Back To School Phone Sex Tips

The summertime slowdown is about to end. In part, as the Peck & Call Girls said, because back to school means more free time for dads.

And it’s not just dads either.

In other words, the temperatures are about to lower — but the phone sex business is about to heat up again!

clueless-about-phone-sex-pssDuring last few weeks or days of summer, here’s a checklist of things you may want to address to make the most of the increasing demands in phone sex services — and before things get too busy:

+ Look over your profile and listing pages with a critical eye. Inspect them for typos, misspellings, and the like, as well as review them in a general sense. Do they need refreshing in terms of wording, photos, or other graphics? Have you changed your services in any way which is not reflected in your listings? With the increased traffic, you want to make sure those extra views convert.

+ Review the terms of service at the platform site(s) you are using; make sure you are in compliance.

+ Now is likely one of those times you may be about to change your work hours. Whether or not you’ve posted your schedule (or otherwise mentioned your general availability), this is the time to note and announce any upcoming changes. Do so via your profile and listing pages, your blog/website, social media, and via direct contact with clients (newsletters, mass mailings, messages, and email).

+ Speaking of schedules, don’t forget to include time for yourself. Building time into your schedule for exercise, plenty of sleep, and other self-care time is needed not only for your health and to manage stress but to provide great customer service.

+ Assess the status and quality of your tech gear. This includes standard gear such as phones and headsets; PC, laptop, tablet; as well as related batteries and chargers, etc.. If you produce your own photo content, your cameras too. Now is absolutely the time to do this as Amazon, eBay, and many other retail outlets have great back to school savings on such things!

+ Similarly, asses the status and quality of your webhost, audio software, apps, etc. Also, if you haven’t yet invested in a domain name, do it now so the search engines etc. can catch up.

+ Increase your promotion activities so that you’ll be right in front of all those hungry, searching eyes. This includes, but is not limited to, blog posts, Tweets, etc. (Tip: If you have successful or great posts on Tumblr or Twitter, repost them for the more exposure in front of the increasing audience.)

+ Work ahead by creating blog posts, Tweets, etc.. Save or schedule them for posting so that when you are busy with callers, your blog and social media accounts remain active and fresh. Don’t forget to include labeling your photos and making graphics!

+ Research advertising options and make a list of your best bets so that, when you have the money to reinvest but are short on time, you quickly know where to go.

Also, while the Fall season ushers in a busy business time, it quickly leads to the holiday season which is even busier (at least in terms of personal and family time). As with the above tip regarding working ahead in blogging, you may also wish to safely prepare Pay to View items, Goodies, store products, etc. That way, you’ll have hot and fresh offerings at the ready.

Prepare now by checking to see if you have enough content; if not, take or procure the photos, create the audio and text files, etc. If you don’t have the money to purchase content right now, research and window shop for what you need so that, as with advertising, you are all set when you do have the funds.

If You’ve Been Considering Arousr…

Gracie Passette has an excellent review of the sexting (and phone sex) service Arousr — which includes info on how much it really costs as well as how much chat, cam, and phone hosts can make: The Sex Kitten Arousr Review.

Phone Sex Operator Photo Content, Blogs, Etc. For Sale To PSOs

When I tweeted about a PSO leaving the business and selling off her domain name, blog, and content including photos, the response was pretty big. Not only did I broker that sale in two days, but there were other requests for more of the same.

There are currently three other offerings from phone sex operators who are retiring or retiring their characters. The details are below. If you have any interest, you must first contact me either via NF or MPS so that I can verify that I am working with a person of legal age to buy such materials. I repeat: I will not begin any discussions via comments, emails, tweets, etc. You must contact me either here or here to begin the discussion. (Use the “send message” option.) That means you must either have an account or make one for the purposes of contact. No exceptions.

#1 Messy sex, erotic foodie, fetish niche blog. Includes domain name and all written content at the blog, should you wish to keep or edit it. Domain has “phone sex” in it and is over 4 years old; has over 6,000 external back links in place. Price: $100.

#2 Blonde white woman photo content. Was used as a femdom or mistress, but you can use it as you wish. Approximately 100 photos, including completely nude; was not originally purchased as custom or exclusive, but model/photographer/site no longer around, so no longer available to sell.* Price: $150

(If you wish to include blog content in the sale, including moving it to your own domain and even using proper redirects for backlinks, that may be possible — with additional fees.)

* I may still be able to contact the photog if more photos of this model are sought.

#3 BBW redheaded white girl photo content. Briefly used in submissive listing, but can be used as you wish. Originally purchased as exclusive; 352 photos, including explicit sex toy play. Price: $400. SOLD

Today’s Phone Sex Marketing Tip: Watch Your Ps

Have you evaluated the seven Ps in your service marketing mix?

Most people have heard of the Four Ps in marketing: Product, Price, Place and Promotion. But did you even know that when it comes to services (which phone sex definitely is!) there are an additional three Ps?

The additional P’s for service providers are: People, Process, and Physical Evidence.

People is primarily you, dear. But, whether you work for a dispatch company or are an independent PSO using a platform service, your clients may encounter other people along the way. Even if only in an occasional customer service sort of a way. Yet those people reflect your business too. Because most of us are using some sort of platform service, the “People” part may also fall under another P — “Process.”

Process refers to business processes and systems which are part of how the services themselves are delivered or executed. This means not only how calls are connected, but other aspects of communication between you and your clients, you and your prospective clients, such as messaging and how the billing is handled. Again, this is typically part of the phone sex platform service — and why it is vital that you consider (and occasionally reconsider) how well they work for all parties involved.

But the Process is not only limited to the platforms.

Consider your email service provider, your website and its contact forms. Are they up to snuff? What’s more, evaluate your physical systems — everything from the telephone you take your phone sex calls on to your laptop, tablets, and other work devices. Don’t forget the batteries, headsets, cords, etc. And remember things such as software updates, Internet connections, and mobile phone plans too; they are all part of the Process. Are these tools providing the best quality for your business? Or are they inefficient, low quality, or otherwise getting in the way?

I once advocated for evaluating such things annually. But now, with the speed of tech — and the fact that such leaps in technological advances seem to be resulting in companies producing nearly ephemeral products with short lifespans, it’s best to do this sort of evaluation several times a year.

Physical Evidence is admittedly trickier in our virtual sex service world… In traditional service professions, Physical Evidence often begins with the physical space in which the service takes place, a meeting is held, or a client otherwise visits. Think of the ambiance in a restaurant, a hospital, or an accountant’s office. Such settings are part of the service businesses brand. In other cases, the service may result in a physical thing, such as a report or a customized object. In those cases, Physical Evidence includes not only the “thing” but packaging which signals the service’s brand.

But what in the world would the “Physical Evidence” of phone sex be?

Here we must take some cues from the medical world.

In many cases, it’s the cure for what ails you. Your fever or pain goes away; your nose is smaller or your bust is bigger. According to Wikipedia, it also includes the “scar left by a surgeon, [as this] reminds or reassures the consumer that the service took place, positively or negatively.”

Seen this way, the Physical Evidence of a phone sex call would be, err, shall we say “the orgasmic residue” — cum and any tissues or wipes used to clean it up. Or, if you’re into the tease and denial, then the raging hard-on. But these too are rather temporary and ephemeral things. (For health’s sake, we hope so!)

This is why some PSOs sell intimate things, such as worn panties, and offer other more lasting or tangible items. Even digital photos, audio recordings, texts, and emails offer something more lasting they can refer to and (hopefully) be pleasantly reminded of your services by. Yes, such things can be sold and boost your bottom line too; but consider gifting your callers and clients with a little something now and then. See if that sort of thing, a sense of Physical Evidence to your services, just doesn’t make a positive impact on your business.

In many ways, evaluating the marketing mix of your phone sex or virtual sex service business is simply a matter of good manners. Eliminating difficulties in communication is really just the polite thing to do. Sending a photo or text message may be taking care of your business’ Physical Evidence — but it’s also a nice way of saying “Please” and “Thank you” too. When you think about it, dedication to your service marketing Ps is an awful lot like minding your Ps & Qs. So please don’t forget or overlook your manners. Thank you.

Impotent Marketing

I am a marketing nerd. I like to read as much about marketing as I possibly can. So I approached this article by Matt Kramer regarding the magic buttons to push in selling wine eagerly. You might say I was excited to drink in the knowledge. But then I hit this bit discussing the appeal of “pre-arrival” as a magical sales button:

It’s the wine version of phone sex: They’re selling something they don’t actually have, to someone who is paying up-front for something he’s not actually getting. (Once, in a long-ago column, I defined “pre-arrival offering” as “the technique by which the wine impotent seduce the wine lustful.”)

Kramer may know his wines; but he knows nothing — I repeat, nothing! — about phone sex. I daresay he knows nothing about seduction or lust either. I won’t comment on the matter of impotence.

Misleading Phone Sex Numbers

In an article about education in the UK, Students and phone sex: “Why not work as a phone sex operator and pay your way through University”, the author’s premise is “Why not work as a phone sex operator and pay your way through University to scale down the amount of debt you are left with at the end?” However, there are some misleading numbers or connections about the money to be made as a phone sex operator:

Despite the lack of adverts and official publicity, a report published by Durex revealed the 45% of the population have tried phone sex before, with 56% researching companies on the internet.

The report mentioned was condom company Durex’s 2009 British Sex Survey, of which little information is known (and likely bears the same concerns as their Global Sex Survey). Regardless of whether or not the survey results are accurate enough to provide any statistical data worthy of counting on, the author of the article, Nicole Froio, misuses the survey results.

First, while it is true that 45% of the respondents stated that they had participated in phone sex, the following “with 56% researching companies on the internet” is an unrelated matter. The survey question was “If you wanted to know about sex, where would you get the information?” It had nothing to do with phone sex. So, while 56% percent of survey participants stated they would go “online” to get information, it was to get “sex information.” Which sounds more like those answering the survey were talking about looking for “sex ed” information online, not necessarily performing research regarding phone sex companies or even shopping for phone sex services.

That leads us to the other issue.

Of the 45% who said that they had participated in phone sex, there’s no indication that they had ever paid for any of their phone sex. Just as roughly 40% also stated that they had participated in spanking, there’s no indication whether they had ever paid to participate in a spanking session (or if they were the spankee or the spanker). There is simply no data on whether any of these sexual activities were paid for.

The survey (amazingly!) did include “paid for sex” as an option for the “Do you own or have you tried any of the following…” question; and 5% of the survey participants said they had. But as for whether any of the 5% of people responding had ever paid for phone sex is unknown.

But that’s not the way the Froio presents the survey results. (In fact, omitting the paid for sex info entirely is also a problem.) And that’s a shame.

There is money to be made in phone sex; but we shouldn’t mislead people with numbers.

More PSOs Should Be Like Santa

I’ve got a long post about phone sex operators & social media in draft stages, but I just had to note this gem from Stacey Alcorn in 5 Steps to Working a Holiday Party Like Santa — and it was too long for me to tweet!

Santa would never show up at a home and tell the children there what he wants for Christmas. That would be absurd: Santa knows that Christmas is not about him.

Likewise, the networking event you’ll attend is not about you. It’s about everyone else in the room. When you meet people at an event, ask lots of questions about what they do for work, fun and happiness. Inquire how you can help them achieve their dreams.

Whether or not you realize it, blogging, tweeting, messages at phone sex platforms, etc., are not all about you. Yup, even if you’re a femdom talking to clients, this applies.

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Just a reminder about wishlist safety — for both clients and providers.

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Voice Actors & Actresses Needed For Paying Audio Erotica Gigs

alluring audioI’ve been contacted by a new company to give them a hand finding voice talent for their recorded erotic stories. They are looking for voice talent — especially male voice talent — to create (record) their erotic audio fantasies for women.

While I’ve no experience with this company, this could be a great source of extra income for female PSOs and an even more rare opportunity for men looking to provide erotic entertainment for women. Below is the “call for submissions” or “wanted” posting as they sent it; please follow their directions to be considered.

Who We Are

Alluring Audio is a new company creating erotic fantasies for women in an immersive audio format. Whether it’s a fling with a hot coworker, discipline at the hands of a pirate king, or anything in between, our fantasies are fun, extremely sexy, and place the listener in the center of the action.

Why We Need You

A voice that lends sex appeal to a slick sports car or even creamy alfredo sauce is great, but what we really need are voice actors who sound less corporate and more intimate. We’re looking for men and women who can take on the personalities of different characters in different scripts and bring them to life so the listener feels as if they’re really in the middle of the fantasy. We’re looking for people who can really act with their voices, who are willing to take some editorial direction, and who are comfortable with sexually explicit material, often including acting out the sounds of orgasm in a confident and natural way. For both explicit and tame examples, please see our web site.

We’re just starting out and only have a few scripts ready for production, but we are looking to build a solid base of voice talent that we can call upon on an ongoing basis as new scripts are written.

What You’ll Need

You need a home studio with a professional microphone to record audio. Excellent sound quality is important to the listener’s overall enjoyment of these fantasies.

What You’ll Get

Payment ranges from $200 to $350 per script, depending on the content. These are not lengthy scripts, with an average around 1,200 words.

If you’re interested in this opportunity, please fill out our informational form here and also email a short audio sample (30 seconds or less) to VO@AlluringAudio.com. The sample should let us evaluate your voice and your acting. It does *not* have to be professionally recorded.

Work Your Phone Sex Blog Like A Vintage Stag Film

You’ve probably heard about the old stag films, maybe even seen a few. But do you understand their magic?

Naughty and even nudie films have a long history, dating back to the early 1900s. While all these forerunners of today’s porn are sometimes referred to as “blue” movies, stag films held a specific audience and purpose — and they most definitely should not be confused with any old vintage porn.

Stag films were short, one or two reel films, which were sexually explicit — and therefore illegal. In order to avoid both censors and the law, these films were shown on an underground circuit which consisted primarily of “officially decried but socially tolerated”* semi-public male spaces. These were “members’ only” gatherings, where the members (no pun intended!) knew one another. Think fraternities, men’s clubs, and other men-only parties (often called “men’s smoking parties” or “smokers”).

(There’s a reason bachelor parties are also called “stag parties”!)

Because these were groups of heterosexual males (or closeted males passing as heteronormative), married or not, the literal focus of the films was most definitely the female form and male arousal. However, this was not to set off circle jerks. Instead, stag films were designed to be a form of homosocial entertainment designed to enhance male bonds of friendship and general “manliness”. In Latex and Lingerie: Shopping for Pleasure at Ann Summers Parties, Merl Storr provides a concise definition of gender scholar Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick‘s working definition of homosocial bonding:

Sedgwick defines male homosociality as a form of male bonding with a characteristic triangular structure. In this triangle, men have intense but nonsexual bonds with other men, and women serve as the conduits through which those bonds are expressed.

[If you’re confused how this actually works, just recall groups of men making catcalls at women, lewd jokes at the expense of women, or otherwise doing what Linda Williams accurately calls “verbal ejaculation”.]

After WWII, when film projectors for home use became affordable and popular, the traveling underground stag film circuit began its slow death. Now, individuals were able to purchase 8mm versions of stag films. But the viewing space & social construct of quasi-public, quasi-private places (i.e. the “men will be men” events held in fraternity house, Elk’s Lodge, or even bar room basements located in the atomic family home) didn’t change. The specific purpose, & therefore the craft of, this specific genre of adult films remained the same.

What makes the stag films such a specific film genre?  As Linda Williams states in Hard Core: Power, Pleasure, and the “Frenzy of the Visible”, stag films were designed “to arouse and then precisely not to satisfy”. In fact, a handful of early examples withstanding, stag films didn’t end with what we now view as the requisite cum-shot. Rather, they built up to a penetration shot — leaving more, including his dick, to come.

While showing complete nudity & real, not simulated, coitus (thus being actual hardcore productions and not the “pure” softcore pinup stuff we normally think of as tease), these films didn’t end with the usual porno bang. Instead, stag films left the viewers wanting — craving — a bang of their own.

This is why so many brothels played stag films for their waiting clients. Such films served as great tease, an extended sort of foreplay, keeping the men waiting for sexual services and companionship in the mood — and still in need of the sex services. The power of these films lasted even past the demise of fraternal organizations & men’s clubs in the 1960s. Then stag films moved into the coin-operated arcades & peepshow booths located in adult bookstores & sex toy shops. The income they raised went beyond the pay-as-you-go insertion of coins, fanning the flames of sexual desire, prompting additional need-driven purchases in the stores.

Now that you understand the magic of the old stag films, do you see how they compare to your blog posts or other website content?

Your website and/or blog is comparable to the semi-public space of a frat-house or Elk’s club and your content needs to get the guys going, make them want your services — but not let them “rub out” their need of you either.

It’s easy to say that a phone sex operator (or other sex worker) should “tease” their website visitors into paying for their services; but sometimes the word “tease” is translated as meaning your content “shouldn’t be so graphic”. But as stag films show us, that’s not necessarily the case. You can be as explicit and pornographic as you want. Just be sure that all your tease and foreplay leaves them seeking satisfaction — and your specific brand of satisfaction at that.

If you’re not sure just how to leverage the same sort of power at your blog or website, contact me for a one-on-one consultation appointment.

* The phrase “officially decried but socially tolerated” comes from an editorial printed in The Nation, July 4, 1936, regarding Shaw’s Mrs. Warren’s Profession; discovered via Eric Schaefer’s Bold! Daring! Shocking! True: A History of Exploitation Films, 1919-1959.