Getting Phone Sex Reviews & Making The Most Of Them

As promised, I’m back with some more details regarding the phone sex review website.

This is a free service. Yes, it is free to be reviewed. However, because Tom is just one man (who already has a long list of favorite PSOs), it is advised, though not required, that you offer him a few free minutes, a discounted rate, or other incentive for him to add you to his list of girls to call. This incentive neither guarantees a review nor guarantees a good review. All decisions regarding whether to review or not review are up to Tom Cat himself. And all reviews are, like a review of any product or service, based on Tom Cat’s honest evaluation of the phone sex services. Any incentive is just a courtesy.

Interested phone sex operators are encouraged to consider how well their services match Tom Cat’s desires, fantasies, and needs before submitting a request for a review. (Should your phone sex services not be a good match for Tom Cat, you may wish to consider sending one of your happy phone sex clients over to submit a review, and/or buy advertising at the site.)

Ideally, phone sex operators (especially those who receive a favorable review), will use the review to promote themselves in accordance with proper copyright use. In this case, that would be to quote from, or make mention of, the review by linking to the review itself. Additionally, PSOs who have been reviewed may download and display the appropriate rating badge, again linking to their review so that potential customers can read how they earned that rating. (Hotlinking is not allowed!)

At this time, the review site is NiteFlirt compliant as all the PSOs reviewed are from Tom Cat’s primary phone sex playground, NiteFlirt. However, this is subject to change as the review site grows and therefore phone sex operators worried about compliance with NF’s policies should consult Playfair to be certain such promotion with links to the site are acceptable. Ditto any PSOs working with other platform sites and phone sex companies. (It should be seen as any phone sex topsite that promotes phone sex operators from various sites and companies; but it is up to, you, the individual PSO, to verify that for yourself.)

Remember, there are other ways to promote yourself besides your profile pages and blog. You can use Twitter, Tumblr, and other forms of social media. And don’t forget to contact your callers directly to share the good news. (Sending the link in a message to your callers is a reminder to call, and they may share the review themselves via their own sites and social accounts!)

Remember, the purpose of Tom Cat’s Phone Sex Reviews is to help improve the phone sex industry: One, it helps phone sex callers find quality phone sex services, and, two, it provides free promotion for quality PSOs. Make the most of it!

News & Links Phone Sex Operators Can Use

Last week at Sex Kitten, Gracie interviewed Tom Cat about the new phone sex review website. It’s a great look not only at the man behind the site, but about phone sex mega users.

While you’re there, you may want to check out another one of Gracie’s articles, Of Feminism & Inequality In Porn & Sex Work. Yes, phone sex operators are sex workers. Beyond that, there may be some clear answers for those who wonder why there are so few opportunities for male PSOs to work with female callers.

Buy A Phone Sex Ad At Tumblr

As some of you know, I have a Tumblr site that promotes phone sex and phone sex operators. As you can from this screenshot, this site currently ranks #1 (or thereabouts) for Google searches for phone sex Tumblr.

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For PSOs who want a little extra bump in attention, I’m offering the chance to promote yourself via a post at the site. These posts will also be featured on the sidebar, for a little added attention. Each post will feature a photo or image of your choosing, up to 200 word of text (that you provide), and it will, of course, link to your blog, website, phone sex operator profile, and/or phone sex listing. (Up to two links per post.) You can use the PayPal link below. Once I receive the payment, I will contact you to collect all your “pertinents and such.”


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Spots are available on a first come, first served basis — however, I do reserve the right to mix posts up a bit to vary things. (That is in your best interest!)

This is a limited time offer, at a low introductory rate; rates are subject to change. Lock in the prices now.

Update On NiteFlirt Goodie Bags

Goodie Bags have officially gone into Beta for all Flirts on the phone sex platform. I’m not going to provide a detailed tutorial (NF has provided a decent one of their own), but I will highlight some key things to note.

* Goodie Bags are like payment buttons (aka PTV or PPV messages), except that they are bundles of digital offerings (MP3s, photos, etc.), and they are offered in a more interesting visual format. Once files are uploaded to NF, Flirts can mix and match them to make various bundles or bags.

* While these are bundles of files, the files should not be in zip format because part of the gift of goodies is the convenience for customers to save the files in the “player” (rather than having to download them onto their own computers) and watch them while at NF.

* Goodie Bag files require tags, so that potential buyers can more readily find them while searching.

* All nude or sexually explicit images now must meet 2257 regulations. This is important. NF’s 2257 Compliance Wizard means everyone must acknowledging the 2257 requirement by making use of one of three categories:

1. Your content is not sexually explicit.

2. Your content is sexually explicit and you already have a public address where 2257 records for your content can be inspected.

3. Your content is sexually explicit and you do not have a public address where 2257 records for your content can be inspected.

If your content it not sexually explicit, you toggle that option and move along. If, however, your content is sexually explicit, you will need to provide the appropriate 2257 documentation in one of two ways. With option number two on the list above, you must including the address where the records are kept — and this address will be made public. Or you can use option three on the Compliance Wizard, and use NF’s free, integrated third-party record-keeping service, which requires you to digitally provide the correct documentation; then the NF address will be on display.

* Customers (callers) will not find a “Find Goodies” search until there are a number of items uploaded and properly tagged. NF expects this to take a few weeks. Meanwhile, callers can look for the “Goodies” tab on individual Flirt profiles and listings.

Today’s Phone Sex Tip: Places For Phone Sex Operators To Advertise

There’s no such thing as a free phone sex call, right professional phone sex operator? So what makes you think advertising and promoting your phone sex business will be free?

The Marketing Whore has an excellent post about advertising options for adult websites, including phone sex operator websites, listings, and profiles here.

PS I already tweeted a link to this post, but apparently many of you missed it or are not following me at Twitter — so I’m posting both links here now. *wink*

Phone Sex Operator “Little Black Book” Tool Survey

Phone sex operator Sarah Collins is developing a website application tool for the PSO industry called Black Book Vault (BBV). Like me, Sarah is a data hound, always using data to improve her business. But after finding other customer relationship management (CRM) tools lacking in terms of her phone sex business, she decided to create her own CRM software specifically to help POSs with their work. BBV will allow operators to enter notes on clients, gather data on transactions, and run various reports to discover trends (such as busiest times of the day and most popular fetishes) and evaluate advertising and promotions in terms of ROI — all so that you can find where you are making the most money and maximize it.

(Not to mention, this is better organization than paper notes & various documents — and more reliable than notes in platforms which can disappear without notice!)

It’s goal is to create a solution that empowers its users to make better business decisions through data management. The core functions of BBV will enable the PSO to:

• Quickly Capture Client & Transaction Info

• Run Reports, Analyze Metrics & Identify Trends

• Keep Everything Backed Up, Safe & Secure

After speaking with Sarah as length, I think it’s a fabulous idea and I will be participating in the site’s blog, once BBV officially launches.

But before BBV can launch and become the ultimate PSO CRM business tool, Sarah and her tech partners want more information. To that end, there’s a survey you can take. I really hope all of you will participate and give Sarah and her crew information about what you want and need.

As a thank you, BBV will give you a special link that you can use to refer other phone sex operators; for every 3 eligible referrals, you’ll then get a $10 Amazon giftcard code. Do not game this reward system. One, it’s not classy. Two, fake info can, and will, be traced via ISPs — but that just makes extra work and will delay the creation and release of Black Book Vault. Three, any fake or duplicated info will skew the survey data and impact the results, resulting in less accurate information for creation of this tool. And four, scamming for extra rewards will cost BBV money — which could very likely result in a higher cost of the tool. Bottom line: Accurate information about what PSOs want is necessary, so don’t be a jerk.

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Announcing A True Phone Sex Review Site

Remember how we discussed the problem of finding quality, honest, phone sex review sites? Well, I think I’ve solved the problem.

A few months ago, a phone sex caller named Tom used my referral service to find some more phone sex operators — and when I say “more”, I mean that this man was already an avid user of phone sex services. He, in fact, considers himself addicted to phone sex. With over 500 flirts in his favorites list at NiteFlirt, Tom’s probably not kidding. Once I learned of the great numbers of phone sex calls he’s made (and continues to make), I quickly dubbed him “Tom Cat”.*wink*  And it seemed to me that Tom Cat would be a pretty darn good candidate for reviewing phone sex girls, right? He agreed and we launched Tom Cat’s Phone Sex Reviews last month.

tom-cat's-pso-reviewsTom Cat’s Phone Sex Reviews is not a phone sex directory or topsite, where placement or “ranking” is based on how much a PSO pays or how many “hits” a PSO sends to the site. It is not a bunch of spammy listings or fake reviews. It is a real review site where each and every phone sex operator listed has actually been reviewed by an experienced phone sex caller.

There’s no “pay to play” schemes, no cheating to get to the top of the list or to get better ratings, no spam or scams for PSOs or callers. While I will be using some affiliate links (primarily for additional information on trends, popularity, and client interests), this review site isn’t about money; it’s all about the phone sex & the phone sex girls. It’s all about callers being able to find quality phone sex operators — and it’s a chance for quality PSOs to get some recognition without having to pay for it.

I plan on doing additional posts about how to make the most of this review site, but for now I just wanted to officially announce the launch of this resource. And, yes, that means the site is open both for requests from PSOs to be reviewed and for phone sex callers to submit their own “guest reviews”. For more information on how the review process works for phone sex callers who wish to submit their own reviews, and to submit your reviews, go here. For more information on how the review process works for phone sex operators, and to request a review, go here.

Overall, I hope this new phone sex review site helps to improve the phone sex industry for everyone. If you spot any errors, have any comments or thoughts to share on the new review site, please use this form here.

Why Spam Is Bad For Your Business

This past week I’ve been hit with a lot of spam — comment spam here at Phone Sex Secrets, to be precise. Because it is my business to help those in the phone sex industry, I contacted those phone sex operators and phone sex business owners who left the inappropriate comments and quickly discovered that many of them did not know that leaving comments for the sole purpose of leaving link or links behind is spam.

Now, you might think that anyone with a blog or website would know how inappropriate and annoying spam comments are, but a few of them sincerely seemed unaware that what they’d done was poor form. So here’s my quick attempt to educate folks on the subject.

Leaving spam comments isn’t just poor form — it’s a poor thing to do for many reasons.

First of all, despite what some poor &/or ignorant marketing folks will tell — and sell — you, spam links are not good for SEO: Google doesn’t like it. In fact, Google is working hard with it’s latest algorithm updates, to severely penalize spammers.

While some webmasters will allow your spam comments to be posted at their site (in the hope that Google will severely punish them with negative rankings for their bad behavior), many bloggers, like myself, work to make sure such spam comments won’t make it onto the site (or remain on the site, if they snuck through the defenses). We don’t like those spammy comments for multiple reasons, including possible traffic leaks. But the main reason we remove them is because we are protective of our readers’ reactions. We want them to have positive reactions to our site. But when spam comments are around, it looks like we are too lazy to remove them or like our site may be “dead” and abandoned. Neither of those things is positive.

This leads me to the second bad thing about spamming blogs: you alienate bloggers.

If your intention was to pitch a blogger the idea of featuring you or your business, you’ve been going about this all wrong. You’ve not only tried to steal traffic, put their site’s ranking at risk, and made extra work for the blogger, but you’ve shown the blogger that you have no regard for proper business channels.

Most bloggers and webmasters who are open to being pitched ideas for interviews, article features, advertising, or other options to promote your business will have directions (forms, contact or “about” pages with email addresses, etc.) for how to do business with them. When you ignore their directions, you show yourself to be rude, ignorant, or disrespectful — maybe all those things. As a result, they will have little interest in helping you. You may just have lost a potential ally, maybe even burned a bridge.

(So even if those I emailed about their spam links at this site feel that I was rude, they are, in fact, lucky to have heard from me at all — and should feel grateful that I have taken the time to educate them. Most bloggers will just delete the submitted comments; perhaps add the spammers’ email addresses, ISPs, and/or URLs to blacklists. Others, as mentioned, will allow the comments be posted so that their sites can be punished by the search engines. I’ve been kind and generous with my time.)

Third, don’t think that readers — potential customers — are immune to feeling icky about your spam links either. Many readers are aware of what spam is and they don’t like it. It reminds them of all the spam in their inboxes. It makes them mad. Is that really how you want clients and potential clients to think of you and your phone sex business?

In short, traipsing around the Internet leaving spam links behind you is bad for your SEO and your reputation. Don’t do it.

Today’s Phone Safety Sex Tip: Improper Use Of Photos & Files

We’ve discussed images and PSO safety before, purchased content or not, but some recent events have prompted me to mention them again.

Several times in the past few weeks, a specific issue been brought to my attention by several individual phone sex callers who have noted that the file name of the photo a phone sex operator provided was did not have the same name as the phone sex operator. This was noted both in promotional photos used in PSO profiles and listings as well as in photos they purchased from PSOs. This can happen “honestly” when a PSO uses her own photos and forgets to rename the files with her PSO character name, or when she purchases legal content and doesn’t properly rename the files with her PSO character name. It can also happen in a similar fashion when a PSO dishonestly, illegally, takes images from the web. And it can happen with other files, such as word documents, audio and video files etc. used in pay to view items. In all cases, however, such a little thing as a misnamed file can damage the veil of fantasy.

Not taking the time to properly name a file is a little thing, but it can do a lot of damage. Not only to callers’ fantasies, but in terms of your marketing too. Improperly named files present a marketing leak . An image with the wrong name may mean a caller might forget your real name and not be able to find you. Images associated with with the wrong name shared in forums etc., may prevent potential callers from finding you too. But the worst problem is that of your own safety. Folks can try to use the file name to find find out where the file came from and find the real you.

So take the time to review your file names and, if necessary, rename them and replace/re-upload them.

On a related note, I’ve just released my latest pay to view item to help phone sex operators regarding the dangers lurking in digital files. Flirts, you can purchase it on NiteFlirt here; MPS girls, get it here. It would be wise, and most efficient, to know this before you go about editing and/or renaming those photographs.