tips on dealing with Twitter shadowbans on my Twitter.

All of this shadowbanning — and general signs of the pornocalypse — is just additional proof to me that one needs a website of their very own. Yes, participate on other sites, playing by their rules. But never be entirely dependant on the practices, policies, and whims of another site.

UPDATE: 3/24/2018 New post with documentation and updated tips!

Help With Games, Assignments & Tasks For Phone Sex Operators

As I mentioned, I’m working on a number of whitepapers to help with your indie PSO business. The latest release is about creating games, assignments, and tasks for phone sex callers and clients.

I do not offer scripts, neither for phone sex calls nor items to sell — nor any prepackaged “canned” services of any kind. That’s not what your clients want, so such things are not of value to you. However, this list of games & assignment/task suggestions is designed to give you various forms of online sexual play which you can use and profit from by selling in Pay To Views (PTVs), Goodies, and via stores on most other phone sex platforms.

This whitepaper includes an honest description of what separates games and tasks from traditional pic, video, and audio sales; as well as covers the benefits of such games and how to maximize them for profits (immediate and long-term, via bonding with clients). And, of course, there are numerous suggestions for types of games to play, assignments and tasks to offer.

Buy from Phone Sex Secrets through Niteflirt.com

The paper is over 4,000 words, includes a few resource links, and is in an easy to read PDF format.

This should be all the information and inspiration you need to create your own profitable phone sex operator games for PTVs, Goodies, and even calls. However, if you feel you need more assistance, feel free to contact me regarding your own personal consultation session.

More phone sex biz whitepapers can be found here.

Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose asap!

Yes, I am on Twitter! @PhoneSexSecrets

Phone Sex Caller Survey Results To Help You Work Your Phone Sex Business

Over the past five years, on & off, I’ve run a survey for phone sex callers. Compiling the data was no easy feat as one after another of the free survey sites either departed or no longer allowed free surveys. So, while the questions and the answer options remained the same, I needed to do some work before I could present the results of the nearly 5,000 responses. (To be precise, there were 4,773 survey participants).

First, I meticulously ran the numbers of each survey. Then, I had to compare the results to see if there were any trends or insights to be gained from each set of results; there was no statistically significant difference. Next, I combined all the survey result data, rendered charts & graphs — and compiled all the result findings into a whitepaper available for purchase via NiteFlirt.

The results of my analysis include, where notable, include any comments from survey participants who went that extra step to email their thoughts. (Any such comments are shared under anonymity and are provided as anecdotal support or clarification.)

Results include:

  • What turns potential callers on — and off — in profiles and phone sex listings
  • Where callers start looking for independent PSOs
  • How important are photos — and what’s important about them
  • When and why phone sex operator blogs, websites, social media, etc. are important

Also included: break down by age demographics.

Disclaimers: Survey participants were self-described paying phone sex clients who volunteered to participate in an online survey. In other words, it likely does not have a representative sample. For example, an online survey certainly is affected by the lack of participation in populations which are less likely to have internet access.

However, to my knowledge, this is the only survey which provides insights into some of the demographics, concerns, turn-ons & turn-offs, of paying phone sex callers. It is provided as helpful information in terms of marketing your phone sex business. It is available as PDF containing 3,300+ words, 26 pages, with 12 graphs. You can buy it here. The whitepaper is absolutely under copyright; there is no sharing, posting, publication, or other transmission of this report or its findings without my express written permission.

Once you read the phone sex survey whitepaper, if there’s something specific in the results you are looking for help with, if you’d like more detailed information about your specific target audience demographic, feel free to schedule your personal phone sex business consultation.

Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose asap!

Yes, I am on Twitter! @PhoneSexSecrets

New Free Erotic Audio & PSO Promotion Website Launches

Is this your first time here? You may wish to read this post and my Statement Of Purpose first!

If you pay attention — really pay attention! — to my Twitter, you may have noticed a recent conversation about the promotion of erotic audio recordings. Whether you read about that or not, I can now announce that there’s a brand new site, from Alice Wonder Miscreations, dedicated to the promotion of erotic audio: Naughty.Audio.

And this new site isn’t just about promoting adult recordings either; it’s about promoting phone sex operators themselves:

Naughty.Audio aims to provide a web platform that allows Phone Sex Operators to easily make teaser audios readily available to the potential customers who wish to sample both her voice and her creativity.

…As the visionary and developer behind Naughty.Audio, I like to think of it as a type of search engine for kinksters, though perhaps a catalog would be better description.

I don’t know “Alice” very well; just from his Tumblr & Twitter. But I do know two things from following him: One, he’s an actual, paying, phone sex client; and, two, that both security and privacy were huge parts of the site’s construction.

Naughty Audio is completely free right now — for both PSOs and clients. Currently, there are no plans to monetize — so it’s a free marketing tool for phone sex operators and a free directory service for callers.

While the site is brand new, i.e. just building traffic, I would recommend taking the time to explore the site and consider the potential. While it may be a slow start, being among the first to participate can have plenty of benefits.

Individual phone sex operators and phone sex companies can find more information about Naughty Audio, including contact info, here.

I am told there is more to come in the future from Alice Wonder Miscreations. So stay tuned!

More posts about audio recordings are here.

Ad Rate Increase A-Comin’!

If you follow me on Twitter, then you know that I will be increasing the price for advertising at the Phone Sex Tumblr on February 1, 2016. Traffic is up, and now that the Tumblr posts (as well as the Twitter phone sex promo account tweets) also go out on the Rebel Mouse Phone Sex Page, there is even more exposure.

If you want to get in on the current prices, go here and buy now. You may purchase up to three months out to get the savings now; otherwise, you’ll be paying the increased rate on February first.

What You Can Learn About Culture From Sex & Sex Work

I was showing a PSO client how to use Google Trends yesterday when I spotted an interesting trend…

Question: According to Google, what region of the world has the highest probability of searching for femdom?

Answer: Syria.

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Not only has there been a growing interest in female domination services, but the increase in such Syrian searches appears to align with rise of the Syrian conflict or Syrian Civil War which began in 2011 with the Arab Spring protests.

Also, this fetish interest has sharply increased — some might even say it has “spiked” — in recent weeks. In fact, a closer look shows that Syria has a lot of related femdom searches — including a number of “Breakout” search terms, such as for feet, fetish, etc. In case you don’t know what “Breakout” means, it is defined by Google as a search term which grew by more than 5000%. Yes, 5000%!

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Part of me wants to go down a deep rabbit hole and research the possible causes and connections. But that’s time, and time is money. So I’m just going to go with what I know about human sexuality and sex work in general:

1.) When human beings are stressed, there is a strong increase in sex drives especially in terms of desires of the kinky and taboo kind. (And what can be more taboo in a culture that demands women submit to men than femdommes?)

2.) Those professing extreme conservatism, be it religious or political, are often doing so to suppress their own taboo urges. (Can you say, “hypocrites”?)

If you, like I, are seeing an increase in such international callers (often most visible to me in the demand for all sorts of religious humiliation sex game requests), this may explain it.

Back To School Phone Sex Tips

The summertime slowdown is about to end. In part, as the Peck & Call Girls said, because back to school means more free time for dads.

And it’s not just dads either.

In other words, the temperatures are about to lower — but the phone sex business is about to heat up again!

clueless-about-phone-sex-pssDuring last few weeks or days of summer, here’s a checklist of things you may want to address to make the most of the increasing demands in phone sex services — and before things get too busy:

+ Look over your profile and listing pages with a critical eye. Inspect them for typos, misspellings, and the like, as well as review them in a general sense. Do they need refreshing in terms of wording, photos, or other graphics? Have you changed your services in any way which is not reflected in your listings? With the increased traffic, you want to make sure those extra views convert.

+ Review the terms of service at the platform site(s) you are using; make sure you are in compliance.

+ Now is likely one of those times you may be about to change your work hours. Whether or not you’ve posted your schedule (or otherwise mentioned your general availability), this is the time to note and announce any upcoming changes. Do so via your profile and listing pages, your blog/website, social media, and via direct contact with clients (newsletters, mass mailings, messages, and email).

+ Speaking of schedules, don’t forget to include time for yourself. Building time into your schedule for exercise, plenty of sleep, and other self-care time is needed not only for your health and to manage stress but to provide great customer service.

+ Assess the status and quality of your tech gear. This includes standard gear such as phones and headsets; PC, laptop, tablet; as well as related batteries and chargers, etc.. If you produce your own photo content, your cameras too. Now is absolutely the time to do this as Amazon, eBay, and many other retail outlets have great back to school savings on such things!

+ Similarly, asses the status and quality of your webhost, audio software, apps, etc. Also, if you haven’t yet invested in a domain name, do it now so the search engines etc. can catch up.

+ Increase your promotion activities so that you’ll be right in front of all those hungry, searching eyes. This includes, but is not limited to, blog posts, Tweets, etc. (Tip: If you have successful or great posts on Tumblr or Twitter, repost them for the more exposure in front of the increasing audience.)

+ Work ahead by creating blog posts, Tweets, etc.. Save or schedule them for posting so that when you are busy with callers, your blog and social media accounts remain active and fresh. Don’t forget to include labeling your photos and making graphics!

+ Research advertising options and make a list of your best bets so that, when you have the money to reinvest but are short on time, you quickly know where to go.

Also, while the Fall season ushers in a busy business time, it quickly leads to the holiday season which is even busier (at least in terms of personal and family time). As with the above tip regarding working ahead in blogging, you may also wish to safely prepare Pay to View items, Goodies, store products, etc. That way, you’ll have hot and fresh offerings at the ready.

Prepare now by checking to see if you have enough content; if not, take or procure the photos, create the audio and text files, etc. If you don’t have the money to purchase content right now, research and window shop for what you need so that, as with advertising, you are all set when you do have the funds.

Today’s Phone Sex Marketing Tip: Watch Your Ps

Have you evaluated the seven Ps in your service marketing mix?

Most people have heard of the Four Ps in marketing: Product, Price, Place and Promotion. But did you even know that when it comes to services (which phone sex definitely is!) there are an additional three Ps?

The additional P’s for service providers are: People, Process, and Physical Evidence.

People is primarily you, dear. But, whether you work for a dispatch company or are an independent PSO using a platform service, your clients may encounter other people along the way. Even if only in an occasional customer service sort of a way. Yet those people reflect your business too. Because most of us are using some sort of platform service, the “People” part may also fall under another P — “Process.”

Process refers to business processes and systems which are part of how the services themselves are delivered or executed. This means not only how calls are connected, but other aspects of communication between you and your clients, you and your prospective clients, such as messaging and how the billing is handled. Again, this is typically part of the phone sex platform service — and why it is vital that you consider (and occasionally reconsider) how well they work for all parties involved.

But the Process is not only limited to the platforms.

Consider your email service provider, your website and its contact forms. Are they up to snuff? What’s more, evaluate your physical systems — everything from the telephone you take your phone sex calls on to your laptop, tablets, and other work devices. Don’t forget the batteries, headsets, cords, etc. And remember things such as software updates, Internet connections, and mobile phone plans too; they are all part of the Process. Are these tools providing the best quality for your business? Or are they inefficient, low quality, or otherwise getting in the way?

I once advocated for evaluating such things annually. But now, with the speed of tech — and the fact that such leaps in technological advances seem to be resulting in companies producing nearly ephemeral products with short lifespans, it’s best to do this sort of evaluation several times a year.

Physical Evidence is admittedly trickier in our virtual sex service world… In traditional service professions, Physical Evidence often begins with the physical space in which the service takes place, a meeting is held, or a client otherwise visits. Think of the ambiance in a restaurant, a hospital, or an accountant’s office. Such settings are part of the service businesses brand. In other cases, the service may result in a physical thing, such as a report or a customized object. In those cases, Physical Evidence includes not only the “thing” but packaging which signals the service’s brand.

But what in the world would the “Physical Evidence” of phone sex be?

Here we must take some cues from the medical world.

In many cases, it’s the cure for what ails you. Your fever or pain goes away; your nose is smaller or your bust is bigger. According to Wikipedia, it also includes the “scar left by a surgeon, [as this] reminds or reassures the consumer that the service took place, positively or negatively.”

Seen this way, the Physical Evidence of a phone sex call would be, err, shall we say “the orgasmic residue” — cum and any tissues or wipes used to clean it up. Or, if you’re into the tease and denial, then the raging hard-on. But these too are rather temporary and ephemeral things. (For health’s sake, we hope so!)

This is why some PSOs sell intimate things, such as worn panties, and offer other more lasting or tangible items. Even digital photos, audio recordings, texts, and emails offer something more lasting they can refer to and (hopefully) be pleasantly reminded of your services by. Yes, such things can be sold and boost your bottom line too; but consider gifting your callers and clients with a little something now and then. See if that sort of thing, a sense of Physical Evidence to your services, just doesn’t make a positive impact on your business.

In many ways, evaluating the marketing mix of your phone sex or virtual sex service business is simply a matter of good manners. Eliminating difficulties in communication is really just the polite thing to do. Sending a photo or text message may be taking care of your business’ Physical Evidence — but it’s also a nice way of saying “Please” and “Thank you” too. When you think about it, dedication to your service marketing Ps is an awful lot like minding your Ps & Qs. So please don’t forget or overlook your manners. Thank you.

Getting Phone Sex Reviews & Making The Most Of Them

As promised, I’m back with some more details regarding the phone sex review website.

This is a free service. Yes, it is free to be reviewed. However, because Tom is just one man (who already has a long list of favorite PSOs), it is advised, though not required, that you offer him a few free minutes, a discounted rate, or other incentive for him to add you to his list of girls to call. This incentive neither guarantees a review nor guarantees a good review. All decisions regarding whether to review or not review are up to Tom Cat himself. And all reviews are, like a review of any product or service, based on Tom Cat’s honest evaluation of the phone sex services. Any incentive is just a courtesy.

Interested phone sex operators are encouraged to consider how well their services match Tom Cat’s desires, fantasies, and needs before submitting a request for a review. (Should your phone sex services not be a good match for Tom Cat, you may wish to consider sending one of your happy phone sex clients over to submit a review, and/or buy advertising at the site.)

Ideally, phone sex operators (especially those who receive a favorable review), will use the review to promote themselves in accordance with proper copyright use. In this case, that would be to quote from, or make mention of, the review by linking to the review itself. Additionally, PSOs who have been reviewed may download and display the appropriate rating badge, again linking to their review so that potential customers can read how they earned that rating. (Hotlinking is not allowed!)

At this time, the review site is NiteFlirt compliant as all the PSOs reviewed are from Tom Cat’s primary phone sex playground, NiteFlirt. However, this is subject to change as the review site grows and therefore phone sex operators worried about compliance with NF’s policies should consult Playfair to be certain such promotion with links to the site are acceptable. Ditto any PSOs working with other platform sites and phone sex companies. (It should be seen as any phone sex topsite that promotes phone sex operators from various sites and companies; but it is up to, you, the individual PSO, to verify that for yourself.)

Remember, there are other ways to promote yourself besides your profile pages and blog. You can use Twitter, Tumblr, and other forms of social media. And don’t forget to contact your callers directly to share the good news. (Sending the link in a message to your callers is a reminder to call, and they may share the review themselves via their own sites and social accounts!)

Remember, the purpose of Tom Cat’s Phone Sex Reviews is to help improve the phone sex industry: One, it helps phone sex callers find quality phone sex services, and, two, it provides free promotion for quality PSOs. Make the most of it!