Phone Sex Secrets Not Heard On GMA

It’s been very busy here since Monday’s Good Morning America segment on phone sex aired. Overall, the response has been as expected: a filled email inbox, a few new clients, some backlash from fearful-of-competition annoyed PSOs, a plethora of unintelligent and unkind comments at other sites, and sprinklings of supportive comments and posts too. I’m not the only one feeling the aftereffects of the media attention either.

As I mentioned, the phone sex operator willing to be seen on the television segment was Starr. She and I have been performing a post-mortem of sorts, talking about what did and did not happen — both on the show and after it aired.

The first thing we discussed was how fair we felt the piece was. Here’s Starr’s response:

The piece had the traditional “adult entertainment is sleazy” and “desperate times call for desperate measures” point of view. Aubrey helped with that. This work isn’t for everyone. She’s young and has a lot to learn. The interviews on the street showed some people with closed minds. It reminds me how glad I am that I am not one of them but it also made the piece more palatable and easier to hear for those who are. If we want mainstream to hear us we have to meet them halfway.

I was also disappointed at what they left out. During the interview I emphasized the importance of building relationships with clients, just as any businessperson would. I mentioned the importance of advertising, marketing and blogging. I talked about how a lot of callers are looking for simple companionship. I said that I feel a sense of personal satisfaction when I hear happiness in someone’s voice because they feel like they have made a connection. I talked about how much fun it is to be creative everyday. Building new skills (marketing) personal satisfaction (making connections) and creativity are important to me but there was no mention of those things.

(You can easily see why I love Starr so much!)

In my comments about what was left out (which will be more detailed in an upcoming post at Starr’s blog), I mentioned how both my husband and I were asked, several times in several ways, if phone sex was like prostitution. Here’s what Starr had to say about that:

When I was asked about comparing phone sex to prostitution, I said that when you are on the phone in the safety of your home it is a whole different thing from laying naked in bed having intercourse. I actually thought that might make it in because there was a loud vehicle passing by and they asked me to repeat my answer. I also talked about having years of experience in social work and how both occupations require active listening skills.

There’s more to come!

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