Phone Sex Operator Advertising Sale

In order to give you a last chance bump this summer to build your PR etc. for the busy phone sex season ahead, I’ve decided to run a little sale on the Tumblr ads / promotion spaces. Actually, it’s a huge sale in terms of discount; just short in length of time. I suspect I will be ending this Monday, but have not really decided. In fact, this is sort of a benevolent lark; a nice idea that popped into my head. One I hope helps you all out. So book now, buy as many bundles as you want.

Limited time offer; when this post is pulled, the offer is gone.


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It is also possible that when this sale ends I will be increasing the normal ad rates.

What Do I Think Of Phone Sex Platform TalkToMe?

I am often solicited to join other phone sex platform sites — if only just to try it out & review them here at Phone Sex Secrets. But why would I create an account, market myself etc., just to get a few callers to review the platform service? That’s a lot of work for a woman who is busy juggling phone sex with callers on other platforms (NF & MPS) and consulting with PSOs too. Usually these platform sites offer nothing new; and a number of them have come and gone already anyway. So what’s the point?

But since I mentioned the unethical TalkToMe (TTM) promo, I was asked a few questions about TTM — most of which I could not answer because I did not join the phone sex platform. That sparked questions about why I didn’t join the site. Seeing as this might just be helpful, both to phone sex operators in terms of evaluating companies and those developing platforms themselves, I thought I would discuss what I found when I went to visit TTM. So here’s my review of TTM as a potential “Talker”.

From the perspective of a prospective phone sex operator, the biggest problem with TTM is that the site does not clearly state their terms. There’s not even a simple page listing the percentage they take. At least there isn’t any info provided before you sign up; and why would I sign up for the unknown?

If you spend some time scouring for the Talker’s FAQ (and it does take some time to find it; you have to use search engines, not find it on the site), you’ll see that there are lots of caps and limits on what you can charge.

Per minute rate is:

The maximum you can charge for a minute is $2.99.

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However, if you search on the site, you have an option for “highest priced” — and that shows you that you can charge more than $2.99.

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So which is it? Is there some sort of preferential treatment? I guess that’s what they meant when they said, “If you have an argument to charge more, please do so via email and we will review and if approved increase your rate.” What is a preferred “argument”? Or maybe TTM just can’t keep up with their own policy changes. In any case, it just does not inspire confidence.

Webchat rates:

All webchats are 25 cents for each message sent by the caller.

Does that mean you don’t get paid if you send a message back?

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Rates For Messages (which seems to cover Pay Per Views aka Pay To Views aka Store Items)

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You can charge a maximum of $2.00 for a message without any attachments. A message with attachments have a maximum of $5.00 per attachment.

Poor grammar aside, I don’t like the limits. Especially when the limits seem to think typed words have less value than recorded voices or images or whatever attachments are allowed. And I have no idea how many attachments are allowed per message. At least not at this point; I suppose I could continue to search and search… But if I have to work this hard, well, no thanks.

How much do you get paid?

Whatever the rates you can charge for TTM services, it’s still murky as to what percentage a PSO gets. As best as I can ascertain it is 50%. That’s based on this bit from the TTM FAQ regarding Direct Connect calls (which is apparently like dispatch calls, and participation is optional). Direct Connect rates are 99 cents per minute, and Talkers get 50 cents of that. But I still wasn’t sure if that “normal commission” rate meant half of the per minute rate, or if you just made 50 cents no matter what the per minute rate was…

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In further reading, I found more about Direct Connect calls.

You will receive your normal commission off of these 99 cent per minute calls ($0.50/min)

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(There too you find out about other programs, such as working for free on Talk-Chat lines. I suppose you can see this as a form of trolling; but I’m not a fan of talking for free. And not to someone calling a free chat line. They rarely cough-up the money to pay per minute.)

A few TTM Talkers have mentioned a 50-50 split before, so I’m guessing that’s true. At least for calls. But… Well, that’s not good enough. And I don’t just mean the split — I mean it’s not good enough for me to have to figure all this out for myself. Why can’t TTM just provide all that information up front?

Other things

The site plasters a 1-800 number for support; but all you’ll find there is a recording promising live help will arrive one day. Meanwhile, leave a message with your phone number and someone will get back to you. If you want anonymity, use the site’s contact form and keep your fingers crossed.

Also, when you are on the main page, category pages, etc., you are not able to right-click and open a profile or listing in a new tab or window — that makes for a lot of back & forth when searching. Not a cool idea of potential callers.

TalkToMe’s Unfair & Unethical Attack On NiteFlirt

Clearly trying to capitalize on NiteFlirt’s latest policy announcement , TalkToMe (TTM) sent an email alert of their own members, or at least to their PSOs (called “Talkers”), entitled Your Voice, Your Choice!

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[Normally, I modify the font -- but since they sent their email in comic sans (which is a much mocked and even hated font), I kinda felt like I needed to preserve it!]

Talkers, no one has the right to tell you how to make your money — not your phone company, not your customers and certainly not your billing & marketing service.

Adult Entertainment websites banning their “Flirts” from listing multiple links on their own personal websites and social media is UNFAIR and UNETHICAL. If these companies truly wanted their agents to succeed, they’d recognize every Talent’s right to promote themselves as they wish, and support their freedom to engage fully in social media. Companies who try to prohibit things like this are afraid of competition. We are not.  We believe in our site and our service. 

TalkToMe.com welcomes all Talkers, from every competing platform. Please try us and compare us! With over 20 solid years of experience in Adult Entertainment, we created our website with YOU in mind. We truly believe it is the best way to earn money talking on the phone — and we continue to customize our features according to Talker needs and preferences.

TalkToMe.com would NEVER ban our Talkers for listing with multiple companies, nor for promoting more than one listing in your personal accounts. To the competition, we say:  Bring it on!

For years now, there’s only been one decent option for independent Talkers — that’s never been good for an industry.  Whether it’s automobiles, airlines, or long distance service, giving consumers a choice has always led to better prices & better product. We’re confident we’ve created the next level in virtual, interactive Adult Entertainment (plus fantastic customer service), and we’re thrilled to welcome you to our adventure!

Don’t worry, we won’t try to tell you what you can & can’t put on your personal social media (we’re too busy integrating over a million high-traffic phone lines to spy on you anyway). Remember:  You deserve to make the most money possible, period. No matter how much traffic a company sends you, they have no right to mess with your ability to fill downtime.

Thank you being a TalkToMe.com Talker, we appreciate your efforts and wish you the best luck and the highest earnings no matter what website you’re on.

May the best platform win!

It’s fair — and often a great idea — to capitalize on a competitor’s weakness or exploit a competitor’s perceived weakness. But if you travel that path, you also expose yourself to risks. In other  words, you’d better do it right. And TTM did it wrong. All wrong.

Aside from reading more like a sales pitch to join TTM rather than an update for members, there are even bigger problems with this message. Let’s deal with the misleading and downright false information first.

False Statements TTM Makes About NF:

1) NiteFlirt is not “banning their ‘Flirts’ from listing multiple links on their own personal websites and social media.” Their policy is about links from NF’s site, phone sex operator profiles and listings, to personal websites and social media accounts. Lots of websites, phone sex platform sites included, have similar policies to prevent traffic leaks (as well as passing along SEO & PR juice) to competing companies.

2) TTM’s claim that NF is prohibiting PSOs from “listing with multiple companies” and “promoting more than one listing” is equally untrue. Even if NF wished for that, they have no control over such things. But they can, and are, taking steps to protect their members from leaving NF and taking their money to other companies.

3) NF is not trying to “tell you what you can & can’t put on your personal social media”; NF is merely stating their terms for what can & cannot be linked from their own site.

But there are even more problems with TTM’s email.

Along with misrepresenting their competitor’s weakness, TTM is also misrepresenting their own policies.

Facts About TTM’s Policies:

1) According to TTM’s own Talker Policy, “You will not use any banner advertisements or “pop up” windows or create or include links to sites which involve e-commerce, marketing, solicitation or sale of any items of any kind, whether related to or outside the scope of your Talker listing.”

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How many PSO websites, social profiles, blogs, etc., refrain from solicitation or marketing? Isn’t that rather the overall point of them? And even if you employ a very soft touch form of marketing, how many of us review and link to sex toys that are for sale — that’s ecommerce. And so are listings for competing sites and services.

Doesn’t it then seem rather appalling for TTM to say that “no one has the right to tell you how to make your money”?.

2) TTM’s policy also states that Talkers “will not place any link or other contact information on our Site to facilitate communication outside of our Site.”

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Any decent website or blog has a means of contact — be it a form or an email address listed. And any social media account has private chats, direct messaging, and the like. That’s the whole point of social media: To. Be. Social. To communicate. So, according to TTM’s own policy, Talkers may not link to their own social media accounts and personal websites.

So much for TTM recognizing “every Talent’s right to promote themselves as they wish, and support their freedom to engage fully in social media,” right?

3) The above rules, and many others, are all placed beneath TTM’s primary policy for their PSOs:

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1. In addition to the Terms and Conditions, you agree to comply with the following requirements in your use of our Site.
Without limiting any other remedies TalkToMe.com may have, TalkToMe.com may, in its sole discretion for any reason or for no reason and without notice, immediately modify or terminate your access to, membership in and use of the Site especially if you have violated any of the following requirements each of which you must agree to as a condition to your use of our Site

That means that breaking any of the other linking rules means you are in danger of being tossed or banned from the TTM platform.

Since TTM opted to not only use the words “unfair” and “unethical” but to type them in all caps too, it seems only fair and ethical to call them on their flagrant misrepresentation of NF’s policies and the denial of their own prohibiting policies.

And I have to ask them, “Just who is prohibiting things out of fear of the competition now?”

 

Is NiteFlirt Really Playing Fair With Their Latest Play Fair Linking Policy?

In the August edition of NiteFlirt‘s FlirtBuzz newsletter, there was an update regarding Play Fair, the phone sex platform’s department which enforces the NiteFlirt Member Agreement and NiteFlirt’s policies. Along with encouraging Flirts (& other members) to bully and report their fellow phone sex operators (as if more of that was actually needed!), the important part here really is about the linking policy.

Competitive Services

Your listings cannot contain links that connect to competing services in any way, even if the competing service is two clicks away (i.e., the page you link to cannot link to a page that links to a competitor). This includes your personal websites, your twitter pages, or any other page you are linked to, including “friends of” pages on your own personal websites. Watch out for this as it’s the major reason Play Fair will end up pulling listings down. Play Fair never wants to pull your listings for any reason at all. Please help them in staying vigilant and hopefully we can achieve this together!

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I’ll repeat it in bold: Your listings cannot contain links that connect to competing services in any way, even if the competing service is two clicks away (i.e., the page you link to cannot link to a page that links to a competitor). And, per NF’s polcies, “NiteFlirt considers the following to be competitive services: phone calls, Webcam, tributes/donations, recorded content, and content exchanged via email, such as photos.” Though at times it has been unclear if this competition is striclty alternatives for a specific Flirt (i.e. Flirt SuzieQ has linkage at her site to SuzieQ at NF and MPS) or if it is simply any other service period (i.e. Flirt SuzieQ has links to MPS girl MonicaMoans). Play Fair has taken action in both directions, which adds to the confusion.

In any case, this newsletter posting is quite different from the policies written on the NF site itself.

For example, the NF Social Media Policy states:

For Twitter, this means that you don’t mention or link to any pages that mention our competition in your Twitter bio.

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Here “our competition” would seem to mean any links to any phone sex, webcam, or other site that competes with NF in any way. And notice how the update in the August newsletter doesn’t state “bio” only, leaving that to mean anything on the Twitter page or feed.

And here’s the current (if even more meandering and ambiguous) NF policy about personal websites — which the new “two clicks” policy seems to easily refute (bold added by me for emphasis & easy comparison):

We do our best to allow Members freedom to run their own business while also enforcing our policies. We do not want to restrict Flirts, especially those with an established business outside of NiteFlirt, by not permitting them to do link exchanges and such on their personal sites. Therefore, we do not monitor banner ads on personal sites. However, banner ads to direct competitors will not be permitted. A site that only points to banners and does not provide any additional information about the Flirt will not be permitted. But as long as the banners are simply that – banners – and not other ways to contact or pay that Flirt, we allow it. Personal Websites is perhaps the most subjective policy we have and the hardest thing to regulate. We want you to point to your site to entice callers to call you, but we can’t allow Flirts to send our customers to their sites so they can be paid outside of NiteFlirt. It is true that a customer could come to NiteFlirt and find themselves on another site all together. This is true about most sites in the Adult Industry. If we were to prevent banner ads on personal sites, it would deter people from posting their personal sites which we feel often entices customers to place calls.

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While NF talks about how important it is for Flirts to gain the attention of potential callers, and stay connected with current clients, it’s pretty clear to me with this new policy that any links to any competition are perceived as a threat and reason enough for Play Fair to pull phone sex listings. With this “two clicks away” policy, even a Flirt replying to a client’s tweet could be costly — because who knows who else that client may tweet with or link to?

It really does beg the question, “Do they understand how social media and even the Internet itself works?”

The amount of policing involved in such a policy — as in policing one’s own listings and sites, not policing other PSOs — is so absurdly huge that in doing so who would have the time to be on the telephone serving callers?

NF itself skirts dangerously close to breaking their own rules. For example, the official NF blog recently covered the AutoBlow2 male masturbator and in doing so, linked to SuperCompressor‘s review. (A better review here, in case you are interested.)

While the SuperCompressor site does bandy the phrase “phone sex” about, they don’t seem to outright link to any phone sex services — even on the “vice” pages. I don’t suppose they accept any advertising from PSOs either; they only seem to go as far into “sex” with their advertising as “dating”. But, I don’t know, wouldn’t the Mixxxer app be a competing service? (I bet if you linked to it, it would be!) Anyway, SuperCompressor reviewed that app too.

Both SuperCompressor articles were written by Jeremy Glass — whose Twitter account is linked to from the articles (that would be link number two, in this “two clicks away” policy). Glass has over 1000 followers on his rather active Twitter account. The activity includes Twitter conversations with porn star Allie Haze who has 117K followers she converses with. …Pretty sure somewhere in those numbers of adult folks, there’s a link going to a phone sex site or a porn star with a phone sex service.

This isn’t a one time thing with NF’s blog either. Another example: At the end of July, the NF blog dished vibrator history, linking to this article at BroBible. BroBible also talks about phone sex, but seems to steer clear of such advertising. (Not that I asked; their demo is males aged 18- to 34-year-old — which is so not where the real money is in the phone sex business.) But again, they are having plenty of sex talk with their large number of Twitter followers (103K). Not to mention the fact that the folks behind the sex toys and other adult products, who may not necessarily be followers or the followed, do like to interact, retweet, share, etc. back & forth with the product reviewers and website social media accounts to make the most of a review or promotion. Surely there are PSOs in their midst.

All this only serves my point: Who wants to police all that? (Not me.) And just how many clicks away can you actually control anymore? (Answer: None.)

This “two clicks away” policy is why, those who have asked and read about this in the NF forums, the official NF Tumblr does not (and should not, in order to be compliant with it;s own policies) display (link to) the the other Tumblr blogs they follow or posts that they “heart” or “like” — because they do not want to have to police those links, where they are linking, etc. It would be a bitch.

Some argue that at least NF is allowing some links out. That, they say, is “more fair” than MPS and other phone sex platform sites which now have strict “no outbound links at all” policies. But is it really fair to allow phone sex operators to place outbound links when they have no power over the actions and links of who they are linking to — especially when NF has invited & encouraged users of the platform site to police and report one another?

Yes, yes, I get that the phone sex platform sites do not want independent PSOs leaking traffic to a competitor; and it is their right to put into place such policies and controls. But fundamentally, this NF policy is a “no outbound links” policy and the safest thing to do is to see it as such and behave accordingly. If only NF would state it thus, we’d have a lot less pulled listings and a lot less NF members policing of one another.

PSO Help: Dealing With Negative Feedback, Ratings &/or Reviews

After a few months of running the phone sex review site, some things have become quite clear: some phone sex operators don’t know how to properly handle less than glowing reviews.

Just as you can make the most of your positive reviews, you can make a real mess out of less than favorable reviews. In fact, you can make things even worse.

I’m sure you heard about the bakery who was featured on a TV show, how they received a bad review and had a complete meltdown and responded to the review by leaving incredibly insane comments. Thanks to word of mouth, that whole bad scene lives on in infamy; thanks to the Internet, it is perfectly preserved for anyone who Googles “company on cooking show freaks out” (which is exactly how I found that link to the story). Well, this can happen in any industry — including services such as phone sex.

More’s the pity, the whole PR (public relations) nightmare could have been avoided.

As a favor to these PSOs, I have not posted their incredibly ignorant replies. Yes, not posting their replies was doing them a favor. Those comments just make those phone sex operators look bad. And, I’m not about shaming them while ruining their businesses.

thumbs_down-bad feedbackI even took the time to tell most of them this information, but they didn’t seem to understand. Or care to learn. They just continued to rant in comments and emails to me. (And don’t think you can guess who wrote these comments either; shockingly, several of these comments came from PSOs who simply didn’t like one line or comment in a review that was rated 3 or higher! Yes, people tend to remember the negatives more than the positives, especially when it is about ourselves, but why, why, why would you go out of your way to attack something positive?!) However, I am hoping that you care to learn, so I am sharing some of these poor responses with you as lessons in what not to do should you receive negative feedback or reviews about your phone sex services.

Do not make fun of callers for “jerking off.” That’s rather the point of most phone sex isn’t it? Mocking masturbation just ensures you won’t get called.

Do not make fun of a caller’s phone sex fantasies. Even if a potential caller doesn’t share the reviewer’s fantasy, anyone considering using the services of a phone sex operator may already be worried that their fantasy is “fucked up” — if nothing else, you’ve just made sure they won’t call you. Not even the most masochistic submissives are interested in this sort of treatment. When they are reading reviews and feedback, looking at ratings, they are not in subspace or in a fantasy frame of mind; they are trying to evaluate and decide if they should invest their money and time with you.

Do not call people names or categorize them in order to insult them. For example, when you respond with “you sound like a old black man” you’ve not only just ensured old men, black men, and old black men won’t call you, but you’ve turned-off everyone else who is reading and offended by ageism, racism, etc. From How to Respond to a Negative Online Review:

It doesn’t pay to show a public display of anger when you receive negative press online, because, as [Jason] McDonald points out, your comments are on display for the world to see.

“Remember that you aren’t only talking to the person who gave you the bad review, you are talking to the dozens of other people who are reading your response,” he says. “You always want to take the high ground.”

Don’t post in haste or in a heated head-space. Statements like, “YOU DONT NO WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT”, whether auto-correct on your device is to blame or not, this reflects poorly on you. And all caps is just rude yelling. Too often people don’t stop and think — and instead create and escalate things into flaming wars. McDonald’s advice:

Can’t calm down? Take some time. You don’t need to respond right away. Talk to a friend about how you are feeling, go for a walk or engage in another work task to take your mind off of the review. Go back and respond when you feel calm and collected.

(See also How to Stop Overreacting.)

Remember, Sticks & stones may break your bones; and name-calling really hurts you.

Don’t threaten to “leave him a bad review.” First of all, you can’t. Poor reactions like these are precisely why sites like NiteFlirt and eBay have removed the option for PSOs and sellers, (respectively) to leave their own feedback or to reply to the feedback of others. And another reason why I won’t publish such comments at the review site. Secondly, are threats, carried out or not, the charming, welcoming things that invite others to give you a chance?

Do not make statements like “I’m not going to apologize because you didn’t enjoy our call.” Maybe you don’t need to apologize; I think maybe you do. Yes, it takes “two to tango” in phone sex. But you are one of those people. You bear responsibility — more than half, actually; for as the intimate service professional, you should know when things aren’t going well, when you are not well-suited to make this caller happy, and you should politely put an end to the call (perhaps, even, refer the caller to someone else). Take a cue from this article in Forbes, Why Negative Reviews Can Be Good For Business:

Respond to reviews in a proactive and polite manner. Always keep a polite and respectful tone when responding to reviews. Engage with customers diplomatically and try to resolve issues whenever you can. Respond publicly when possible to show everyone that you strive to keep your customers satisfied. Future reviewers may be more likely to behave politely when they’re assured that you read and respond to reviews.

Inc. also offers tips on this, saying you may not need to apologize, but that you should acknowledge the negative review:

[Acknowledge] (“I understand that your experience with us wasn’t what you wanted it to be”). Then take it offline to provide a resolution. (“Here’s how you can reach me directly. I’d like to understand your perspective more and work to resolve this to your satisfaction”). Thank people who leave a positive review and say you appreciate their time and business.

Dynamic Business notes that  research indicates that 20% of consumers that write negative reviews will become a brand loyal customer and another 30% will react by writing a positive review — if they receive a positive response from the business. They offer the following tips:

  1. Ensure your response is customer focused and avoid getting defensive, it comes across as insincere and uncaring

  2. Address each problem identified and try to provide a solution

  3. Offer to them a chance to get in touch with you privately either by email or phone

  4. Always be courteous and polite to the customer, apologise if necessary

  5. Give them a reason to try your product or service again eg. a deal or free trial

Don’t whine about how a review or feedback negatively affects your business, that you need the money, etc. Reviews are to help people interested in paying for a product or service. They are designed to save consumers time and money; they are not designed to make you money. If you were actually concerned about your business and income, you’d be constructively reading customer and client feedback for concerns to address, ways to improve. From Inc. again:

When many consumers think something is wrong with your business, there is. Period. And if you’re not responding, respectfully and effectively, online and offline, then these “Negative Nellies” will turn into your company’s death knell faster than you can say “one star.”

Do not cut & paste your feedback from a phone sex site, especially from a site like NiteFlirt which clearly states in their rules that such an action is in clear violation of TOS. By all means, feel free to mention that you have positive feedback, high ratings, fans or whatever. (Oh, and when you mention such things and say that it “speaks for itself,” stop there. That’s what that phrase “speaks for itself” means.)

Do not complain about a review being “posted without your permission”; no one needs permission to post a review or related materials. Besides, reviews matter, even bad ones.

In short, do not be attacking and rude. A potential caller reading such a comment will be far more put-off by what you are saying than whatever a review or rating says. Every comment and response you make helps a potential caller make a decision whether or not to call you.

The Problem With NiteFlirt Social Shouts

NiteFlirt has just launched Social Shouts, a way to “broadcast important NiteFlirt-related updates to your social media followers and customers.”

Simply link your social media profiles with your NiteFlirt account and select the events that will trigger posts, such as availability changes and new content additions! And you can customize your posts to make them uniquely you and more appealing to your customers.

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Once you set the feature up, it still isn’t a whole lot easier than just making the posts or tweets yourself — unless, of course, you stick with the pre-filled varieties NF offers, which cannot be edited. Out of ease or pure laziness, I guess a lot of Flirts are doing this anyway. Too many, because look at my recent dashboard action at Tumblr and Twitter, respectively. (Note: I am not trying to embarrass anyone, so I have removed any identifying information.)

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Enter the world of boring and annoying spam.

How in the world are you supposed to stand out — especially in an industry that’s supposed to be as personalized as phone sex — when you are literally saying the same thing as everyone else?!

Worse than that, using this automated interface misses out on some key points involved in using social media. I’m not going to give you an entire lesson on social media (not for free anyway; I may just write a white paper on it at some point), but I will tell you that automated, repetitive posts are the opposite of social.

And one more thing while I am feeling generous… In terms of effectiveness for your phone sex business, Social Shouts is missing a key feature: The use of hashtags.

While NF has built-in a hashtag to suit themselves, i.e. #NiteFlirt, this isn’t very helpful for you.

One, such a corporate hashtag is neither conversational nor impactful. It’s not like #NiteFlirt ever trends. While not very targeted, the generic #PhoneSex would be more helpful than this corporate hashtag. At the most basic level, if people already know about NF, they will be going to the site itself not Twitter, Tumblr, or Facebook. Unless, of course, they are talking about the site when it is down… But how does that help you as a PSO?

Two, while this NF hashtag may offer some benefits for NF, it does absolutely nothing to build your brand.

Think about your goals before you use this new feature.

At least this new feature is aptly named. “Social Shouts” is just that, shouting in places were people are. Try that at Wal-Mart or a rock concert and see what it gets you.

“Are there certain fetishes that pay better?”

The best thing in this interview with a phone sex operator is this quote:

Rule of thumb: fetishes pay better than vanilla. Vanilla (and female submission) don’t take a lot of brain power, presence or originality to pull off, but fetish and domination are best executed by someone who puts the effort into reading her customer and keeping it creative. Effort = money.

And, because it’s good to hear the advice and thoughts of others, you might want to check out 10 Things To Consider Before Taking A Job As A Phone Sex Operator — especially since this is about being a PSO working at/for a company, rather than being an independent PSO.

Phone Sex Operator Promo Opportunity

I was just contacted about a site that wants to feature some flash fiction erotica at their website. This is a great free opportunity for phone sex operators to get some exposure and links to their profiles, listings and websites/blogs. Contact me for details.

Getting Phone Sex Reviews & Making The Most Of Them

As promised, I’m back with some more details regarding the phone sex review website.

This is a free service. Yes, it is free to be reviewed. However, because Tom is just one man (who already has a long list of favorite PSOs), it is advised, though not required, that you offer him a few free minutes, a discounted rate, or other incentive for him to add you to his list of girls to call. This incentive neither guarantees a review nor guarantees a good review. All decisions regarding whether to review or not review are up to Tom Cat himself. And all reviews are, like a review of any product or service, based on Tom Cat’s honest evaluation of the phone sex services. Any incentive is just a courtesy.

Interested phone sex operators are encouraged to consider how well their services match Tom Cat’s desires, fantasies, and needs before submitting a request for a review. (Should your phone sex services not be a good match for Tom Cat, you may wish to consider sending one of your happy phone sex clients over to submit a review, and/or buy advertising at the site.)

Ideally, phone sex operators (especially those who receive a favorable review), will use the review to promote themselves in accordance with proper copyright use. In this case, that would be to quote from, or make mention of, the review by linking to the review itself. Additionally, PSOs who have been reviewed may download and display the appropriate rating badge, again linking to their review so that potential customers can read how they earned that rating. (Hotlinking is not allowed!)

At this time, the review site is NiteFlirt compliant as all the PSOs reviewed are from Tom Cat’s primary phone sex playground, NiteFlirt. However, this is subject to change as the review site grows and therefore phone sex operators worried about compliance with NF’s policies should consult Playfair to be certain such promotion with links to the site are acceptable. Ditto any PSOs working with other platform sites and phone sex companies. (It should be seen as any phone sex topsite that promotes phone sex operators from various sites and companies; but it is up to, you, the individual PSO, to verify that for yourself.)

Remember, there are other ways to promote yourself besides your profile pages and blog. You can use Twitter, Tumblr, and other forms of social media. And don’t forget to contact your callers directly to share the good news. (Sending the link in a message to your callers is a reminder to call, and they may share the review themselves via their own sites and social accounts!)

Remember, the purpose of Tom Cat’s Phone Sex Reviews is to help improve the phone sex industry: One, it helps phone sex callers find quality phone sex services, and, two, it provides free promotion for quality PSOs. Make the most of it!

News & Links Phone Sex Operators Can Use

Last week at Sex Kitten, Gracie interviewed Tom Cat about the new phone sex review website. It’s a great look not only at the man behind the site, but about phone sex mega users.

While you’re there, you may want to check out another one of Gracie’s articles, Of Feminism & Inequality In Porn & Sex Work. Yes, phone sex operators are sex workers. Beyond that, there may be some clear answers for those who wonder why there are so few opportunities for male PSOs to work with female callers.