So You Want To Be A PSO? What You Need To Know

The first thing you need to know about becoming a PSO isn’t what company to work for, how much money you can make with them, or even how to be an independent phone sex operator. No, what you need to know first is just what the actual work of the call itself entails.

Professional phone sex is a lot like phone sex you may have had with your lover — only it’s a lot more difficult.

For one thing, you won’t know your telephone lover.

I don’t just mean that in an emotional way, regarding your comfort level of being so intimate with a stranger; I mean this in a practical sense.

Even when you are providing niche services (i.e. foot fetish, Femme Domme, anal, etc.), you won’t know exactly what the caller wants. Think of any of your former lovers… Each had special spots to stroke — physically, emotionally, intellectually. You learned those pleasure points over time. And neither of you was being billed per minute for those lessons. (Just imagine just how much more awkward your first times would have been if the meter was running like that!)

This was the most difficult part for me in making the transition from in-the-flesh sex pro to oral mouth-piece.

When standing in the same room with a client, you had his body language to read… You could tell if he was aroused, intimidated, bored, scared, vulnerable, frustrated, unhappy with what was going on… But on the phone, those silences can all sound the same. Maybe he even hung up?! Even those little puffs of breath can mean multiple things! How can you tell he’s engaged in you and the phone call? You can’t exactly be the Verizon guy and continually ask, “Are you feelin’ me now?” You’ll annoy the hell out of him for sure.

What to do?

You’ll need to learn how to be engaging and “in character” while soliciting the information you need to make the call a good one. You’ll also need to be flexible and creative in terms of adjusting to new information as it comes in. In other words, you won’t just be laying there on your back while he does all the work; it’s the exact opposite, my dears.

Next there’s the matter of simply being on the phone.


Phone sex is not simply talking dirty while masturbating. (At least not until you have some regular clients who you know will be pleased with such a call.) No, a phone sex operator has the responsibility to use her voice to provide the entire scene… All the sights, sounds, smells, tastes, touches, and even emotional feelings, that you and your real world lover have memories to fill in by yourselves.

As a PSO, you are literally making up a fantasy at the ring of a telephone and, as it has to meet the specific needs of the unknown caller, you may have to rewrite and redirect it several times — and quickly yet as he could hang up at any moment to find another girl!

This is why I hate it when people use the term “phone actress” to describe the work of a PSO; we don’t just read or perform lines given to us. There is no script (other than that fantasy in the mind of the caller). Clearly we have to do our own writing, directing, editing, etc. as well as the acting. We make the whole film up, using only our voice, at the ring of a phone.

And when that call ends, we do it all over again.


Being a phone sex operator is tough work, requiring you to be an adaptive, erotic, artist.

And that’s before we even get to the subject matter itself.

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