Today’s Phone Sex Tip: Addressing Professionalism In Paid Phone Sex Work

As a professional phone sex operator, there are specific rules of conduct. Many of these are spelled out for you in the terms of service of your contract, your agreement with phone sex platforms, payment processors, etc. But not all of them are.

Frankly, if you exercise the same caution you ought to in real life, in person and online, you’ll be fine. But some people lose sight of common sense when not being themselves; others, apparently, mistake the anonymity of hiding behind a character on the phone (or an ID online) as some sort of shield. Doing either puts yourself at risk.

You’ve no doubt heard the expression, “He has more dollars than sense.” But sometimes a PSO eager for dollars is willing to make such a trade. Don’t be one of them. Here are the basics of keeping yourself safe while handling your clients professionally.

Never give out any personal information which could lead the caller to identify you and never ask any information which could lead the caller to (even think) you are trying to identify them. Personal information includes names; company or work names; phone numbers; addresses; email addresses, chat, instant message, user IDs linked to “the real you”; banking information; passwords; etc.

When you blog or otherwise discuss clients, do not disclose their ID, share photos, etc. without their permission. Do not discuss other callers with other callers. There often are callers who get off hearing about your PSO work and other calls; it’s a form of voyeurism, or an easy way to get a fantasy idea. I can’t say “never do this” because, frankly, it’s fun and safe — as long as you are sure you are not betraying any confidences or identifying other callers by member name etc.. In other words, your fantasies can be shared in detail, but no details about your other clients themselves.

This may all seem like the dangers of strangers stuff you learned in elementary school, perhaps combined with a little Emily Post politeness. And it pretty much is. But the basics of safe and polite human interaction are tested in phone sex work.

Sometimes it’s because a caller just wants to know “the real you”, so he asks you questions and volunteers information about himself hoping his honestly encourages you to do the same. Other times it’s those proverbial few bad apples trying to do bad things. I like to err on the side of benevolent caution: He’s not trying to manipulate you into bad things; he’s been affected by the intimate nature of your companionship. In other words, it’s post-coital pillow-talk. (Even pushes for personal information at the start of your first call or contact can be post-coital; he may have masturbated to your profile, photos, etc. Or, he’s just trying to confirm for himself that what you say about yourself is true, so he can relax and get into the call — rather like a verbal massage.)

The best way to safely, politely, professionally handle these situations, i.e. keep safe while keeping a customer, is to stick to the cardinal ruleyour character’s story or profile. Making up those details, practicing saying them as responses (even if only out loud to yourself), and committing them to memory so that they drip from your mouth as easily as butter, will save your butt more than you know.

As for whatever information he shares with you, feel free to put it in your client notes if you think it will help you remember him or otherwise assist in a future call; then forget about it. (And remember, should his story change; don’t sweat it. Sometimes Usually they lie create their own fiction.)

However, there are situations in which his personal information is given to you specifically to use. This falls into the areas of blackmail, humiliation (NWS), and financial domination, specialized (complicated) areas which I will be getting into in depth as soon as I have enough time. For now, with so many new PSOs, I’d prefer to focus on how to professionally handle the safety issues.

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