PSOs: Sisterhood Of The Traveling… Rants?

There’s been some response to the Good Morning America show segment which any new phone sex operator is likely, unhappily, going to have to deal with as she begins her new line of work. This stuff has always existed, but it’s more pronounced now due to the increase in interest in phone sex work.

In many PSO message boards and groups, there are actually threads and conversations going on right now that are devoted to expressing annoyance at the expected flood of new PSOs. Many of these topics are titled “Do NOT Help The Newbies.” Unfriendly, I know.

But you have to understand a few things…

First of all, phone sex operators, especially the independents sharing a platform site, consider themselves in competition with one another. To some extent this is a reality, and a natural, if unwelcoming, reaction. Truthfully, however, there are a large number of PSOs who spend more time attacking one another and jealously protecting their turf rather than zealously working their business. This isn’t just a “phone sex thing” or an example of “catty women,” either; you’ll find these types in any business, in any gender. But the result is that it makes it difficult for PSOs, especially new ones, to know who and what to trust.

That’s why I started this site.

Second, not all phone sex operators feel this way. Among the “don’t share” crowd there are PSOs who are happy to repay the help they once received by paying it forward with new women entering the field. While finding them may be difficult, exhausting, or even annoying, offending them is easy.

Why?

Too many new PSOs take for granted that the sisterhood of phone sex workers is there to help them. We don’t want to seem rude, most of us anyway, but let’s be real here. Who, in what industry, does someone teach or mentor you for free? So that you can go compete with them yet! Even in apprenticeships, the apprentice works for the employer, usually at a lower wage, helping build the mentor or master’s business while learning. There’s equity in that.

When you are asking an established PSO for free help, you are not only asking them to help start your business — a business which may directly, or indirectly, compete with their own — but you are asking them to give their valuable, paid by the minute, time for free. To take a loss, even. For whether you are asking for a simple tech tip or industry trade secrets, the time they take helping and mentoring you is time away from working their own business. And we all know it’s not “just one question,” it’s dozens of them. I try to address those questions here, as best I can in a general way, and that takes a lot of time by itself; imagine more people asking more questions, wanting each answer tailored to their own unique situation?

That’s why I started charging for my consultation services.

Remember, there is no other staff to run things and bring in money while an experienced PSO helps a new one; it’s just time and money given away, lost. Especially when a new PSO just up and quits, making the mentor feel as if she really wasted her time.

So if you ask, be respectful, be mindful, of what you are asking.  And understand why you may not get the big welcome to the sisterhood you’d hoped for.

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