Today’s Phone Sex Tip: Your Golden Ear

Of equal importance to your golden voice is your golden ear. In fact, listening may be even more important than talking.

You’ve probably heard the old saying, “God gave you two ears and one mouth, so you should listen twice as much as you speak.” I think that’s especially true in the phone sex industry. How do you know what story to spin, what buttons to push, if you don’t really know what a caller is interested in?

Working with any client, especially a new client, means not only listening to his needs, but drawing him out into conversation. You need to listen well so that you can analyze the information you receive. And possibly even more important is hearing what isn’t being said.

Is that pause of silence appreciative-thinking? Is it discomfort? Boredom? Is he masturbating? If he is masturbating, how far along is he? This is not as easy as it sounds — especially if the number of lovers you’ve had is low. (Men are as varied in vocal response as women are!)

At this point in my career, I can virtually hear a client blush, hear him flush — and know if his flush is arousal, discomfort, or an intoxicating mix of both. I’m not perfect, but, in gambling terms, I’m the house and the house almost always wins. *wink*

But those of you new to this business need to gain experience and build these skills.

For new PSOs, or those who fear their calls are not going as well (or as long) as they’d like, you can test as well as practice your listening skills: Make an effort to have conversations with anyone and everyone.

Take note of how strong your listening skills are. Are you interrupting? Do you do most of the talking or use questions and other ques to get the other person talking? When you ask questions, are you so sure of the answers that you check out of the conversation? Do you know how to make a shy, nervous, uncomfortable, or even an excited person participate in the conversation? Can you effectively lead or steer the conversation while keeping the other party engaged?

Trust me; if you can’t do these things talking about the weather or what someone’s day was like, it won’t be any easier to do when the subject is sex.

Make the effort to exercise your golden ear, and, whenever possible, ask others what they think of your conversational and listening skills. You can learn a lot — and improve your income — from perfecting these skills.

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